hitman111 Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 My ex and I had a relationship for around a year which ended in jan. The reason for this was she had a child with someone else and the father wanted to get back with her. This made her feel guilty and she kept on thinking maybe it's best she gave him another chance for the babies sake. We ended up going round in circles as she was very confused, on one had she had a kid with him but was in love with me. I then told her to go back to him and give it another go she got angry and did, after a week she wanted to get back with me but didn't have the strength to break up with him. We went round in circles for a long time until we kept hurting each other, I said some nasty things to her and when i tried apologing she cut me of and changed her number. I haven't spoke to her for almost a year when out the blue she called me on monday, she said she's not angry anymore and wanted to see how i was but didn't want to meet. She's still with the guy but says it's not great but she's giving it a go and if it wern't for the kid she would be with me. She then called me on tuesday to wish me luck for my fight (i'm a boxer) and wanted to know if i wanted to go for a drink as friends, i said i wasn't sure. she invited me on facebook again and put on a pic of herself saying "smiling on the outside - crying on the inside" She is the love of my life and I think I may be hers but i don't want to get hurt again, Why do you think she wants to meet after so long, do you think there's a chance we could start again?
Limbo21 Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 That's a difficult one dude, who knows really. Guess it's a gamble Did you win your fight btw?
selena_cat Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 I say don't do it, fact is she had a child with this man,that to me even tho it wasn intentional was a big mistake on her part,why would i want someone back if they ran and coupled with someone else that quickly after a break-up or fight,or what have you..sorry she cant have her cake and eat it to,find a woman whose more available,loyal and someone whom you mesh well with,doesnt have to be perfect but whoever it is will definately be more better for you than than your ex. Hmm youre A boxer..Like Oscar de la Hoya? lol! if youre actually him,your ex will have a fight on her hands!
Author hitman111 Posted November 11, 2009 Author Posted November 11, 2009 She was with him before me and had the kid then i went out with her but then she went back to him, the kid never came after me! yeah i won my fight thanks, got another one next week though so trying to stay focused but shes on my mind again. yeah i'm a boxer like oscar de la hoya but no sorry i'm not him lol
selena_cat Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 (edited) Curious..Do your really want this girl back? and are you willing to accept her son as your own? maybe i have a slight prejudice against dating someone with kids..thats me,but you didn't say you had problems in the relationship with her? Is it really worth it? why dont you just really think about it..maybe after 6 fights.. As a professional boxer i'm sure there you have no shortages of female admirers,i say dont settle yet,just my opinion..btw,have you met Oscar de la Hoya? Edited November 11, 2009 by selena_cat
stace79 Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 My concern would be that she might try to start something with you at the same time as the baby's father... that's no good for anyone. She needs to make up her mind once and for all, but unfortunately I have been where you are hung up on a man who wanted me and an ex, and it was awful for years. Maybe you should just come out with it and say "look what's going on? if you just want a friend, don't call me anymore but if it's something else then you need to make up your mind and be done with it once and for all."
HeavenOrHell Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 It sounds like there might be a second chance for you two, but you need to TALK!
Author hitman111 Posted November 13, 2009 Author Posted November 13, 2009 i'm scared, she says just as friends, do you think she actually means friends or does she wanna see if there's something still there? i don't wanna go back to that place i was at before when i never knew what she wanted
selena_cat Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 the minute the ex starts singing the 'friend' song i'd run the other way,its either she wants to get back together or she doesnt friends=standby,backburner backburner-better than nothing option =friends with an ex
almostpassedit Posted November 25, 2009 Posted November 25, 2009 friends=standby,backburner backburner-better than nothing option =friends with an ex I agree with the above poster.
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