AppleGirl Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 (edited) Scenario.....me, a nurse. My bf's ex wife, a call centre worker with a high school education. My bf's ex wife called up last night to tell us that she was dropping their kids off at my house. She said one of the kids was sick with fever and a cough and that was the end of the conversation. I was concerned because none of our children are vaccinated against H1N1 and these are the primary two symptoms. I asked my bf to call her back and ask for more info. How high of a fever, for how long, did she have chills, what type of cough, dry, productive, croupy? Was she bringing up anything with it? Have a sore throat, etc..... He called her back and she said that she hadn't even taken the child's temperature but that she had "felt warm and was coughing" and so she had been giving her Motrin. I mean, wtf??? How did she even REALLY know that she had a fever then???? "She felt warm" is a statement open to a lot of interpretation. Because of this, my bf and I agreed that he would take his children to his mother's house instead of getting all the other kids in our house sick. So, said child arrives at my door this morning and ex wifey poo tells my bf that "her fever has broken and she's better". He then lets this germy, coughing child into the house and I take one look at her and freak out because she is visibly ill. Pale, with dark circles under her eyes and coughing. My bf gets angry because he said I was being aggressive with the way I was talking. I call it my "nurse voice". He wanted his kids to stay at our house even though we had agreed that he would go to his mother's...and all because his idiot ex wife said their child was better, but my assessment is that she is not better but is still in fact quite ill. So, he leaves in a huff and lo and behold, they get to his mother's house and his kid is still sick, coughing her head off, fever of 103, etc, etc. I feel extremely angry that he would of taken his idiotic ex wife's word about the state of their child's illness when she didn't even take her temperature in the first place. How could she possibly have known that the fever broke if she didn't even know what it was in the first place??? Besides, I took one look at this kid and KNEW she was still raging with sickness. But he believed her before he believed me...and I'm a goddamn nurse!!! Am I wrong here? Or overreacting? I feel like my professional opinion as well as my common sense as a mother, myself, was completely dismissed in favour or his "call centre worker" ex wife. Edited November 11, 2009 by AppleGirl
justforfun Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Wow! You obviously look down on his ex-wife. What does her job have to do with anything? And as a nurse you know that the H1N1 is not the issue it's made out to be. Sure distracts from the health care debate though doesn't it. Anyway. What's the big deal. Would you quarantine one of your kids if they were sick just so that the others wouldn't get sick? It's his child and sick or well your door should always be open.
Fun2BMe Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Wow you need to take a chill pill!! If you don't want to deal with your boyfriend's children then do everyone a favor and break up with him. Big friggin deal that she thought her child had a fever without - gasp - taking her temperature. Most people don't even own a thermometer. You think you're all that just because you're a b-chy nurse and his ex-wife is a - for the millionth time - a call center girl. I can't believe you made him take the kids to his parents, or at least with the attitude you had attached to it. As a nurse why didn't you at least treat his kids? As a call center lady she probably couldn't take a day off to take them to the doctor and figured you'd check them out instead of throwing a fit. Maybe get your children vaccinated if you're so stressed out about them getting sick. Do you keep them home from school too because chances are there's a kid coughing at school too. You need to stop thinking you're so much better than his ex-wife because you don't act like it. You need to zip your "nurse voice."
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 The illness of the child has relatively little to do with this. COMMON SENSE implores you to treat any child of your live-in (??) boyfriend's as your own. Would you really ever consider throwing your own child out into the supposed care of somebody who isn't even related to you, particularly seeing as how you are a nurse? Why hasn't the dolt broken up with you yet? (oh, wait, sister is the call center worker with the inferior education, and he is cut from that sort of cloth too?)
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