Limbo21 Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 I'm on the verge of getting my ex back. She dumped me then sent numerous text, emails and calls to reconcile (my story is posted somewhere or other) My question is ... Do I tell her that I'm currently on anti depressants & sleeping tablets? I've a blood test tomorrow for my happy levels (or something like that) and can't eat or drink for 12hrs before so gotta go to bed early. She's bound to ask why? Do I lie or tell her the truth? I'm really unsure
dimeified Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 depends what kind of person you are, and how well you know her. If it was me and my ex who i've been with 2 and 1/2 years, i would tell the truth, i have no shame, and wouldnt care if she knew.
hopesndreams Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Why lie about anything? You want the second chance to be built on sand or a good foundation?
lilbelle Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 why would you feel like you can't tell her.... RED FLAG HERE!!!!
Arabella Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 My ex hid from me that he suffered from mental conditions which required medication (which he wasn't taking). I was livid when I found out he hadn't told me. It's not a big deal that you're on anti-depressants, but hiding it is not a productive way of getting a second shot at a relationship. Besides, if you do wind up together again, this is definitely something she should know. Arabella
kickintheaz Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I can understand why you may not want to tell her, thats what a depression can do to people. Don't listen to it, honesty is key in any relationship esp one thats in the throes of being reconiled. Tell her, she will appreciate it as she has to come back to this with eyes open, no deception, no lying, good chance at some point you won't need em anymore and if she truly does love you and reconciles she will be your biggest supporter in helping you get to that day...
HarmonyHope Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Honestly you should tell the truth. It's nothing to be ashamed of. If your ex wants you back I'm sure it's because she wants the real you, not some cooked up facade. Isn't that what you really want anyway - her to love you for you?
deux ex machina Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Please do tell her - the only chance you have for true intimacy and a real relationship is to be honest with each other.
Author Limbo21 Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 The reason i asked for your advice is the stigma attached to it but yes you're all right. I will tell her - I haven't said anything an I know she loves me and that I can/should be able to lean on her for support and kindness Thanks all
kickintheaz Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Limbo you''re doing the right thing and I wish you luck in getting through this phase in your life and getting off the meds real soon.. and of course with the reconciliation, u r one lucky son of a gun!!!!
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