kairi and sora Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Im in DESPERATE need of getting over my ONLY EX-GF!!! *a bit of a long read, thank you ahead of time for reading* **posted this in coping too, just wanted more insight ** okay so i dont knwo if anyone has read my previous posts, but i just got out of my first relationship, this girl was my first love, we'd known each other since 1st grade, were freshmen in college now, been best friends for 4 years, but went out a year ago, she was my first kiss, first time making love, first time doing everything. she told me i was perfect for her, and she was for me, that no guy has ever treated her as good as i have, that no one made her feel safe, loved, and wanted like i did to her. BUT then she cheated on me she blames it on me because we fought too much, and even though i never had the heart so say it to her, almost every fight was started by her because of her insecurities. she cried all the time, and when her mom and dad saw this, they blamed it on me, and grew to hate me so much i wasnt allowed to come over to their house anymore. im not trying to say im perfect, i know i messed up a lot of times, said things and did things i shouldnt have, but always took them back and apologized for the mean words i said. i did everything possible for this girl to make her happy, i dedicated every second of my life when we were together to making her happy and seeing her smile. shes with this other guy now, and AFTER everything that she said to me, and then she cheated on me, i feel like i can never trust another girl again :'( im afraid that ill never find someoen to share everything that i love doing with them, i love going to disneyland, i love just sitting back on the couch and watching a few movies with them, going to the beach, going anywhere in public together. im afraid taht the feeling of love will never be replaced in my heart, the feeling of love, and security, and warmth will never be given to me by anyone else. i thought we were perfect together. im not asking for a perfect girlfriend, i never have been or ever will consider just hookups or friends with benefits, i would much rather be in a mature relationship, i want to be able to trust someone again, but im afraid that if i ever give someoen else my heart that they will just nuture it for a few months and then rip it out and stomp on it. we were together for 10 months, but it felt more like 2 years, and thats what we always told everyone. i was so comfortable with this girl, even before we were going out, i liked her for THREE years before i asked her out. im afraid that no girl will be quite like her, share the same interests as me, or replace her in my heart :'( its been almost a month, but im still in love with her, and no matter how much my head tells me to let go, and find someone that i can trust and wont hurt me, my heart still believes taht shes the only one for me and the only one that i will ever fall head over heels for, the only one i will ever want to kiss or do anything with, and no matter what i do, how many friends i go out with, i CAN NOT GET HER OUT OF MY HEAD OR MY HEART!!!!! ANYONE out ther with some kind words, or some advice or words of wisdom, i really need it right now, ive jsut been deperssed for 3 weeks straight, stopped eating, stopped doing anything that reminded me of her, which is everything i used to love. PLEASE, someone with advice reply to this, im afraid ill either go mad or just keep getting more and more depressed if i dont talk to her, or get her out of my head, even though shes with someoen else and cheated on me, i want her back, even though i know that i shouldnt
WSeeker Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 English is not my mother tongue so excuse me if i write something wrong. Listen, man, its not the end of the world. My gf left me after 2 years of great relationship without any explanation and later i found she had another man enlisted. Just like that. She was also my first everything. I know how you feel believe me. Time will heal you, you just have to, be patient, disciplined, eat healthy and sleep well. Your life and happiness doesn't depend on her. You had a life before her and you will also have it after your break-up with her. You just need to give yourself some time to heal. I needed about 3 months to heal. I'm still thinking of my ex but not in the same way. There are no more emotions involved. I forgave her for what she did to me and talked to her about everything and moved on with my life. You should do the same but you need time to heal. Emotions don't last forever.
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