CarbonCopy Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 I had an epiphany over the weekend that I no longer want to be angry or upset at my MM anymore. As I've shared on here, we attend mass together so most of the time I see him once a week. Since the breakup it's been awkward and unpleasant -- I would see him and not acknowledge him, stare angrily at him, or simply avoid him if possible. It hasn't been fun. But I was thinking about it and came to the realization that being so angry and upset at him doesn't change anything. It hasn't helped me feel better -- in fact, I think it makes it worse because I'm exerting more energy being angry and bitchy rather than just taking things as they come. Does this mean I'm "over it"? Nope, not in the least. There's still a long way to go before I can confidently say I'm over him and over all the hurt and pain that our affair caused. But sending him icy glances and running away from him are hardly the actions of a mature young adult. It's time to let it go -- and perhaps by doing so, it will make it easier to move on once and for all.
learnfrommymistakes Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Carbon Super, this is great. It is true, when you hold on to anger like a lifeline, it usually effects you more than the person you are angry with. Don't get me wrong, anger is useful, it can help you get emotions out that need to come out, but once you can be on the other side of it, you will grow and flourish, for you....!!! I am sorry for your pain, as well Pat yourself on the back, this is a great step, and feeling, I would think>>??? Yippie LFMM
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