sean1970 Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Just received news from my mom that my cousin just died... He had survived HIV/AIDS for 19 years... Guess who I almost called? I want to talk to her so much...
rickigal Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Let me first say that I am so sorry for your loss. It can be a reflex to want to turn to that person that we so confided in and looked to for support in the past. I have had things happen in my life that made me want to call him too. There is nothing wrong with that. The good thing is that you didn't go through with it. Sending you ((HUGS)).
Author sean1970 Posted November 11, 2009 Author Posted November 11, 2009 Let me first say that I am so sorry for your loss. It can be a reflex to want to turn to that person that we so confided in and looked to for support in the past. I have had things happen in my life that made me want to call him too. There is nothing wrong with that. The good thing is that you didn't go through with it. Sending you ((HUGS)). Emotional tennis right now... So hard to not think of her at this time... So hard to think she would help me either...
leap83 Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 Emotional tennis right now... So hard to not think of her at this time... So hard to think she would help me either... I'm sorry for your loss. Would talking with her help you? Listen. Recently I broke up with a guy and it wasn't a bad break-up (I did get hurt but it wasn't bad). One night, I felt like talking with him and I said "screw you NC" and I talked with him. It made me feel better because he understood where I was coming from. Now, I did that knowing that it might come back and bite me in the ass, but it didn't in my case. So my point is this: if you feel like she is the only person you can talk to about this, right now, then do whatever feels right. I don't believe in all-out NC though. So it's different for me.
Author sean1970 Posted November 11, 2009 Author Posted November 11, 2009 I'm sorry for your loss. Would talking with her help you? Listen. Recently I broke up with a guy and it wasn't a bad break-up (I did get hurt but it wasn't bad). One night, I felt like talking with him and I said "screw you NC" and I talked with him. It made me feel better because he understood where I was coming from. Now, I did that knowing that it might come back and bite me in the ass, but it didn't in my case. So my point is this: if you feel like she is the only person you can talk to about this, right now, then do whatever feels right. I don't believe in all-out NC though. So it's different for me. Problem is, she knows my sister is my best friend and we lean on each other... I'm afraid it would reek of an excuse. However, were it my sister that died, there is no way I could have avoided calling her... Thank you Leap... really...
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