GirlGuest Posted December 10, 2003 Posted December 10, 2003 Definately, some people act different when they are in a crowd or around other people. True quality time is time together alone.
Author JackG Posted December 10, 2003 Author Posted December 10, 2003 just that she does not seem keen on spending time with me on our own. She gives me a grate deal of love/affection when with friends/family members, however she doesn't seem intrested in developing the relationship on a more personal level. When ever I ask her if she would like to spend time on our own, she says that she would rather see me alongside our friends. This is worrying me as it might not be the person i need to get to know, but don't want to force the issue so that she feels pressured or that hurts her feelings. Thanks: Jack.
jmargel Posted December 10, 2003 Posted December 10, 2003 If you were a woman, posting about this I would say your BF is treating you like a trophy. However, this could also be the case. She may also have problems or feel uncomfortable about being initimate alone. Perhaps something happened in her past that she needs to confront. Without that alone time, being able to bond is impossible to do. Alot of the times I would rather spend alone time w/ my gf than going out w/ friends of ours.
Author JackG Posted December 11, 2003 Author Posted December 11, 2003 it certainly is not my intention to make her feel like a trophy... Maybe I am rushing things and all that is needed is time, or maybe she doesn't feel as close to me as i do to her? I should point out that this is my first really 'serious' relationship ware i feel very strongly about her. Thanks: Jack.
jmargel Posted December 11, 2003 Posted December 11, 2003 How old are the two of ya? How long have you two been together? Its not common for one person's 'love' to be more than what another returns right away. It can be frustrating as I could imagine and not everyone can show their love the way their partner would like. I think you need to ask her where she sees you. As a boyfriend, a friend, etc. You deserve some honest answers. Perhaps she's afraid to get close to you for some reason. Its better to talk about it now then to wonder.
Author JackG Posted December 11, 2003 Author Posted December 11, 2003 we're both 18 and have been going out ruthly 1/2 months. Jack.
My2Cents Posted December 11, 2003 Posted December 11, 2003 She is obviously not ready yet to be that personal with you. How affectionate is she around people, kissed? hugs? Maybe to her it is just a freindship.
Author JackG Posted December 12, 2003 Author Posted December 12, 2003 yes she is quite affectionate around other friends... but i think that i get most of that affection. Jak.
jmargel Posted December 12, 2003 Posted December 12, 2003 2 weeks? wow.. Man, give it some time. Does she consider you a bf? Only way to find out is to ask her. Just because she gives you more attention than others when she's around them doesnt mean you two are bf/gf.
Author JackG Posted December 14, 2003 Author Posted December 14, 2003 good things come to those who wait... at least i sure hope so as she is very special to me. Jack.
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