b52s Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 There had been times where I had been out with friends....I went to a Halloween party with a lot of people I know...some are acquaintences and such. I have a guy dude I sometimes talk to at the events or online...we talk about women and dating. Well, there's this woman that I have seen several times at these house parties....and me and him are talking to her and her friend, and she's getting ready to leave, she kisses us both on the cheek goodbye. Another guy at the party also mentions that if she has' a Facebook acct....and she said yes, and point to her friend and says, "I'm on her friends list" Apparently you can trace people down through other friends of friends of friends. When I go home, I go to add her...it gets denied.....I do it a second time...it gets denied. I email my friend and ask him if he was able to add her to his friends list...and he said "Yeah she accepted, why?" And I go, "Hm, she didn't accept mines, lol" Just for the record he isn't dating her nor had any interest in her, in fact she's currently with a woman now. Any rate...I found that was a bit puzzling since she was rather friendly with me at the Halloween party, but didn't feel free to accept my Friends Request. That being said...what does a "Friend request" mean to you? To some, it means a marraige proposal or an act of romantic interest (like this said woman, she might have a "I wont add you unless you're cute" policy) Or do you just add anyone as long as you know them pretty well (from face to face activities and you have no real criteria unless you KNOW them to a CERTAIN extent?
crosswordfiend Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 It means nothing. Some people accept everyone and will request friends even if they have no intention of talking to the person again. Others will be even more selective on facebook than in real life.
SierraRose Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 It means nothing. Some people accept everyone and will request friends even if they have no intention of talking to the person again. Others will be even more selective on facebook than in real life. Social networking sites can be fun, but also very dangerous. As a woman, I procede with caution. I wouldn't take it personally.
Citizen Erased Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I only add people I actually know, no randoms.
justforfun Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 When I go home, I go to add her...it gets denied.....I do it a second time...it gets denied. Ermmm...I have to call you out on this nonsense post...bit of a problem with it, you see. You don't get 'denied' on Facebook. She declines your friend request and you never get notified.
carhill Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Would a dearth of acceptance be construed as a denial? Perhaps that's what the OP meant. Kinda like leaving a VM and the person never returning the call. Nothing is an answer, IMO. OP, better for women to accept date requests than friend requests. The discourse is more stimulating
Author b52s Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Would a dearth of acceptance be construed as a denial? Perhaps that's what the OP meant. Kinda like leaving a VM and the person never returning the call. Nothing is an answer, IMO. OP, better for women to accept date requests than friend requests. The discourse is more stimulating Well, actually, you can go through your list of friends....and the ones you requested say "Friend Request Pending" If those people don't accept and they just dissappear of that list, that means they denied it. IF you also go to their profile, you'll see the friends request button once again. Perhaps if the person doesn't figure out, they'll just keep thinking it's some "glitch" on Facebook and think, "Hm, the friends request didn't take, I'll do it again" Because the "add friend" button re-appears again.
carhill Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Does the request auto-delete at some point if not acted upon? On MS, they appear to stay forever. Social networking limbo
justforfun Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Well, actually, you can go through your list of friends....and the ones you requested say "Friend Request Pending" If those people don't accept and they just dissappear of that list, that means they denied it. Well, I never knew that. It used to be that the person never knew that you had denied them. Damn. Just realized a certain person denied me. That's it then...sod 'em!
Yukikazi Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I've setup different groups including "I don't know you yet" which is very restricted. Sure you get requersts from ppl you know.. but they may not be ppl you actually talk to.. so why should they get instant access to my whole profile when they don't know anything about me yet anyways? Thats where i put random invites and new ppl that I'm not really aquainted with yet.. You can use the lists to control who sees what.. i.e none of my friends have any need to see my family pics... Most of my old school friends have no need to see my current pics... Hell i don't even let the randoms and "I don't know you yets" see my friend list.. its none of their business yet who I am friends with..
justforfun Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Wow. That must take up an inordinate amount of time. I've setup different groups including "I don't know you yet" which is very restricted. Sure you get requersts from ppl you know.. but they may not be ppl you actually talk to.. so why should they get instant access to my whole profile when they don't know anything about me yet anyways? Thats where i put random invites and new ppl that I'm not really aquainted with yet.. You can use the lists to control who sees what.. i.e none of my friends have any need to see my family pics... Most of my old school friends have no need to see my current pics... Hell i don't even let the randoms and "I don't know you yets" see my friend list.. its none of their business yet who I am friends with..
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