cutieh Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 why do men like women that have a husband or boyfriend. Why don't they like the women that are single?
Ross PK Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 I've never prefered taken women over single ones. In fact I think I prefer single ones because you know they are available.
carhill Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Women who are attached are generally more friendly and at ease around men so it's natural that men will 'like' them. Anyone enjoys the company of friendly and outgoing people. I've had the experience of watching female friends go from happily attached to unhappily attached to single and back and again over the years (different friends) and see the changes in their personality and interactions with myself. Their relationship status can have an effect on how they interact with men, even male friends. If you want to experiment, get a cute CZ wedding ring and be outgoing and friendly with the men you meet. Report back
A O Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 why do men like women that have a husband or boyfriend. Why don't they like the women that are single? Some men will do this. I'm guessing that its an ego thing, they see the guy she's with and think to themselves, 'shucks, she can do better than that and I'll prove it'. .
b52s Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Women who are attached are generally more friendly and at ease around men so it's natural that men will 'like' them. Anyone enjoys the company of friendly and outgoing people. I've had the experience of watching female friends go from happily attached to unhappily attached to single and back and again over the years (different friends) and see the changes in their personality and interactions with myself. Their relationship status can have an effect on how they interact with men, even male friends. If you want to experiment, get a cute CZ wedding ring and be outgoing and friendly with the men you meet. Report back Yeah, theres' this woman that's rather flirty with guys and very bubbly ( kinda like Dolly Parton ), some of these men FAWN after her (well her male acquaintences) But apparently her current B/F is in Thailand, at least until he gets back to visit during Thanksgiving....I think these guys are stickin' around thinking this LDR Global relationship doesn't work out. I think some of them are BANKING on that. LOL
JohnP82 Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 We don't. If I'm chatting up a woman and she mentions that she has a boyfriend or husband I almost instantaneously check out of the conversation/ lose interest. I may continue the conversation but I'm already moving on mentally.
carhill Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 OP, you will also run across anomalies like myself who genuinely enjoy women, both attached and single, for who they are rather than the crapshoot of getting between their legs. I would say the vast majority of women I talk to (like on my recent trip overseas) are attached and I enjoy them thoroughly. The bring depth to my world. So do single women. So do men. That's what life is about. I want you to try my experiment, seriously, even if you just get a costume wedding band. Think like you're married and don't see each man as a potential sex-hound you have to fend off, but rather just another human being. Change *your* thinking and aura. Then, after awhile, take off the ring and continue the thought processes. Pretty cheap experiment I'll assume you understand the difference between being friendly and flirting. That's the first requisite of being married.
Kamille Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 (edited) why do men like women that have a husband or boyfriend. Why don't they like the women that are single? Cutieh. Are you the one who also started a thread about a guy your friend was supposed to set you up with? I don't think the problem is men. I think there could be a number of things going on. From, he's shy, to he doesn't feel you two click, to he'd rather be hitting on your friend (who has a bf). The one thing men really dig in a woman is: a woman who has a good head on her shoulders. Part of having a good head on your shoulders is picking your battles. Getting upset over this guy? Pffft, forget it. Not worth it. There are other guys. I do wonder, however, about your friendship. It sounds like there's a lack of respect there. I can't assess whether it's coming from you or from her? Do you trust her? Do you respect her? If you don't, then she shouldn't be your friend. Edited November 11, 2009 by Kamille
carhill Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Here's that thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t209247/
traderho Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 We don't. If I'm chatting up a woman and she mentions that she has a boyfriend or husband I almost instantaneously check out of the conversation/ lose interest. I may continue the conversation but I'm already moving on mentally. Same here.
Enema Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Men like women who are taken. or All the good women are taken.
Kamille Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Here's that thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t209247/ Wow. Okay, more context! Thanks Carhill. Here's another thread. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t209284/ Cutieh: not every man is going to be as into you as you would like them to be. People click or they don't. Let it go. Relax. This really isn't a big deal: we all get rejected sometime. Do something else. Right now. Stop thinking about this! Do something that will keep your mind off of this issue. What do you like to do to relax?
samspade Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 The assertion of this thread is unfounded. Men prefer the path of least resistance to an attractive female. Most men will not "compete" for a woman who is taken, as women frequently do for alpha males. A man might indulge in a "taken" female who makes herself extremely sexually available, however.
cognac Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 I don't understand all these elaborate psychological attempts to explain this. It's quite simple: women who are in relationships are attractive, whether physically or physically and personality-wise. Same thing is true for men who are always in relationships, it's because a lot of people are attracted to these people. If you are an obese woman with a lot of cats, it's not the fact that you're single that makes men not ask you out. If anything, we men find it difficult to find single women because it seems like every woman who is average-normal or good looking with a good personality, is rarely ever single.
Kamille Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 I'm reasonably attractive but the one thing I have going for me is my personality. I'm generally a happy easy-going person. I don't like drama and I try to treat everyone with respect. Whether they be ugly, taken, poor, rich, etc. I talk to everybody I can and I have lots of friends. As a result, I meet lots of guys. Some guys are really into me and some guys aren't. It isn't a big deal. We're all looking for different things in friends and partners anyway. Sometimes we click with some people more than others. So: I maintain my position: Men want a woman with a good head on her shoulders. Who knows how to take care of herself and how to care of others. A woman who has so much going for her that she doesn't need unnecessary drama. This issue here? It's unnecessary drama. Stop doing that Cutieh, and you will be much more cute.
carhill Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 If you are an obese woman with a lot of cats, it's not the fact that you're single that makes men not ask you out. OP, do you meet this description? Or, perhaps, as Kamille seems to infer, you're having some ego issues with one particular guy and the imbalance of interest. As a man who's been rejected many times in my long life, I can empathize with that. Your vagina does not immunize you from the human condition.
AD1980 Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 I don't understand all these elaborate psychological attempts to explain this. It's quite simple: women who are in relationships are attractive, whether physically or physically and personality-wise. Same thing is true for men who are always in relationships, it's because a lot of people are attracted to these people. If you are an obese woman with a lot of cats, it's not the fact that you're single that makes men not ask you out. If anything, we men find it difficult to find single women because it seems like every woman who is average-normal or good looking with a good personality, is rarely ever single. Not really..The couples you see eveyrday are just like the people by themslves you see everyday..Mostly average some are slighlty above or below average not too many hideous or gorgeous ones You act like every couple out there looks like a hallmark card..
b52s Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 I think sometimes, the reason this happens, is that dudes don't put MUCH stock in the security of relationships these days, because think it won't last...so they stick around flirting.
Kamille Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 I think sometimes, the reason this happens, is that dudes don't put MUCH stock in the security of relationships these days, because think it won't last...so they stick around flirting. Yeah well that's a crush. I have plenty of crushes on plenty of men. When I do find someone I really click with, however, I try to make things work with that person. Then it's a relationship. That involves being faithful and being good for each other - as well as communicating on how to be good to each other. It's really that simple. There's no need for gender conspiracy theories.
datingsucks Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 My god A THIRD THREAD about the mechanic??? Someone call the FBI
Jerry18 Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 (edited) why do men like women that have a husband or boyfriend. Why don't they like the women that are single? On average, taken women are hotter, smarter, sexier, and more likeable than single women. Why? Think of it like a filter. Women that are taken are like water that has gone through the filter. The filter probably filters out fat girls, psychotic ones, mean ones, gold-digging ones and etc. Your question is like asking why are filtered water more drinkable? Edited November 12, 2009 by Jerry18
datingsucks Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 On average, taken women are hotter, smarter, sexier, and more likeable than single women. Why? Think of it like a filter. Women that are taken are like water that has gone through the filter. The filter probably filters out fat girls, psychotic ones, mean ones, gold-digging ones and etc. Your question is like asking why are filtered water more drinkable? Natural selection - the best are already taken
carhill Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 (edited) Let me help.... The filter probably, maybe, sometimes, but not often enough for my taste filters out fat girls, psychotic ones, mean ones, gold-digging ones and etc. IME, and I've run the gamut of bi-polar, psychotic, alcoholic, unstable and just plain mean, 'taken' insures nothing but there's some regular guy she's banging. Edited November 12, 2009 by carhill
clv0116 Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I like to keep it simple and go for the available ones, but then most women are available if they're interested in you.
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