weltrav Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Had another rough morning today, couldn't sleep and kept thinking about her and the past, etc. She's with another guy now, I get that. She says she doesn't have feelings for me anymore, I get that too. I've been NC with her for over 2 weeks now. But right now I can't stop myself from feeling like a victim, which makes me feel so powerless and kills my self esteem. She has hurt me so much and I know she is going about her new fun life with a new guy while I am left behind picking up my shattered self. How does one get over feeling victimized?
Eisenhower Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 You're not alone, man - I'm in the same situation and it's been a month. Sometimes I think I'm getting better, then I'll get worse. All I can say is time is our only hope - you've got to hang in there and realize that as painful as it may be, time will make it easier. At some point, you will develop an interest in someone else (hard as that is to imagine now) and your feelings of pain will be replaced with feelings of excitement and looking forward to the future, not dreading it. Hang in there bud, Eisenhower
stace79 Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Isn't it so awful though? You think you love someone, and all you can think of is "I can barely breathe not talking to him/her right now -- how am I going to make it to tomorrow, or next week or even next month?" I think I'm just in denial right now. Or I just refuse to think about it. When I think about it, I feel like quitting life. I'm really sorry you're in this position. My release is exercise... that's about the only thing that can push it out of my head. Also, we let our exes make us victims. We do have a choice -- a difficult one obviously. We can continue letting our exes hold us down and back, or we can choose to work toward moving on. I hope things get better for you soon.
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