FeelingLonely98 Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 I had called my STBXW's cousin 6-7 weeks ago. She never got back to me but called me a few days ago. She basically my 47 yr old STBXW is not visiting anyone in the family (Aunts, Uncles, cousins, ...) anymore. I gues she is ashamed that she left a good M and husband for an 18 yr old boy. This after her son told me the family is shunning her. I guess she gave her son a different story than the reality. Nevertheless, the cousin told me the family is on my side (I told her I didn't want anyone taking "sides".) and that everyone is upset at her. she says they support me and know that I always a great H and that even after 16 years they always how deeply I loved her. (Made me feel good in a way knowing that no one believes her story that I am to blame for the D.) Well, here's my dilemma. I love all of her side of the family. A LOT. They have been good to me for 16 years. I felt somewhat cheated that I am "losing" all of them because of my STBXW's selfish ways. The cousin told me that she wants to invite me to family functions when the STBXW is not there. I said ok, TY. In South Florida Christmas Eve is big in the latin community. I have always joined them in this celebration. I am not hispanic so my side of the family celebrates on Christmas Day - so no conflict. I will probably be alone Christmas eve. Also, my side of the family's Thanksgiving celebration usually ends at 6 pm or so - that's just how we always did it. I'll be alone Thanksgiving night and the STBXW's family usually celebrates 'til well past midnight. She'll probably invite me to both - if the STBXW is not going. What do you all think??? Is this something I need to stay away from? Is there I should or should not take her up on any invitations? Is it ok to remain in contact with them. Or bad news. Here is a big IF question now --> If the STBXW and I were ever to get back together in the future - Is socializing with her family now good or bad? Trust Me - I may wish we were back together again but I'm moving forward with the D and planning for life without her. TY for all your advice in advance! PEACE!
2.50 a gallon Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 FL98 Hispanic! Here in the southwest, holidays mean tamales and menudo. If you are talkling about homemade tamales, that is a most diffucult decision. Your friend Gallon
sumdude Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Whew, I dunno man.. that's a tough one. You need some time away from all of it to get your head together. Personally I haven't spoken to any of my exes family since a month after she split. What would we have to talk about? Do you really want to hang out with them and rehash all if this? They're miffed at her now but what about 6 months - year from now? They are her family after all. Up to you dude..
Chrome Barracuda Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 ...I think you should go, until the divorce is final consider them good friends and family. Who cares what the stbx thinks she's not invited now is she? lol.
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Thanks sd and CB- IDK what the F I will do. First - I wait to see if I am called. It would be nice to see 'em all. The STBXW has cheated me out of a big part of my life - her family. Eventually - when the 47 yr old STBXW and the 18 yr old piece of sh*t lowlife bf part ways, I guess she will revive her relationship with the family. Curious to see others' posts. TY
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 FL98 Hispanic! Here in the southwest, holidays mean tamales and menudo. If you are talkling about homemade tamales, that is a most diffucult decision. Your friend Gallon No tamales for the holidays in South FL gallon. Cuban Christmas Eve (called Noche Buena - which means "good night") means lots of roast pork (lechon), roast turkey, rice and black beans, yuca, ... ETC. (I'm getting hungry) Hmm, I'll go for the food!! jk - we'll see what happens.
floridapad Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Question for you brother... If you are remotely entertaining the thought of reconciliation with her why are you rushing so quickly to divorce?? I'm not iplying anything I'm just curious to know.7?
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Question for you brother... If you are remotely entertaining the thought of reconciliation with her why are you rushing so quickly to divorce?? I'm not iplying anything I'm just curious to know.7? See your PM.
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