tigressA Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 A few weeks ago I got back together with my most recent ex, who I'd dated for a year and 9 months before I split from him the first time. I was convinced it would work out because we'd talked so much about what happened, but there was one thing I hadn't thought about... The attraction. It just wasn't there. It had dried up a while before we'd actually broken up the first time but I thought it was just one aftereffect of what I was convinced was the real problem--lack of effective communication. I thought if the communication problem was fixed then everything else would be okay too, but it wasn't. Attraction is either there or it isn't. And it wasn't for me. So I ended it again. I know he's hurting a lot now, but I also know I did what was best for both of us by being honest and ending it for good before things became serious again. I'm severing all forms of contact this time--phone, instant messenger, Facebook; I'm deleting all my photos of him and us together, etc. This time it's done for good.
NopeNah Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Good for you and him. I went back and fourth twice after the initial breakup. It was never the same after the cheating. I felt her attraction for me was gone so, I ended it the final time for good. Some things are better left in the past.
boldjack Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Tigger, I know it seems hard now, but you and he will be much better off in the future. Go out , be with friends, throw your self into your studies, and you will be OK.
Author tigressA Posted November 11, 2009 Author Posted November 11, 2009 Thanks. I'm already feeling a lot better, believe it or not...I guess that's a sign that I did the right thing. I just felt so much pressure and like it wasn't fun at all. I told myself I wasn't going to force anything but I really had. I guess I'm such a good actress I even fooled myself... I'm smart enough to know there will be some hard days ahead and that I'll wonder, once again, if I've "really" done the right thing, but I'm glad to be moving forward instead of back. I do have a great support system here at school. Plus, one day--hopefully not too far away, I'll be able to once again have mindblowing sex.
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