Author betamanlet Posted November 15, 2009 Author Share Posted November 15, 2009 I think that this is a screen name used by one of the insecure with their height guys. But that's just me. I've already stated, I like 'em from five feet seven to five feet ten. I don't believe I'm the only one who stated they don't have an issue with height. So obviously there are women out there who are willing to accept it, we just don't like the insecurity. So would you date a 5'5-5'6 guy? Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 So would you date a 5'5-5'6 guy? I have in the past, and we didn't break up over his height. Link to post Share on other sites
jalbertson Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 What these articles do not say is that the tendency to choose taller (for women) is more than just taller. That could be 1/2 an inch to a foot or more. And they say that men choose shorter under the same mindset. It still boils down to who they like among others. Take note that in the gender they choose, men are usually taller and women are usually shorter. Which came first the chicken or the egg? Your point is a little unclear, but it sounds like you mean that height is relative and women may only care that men are taller, but that the differential is otherwise unimportant. If you read the articles carefully, you'll see that's not true - childless men are 1.25" shorter than men with children, which is an absolute difference and not relative to women. Anecdotally, I've heard way more women rejecting shorter (or insufficiently tall) men than I've encountered shorter men refusing to date taller women. Guys may like smaller women, but not nearly as much as women like tall men. Link to post Share on other sites
mbeewood Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 Women want a tall man because those extra centimetres suggest he either has good genes or comes from a wealthy background, new research claims. Just like I said in another thread. Tall = good genes. Again, height has nothing to do with how "good" your genes are. That article was also very bad though. I find it hilarious they tried to account for womens huge preference of height by just saying it was "evolutionary." It is a bit evolutionary but for the most part it is social conditioning. Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny M Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 Again, height has nothing to do with how "good" your genes are. That article was also very bad though. I find it hilarious they tried to account for womens huge preference of height by just saying it was "evolutionary." It is a bit evolutionary but for the most part it is social conditioning. Keep living in denial. Link to post Share on other sites
mbeewood Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 Keep living in denial. Wait, now I remember you're just that troll. Link to post Share on other sites
PinkToes Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 I think it's an excellent idea, provided he never takes them off. Because if I saw that coming out of the shower, I'd be all over the guy. Link to post Share on other sites
mbeewood Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 I think it's an excellent idea, provided he never takes them off. Because if I saw that coming out of the shower, I'd be all over the guy. What?(10 chars) Link to post Share on other sites
PinkToes Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 What?(10 chars) The total look. Naked guy in cheesy shoes. Seems like a dream come true to me. Link to post Share on other sites
TaleSpin Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 Ha. This thread is silly. 5'9 isn't even that short. I date 5'9 guys and I'm 5'8. My last boyfriend was 6'5 and he was too tall really. He was just so much larger than me. I prefer 5'9 to 5'11. The guy I'm dating now is 5'10. A dude wearing "lifts" is just lame. Link to post Share on other sites
mbeewood Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 Ha. This thread is silly. 5'9 isn't even that short. I date 5'9 guys and I'm 5'8. My last boyfriend was 6'5 and he was too tall really. He was just so much larger than me. I prefer 5'9 to 5'11. The guy I'm dating now is 5'10. A dude wearing "lifts" is just lame. Seriously, I would kill a whole family to be 5'9 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 (edited) That's funny, because I'm not the one that holds against people what they have no control over. If a woman rejects you SOLELY because you're 5'8", either she's an ass or you're delusional. I'm betting on the latter. Like I said, if you're so terrified that your woman will leave you because there are, God forbid, taller men around, then go become a millionaire. You'd have no problem retaining the superficial women then. The second paragraph's 'you' was directed at all the men perpetually complaining about how unfair it is that women seem to like tall guys, and especially the guy saying he's afraid his woman might leave him for taller guys. Too lazy to scroll through 13 pages to find which guy it was, sorry. Edited November 15, 2009 by Elswyth Link to post Share on other sites
cognac Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 Hey Betamanlet I'm actually looking for some lifts and/or elevator shoes on my crappy college kid budget, so something under 60 bucks. I prefer lifts to put in my boots but I rememer a pair I had were a bit uncomfortable. They don't have to be anything spectacular, just some 2.5-3 inches for when I go out to the bar and get laid. Got any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
Sakakawea Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 This is basically the same as a woman wearing gel inserts to make her breasts bigger. False advertising, not a great way to start a relationship. You either get women who love you for your height, or a woman who loves you for you. I knew a girl who liked short guys cause she thought they were cute. Link to post Share on other sites
Rudderless Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 A dude wearing "lifts" is just lame. If it makes him feel more confident and his quality of life improves then it isn't lame in the slightest. Unfortunately, this guy seems really hung up on his height, so perhaps he'll feel a little happier with himself if he does something about it. People go under the knife all the time for similar reasons. Link to post Share on other sites
Rudderless Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 This is basically the same as a woman wearing gel inserts to make her breasts bigger. False advertising, not a great way to start a relationship. You either get women who love you for your height, or a woman who loves you for you. I knew a girl who liked short guys cause she thought they were cute. It just means he'll have to find a woman that loves him for his lifts. Link to post Share on other sites
cognac Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 You either get women who love you for your height, or a woman who loves you for you.[/Quote] I don't know why people keep repeating this advice. If it was as simple as that, we wouldn't even notice our height. I am not some idiot who blames my height for everything. If a taller guy is better than me at something , I'm not going to say the world is prejudiced against my height. However the one and only field where my height constantly comes up is in the dating and romance world. Even women who I thought accepted my height, were smarter than average, or didn't notice I was "short" and who are quite small themselves, will once in a while try to inject the topic of my height into conversation (I usually just ignore it, change the topic, or tell them if they have a problem with my height they are free to leave). The woman who I am kind of in a relationship with (although I think it's over now) who is 3 inches shorter than me would actually be embarrassed when I put my arm around her, she claimed I wasn't "tall enough" to do that. And this is a girl who accepts me and was virtually perfect in terms of compatibility, she isn't exactly some bomb shell diva herself. It matters to women. In my experience, it matters to all women, especially in the english speaking world. If you want to tell us tales about the 5'6 guy your friends set you up on a blind date with and who you never talked to again, we've heard it all before and it doesn't make us feel better or see you as any less shallow. Link to post Share on other sites
Author betamanlet Posted November 15, 2009 Author Share Posted November 15, 2009 Hey Betamanlet I'm actually looking for some lifts and/or elevator shoes on my crappy college kid budget, so something under 60 bucks. I prefer lifts to put in my boots but I rememer a pair I had were a bit uncomfortable. They don't have to be anything spectacular, just some 2.5-3 inches for when I go out to the bar and get laid. Got any suggestions? Are we allowed to post links here for commercial sites? I think I paid about $70 for my pair. Link to post Share on other sites
Author betamanlet Posted November 15, 2009 Author Share Posted November 15, 2009 This is basically the same as a woman wearing gel inserts to make her breasts bigger. False advertising, not a great way to start a relationship. You either get women who love you for your height, or a woman who loves you for you. I knew a girl who liked short guys cause she thought they were cute. It's completely socially acceptable for women to do that, or to wear makeup, or to wear high heels. It's socially acceptable for women to have plastic surgery. I cannot imagine if there were a topic here about if a guy got plastic surgery, how that would be some kind of deal breaker for just about every woman on here, even if THEY have had plastic surgery themselves. Puppies and kittens are cute. Men don't want to be cute. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 If it makes him feel more confident and his quality of life improves then it isn't lame in the slightest. Unfortunately, this guy seems really hung up on his height, so perhaps he'll feel a little happier with himself if he does something about it. People go under the knife all the time for similar reasons. That doesn't mean it's healthy to be so obsessed though. What will these guys do when the girl realizes he lied about his height and be turned off by the insecurity? In my experience, it matters to all women, especially in the english speaking world. If you want to tell us tales about the 5'6 guy your friends set you up on a blind date with and who you never talked to again, we've heard it all before and it doesn't make us feel better or see you as any less shallow. Wow... because in your experience you've been with all women right? Obviously you are unwilling to listen to anything but your own reality you created in your head. And trust me, I'm not trying to make you feel better. I'm just stating it how it is. I've dated shorter guys before. I like guys around 5 feet 7 inches to 5 feet 10 inches. That is my height preference. That's not all I base it on though either. Personality comes into play. If the guy lacks confidence and is insecure I'm immediately turned off. If I saw someone in lifts, I'd be turned off. Link to post Share on other sites
Rudderless Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 That doesn't mean it's healthy to be so obsessed though. What will these guys do when the girl realizes he lied about his height and be turned off by the insecurity? It's totally unhealthy to be obsessed, but if this patches up his totally negative view of himself for the moment, it might do him some good. The ideal is that he gets this ridiculous notion out of his head that his height is some kind of horrific disfiguring feature, but seeing as he has absolutely no clue that he even has a problem, it's probably better for him to do what ever he can to survive right now. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 It's totally unhealthy to be obsessed, but if this patches up his totally negative view of himself for the moment, it might do him some good. The ideal is that he gets this ridiculous notion out of his head that his height is some kind of horrific disfiguring feature, but seeing as he has absolutely no clue that he even has a problem, it's probably better for him to do what ever he can to survive right now. It could do two things.. A) Make him realize that 'lifts' don't change the reality of his height, and it's not going to make a girl like him any more, and get over it OR B) Become more obsessed with not being tall enough when he meets a woman who sees his insecurity and bails. He might feel okay for a bit, but reality is still reality, and those who are under a silly delusion that lifts will make it it all better will fall harder. Link to post Share on other sites
Rudderless Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 It could do two things.. A) Make him realize that 'lifts' don't change the reality of his height, and it's not going to make a girl like him any more, and get over it OR B) Become more obsessed with not being tall enough when he meets a woman who sees his insecurity and bails. He might feel okay for a bit, but reality is still reality, and those who are under a silly delusion that lifts will make it it all better will fall harder. Do you have the same view of boob jobs or just padded bras? Isn't that totally irrational but widely acceptable? Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 Do you have the same view of boob jobs or just padded bras? Isn't that totally irrational but widely acceptable? I wouldn't get a boob job, and I'm an a/b cub (it varies with with my weight). Honestly, I have a hard time finding bras that aren't padded. I go with the least padding. Generally were the padding is just on the bottom so it pushes them up, instead of adding on a bigger look. I'm okay with what I have. I used to be more insecure about it, but I got over it. I've been out with guys who are more of a 'boob man' and in the end, either they over looked that I had less in that area, or didn't find me as attraction. Either way, I was fine with what they chose, because I just want to be who I am. Link to post Share on other sites
DanielMadr Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 I have never thought the height is so important to guys. Now I understand why some proffessors and superiors tried to sabotage me and why so many guys seem to hate me for no reason. And why guys with beer balls try to push me in a pub for no obvious reason. I recall girls and friends tried to tell me .... "Ofcourse they hate you. Have you seen yourself lately?" and "You must have it really tough at school / work when you are taller than the professor/boss." Well, at least girls are wetting her panties when they see me. Everything has its price I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
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