Lollipop_Lilly Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Well, it happend two years ago... We fell in love and got together... We had a relationship that was full of respect, comunication, commitment, love... everything that makes a good relationship... Before that we were friends. When we started dating it was beautiful... We even created a small imaginary world just for us, talking about our future together, having long term plans... And it was beautiful until two week ago when he broke up with me. And he did it by phone... Evening before he called me and we talked about what are we going to do for weekend and he told me that he miss me... Tomorrow he broke up with me I asked him to see me that day, to talk about it. When I asked him why he did it, he answered me this "I'm not in love with you any more. It's just OK for me to be with you, it's not exciting like it was in the begining. I love you and you meen a lot to me, but I'm just not in love anymore. It would be a whole different thing if we are 10 yers older but now I'm young and I want to be in love." I have no idea what to do now, I miss him very much... Is there any chance for us to be together again, to make him fall in love with me again? Is there any use to even try it? He told me he want for us to be friends but should I belive in it? My bDay is for a month and I'm having a party, should I call him over? I'm sorry if I bored you but all of my "friends" are busy with college and they are not helpful at all...
Arabella Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 If you don't mind me asking, how old are you two? What he's going through is perfectly normal, but clearly he doesn't know that. The "newness" of a relationship that causes all the sparks and butterflies eventually fades away. This phase really only lasts about 3 to 6 months. After that, feelings evolve and calm down. It doesn't mean you are not "in love" anymore. In fact, this is when the real love grows and solidifies. It's just the normal course of a relationship. Sure, he can go and find somebody else if he wants to feel like that again, but eventually the same thing will happen. If he expects to be in that status of ecstatic love & butterflies always, he's in for a huge disappointment. Arabella
floods88 Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 i'm going through a similar situation... i think what he needs to do right now is to see what its like being single for a while, and then he'll either realise that he loves it or its nothing compared to what you had if what you had was special he'll come back.
Author Lollipop_Lilly Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Arabella : We are both 20... Floods88 : I really do hope so... I'm not good at being single..
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