i was raped

[Dark_of_the_Moon]

Really....if people who do wrong are not punished, what will stop them from doing it again?

 

Its much easier to rob you than to have to get a day job and earn an honest living.

Where do you draw the line?

[Ariadne]

if people who do wrong are not punished, what will stop them from doing it again?

 

Punishment is for revenge for the people done wrong, it doesn't prevent anything.

[jlr]

If there was no consequences for stealing, or any crime, the rate of it would be much higher.

 

I have a feeling you'll change your mind on this at another point in your life...

[Ariadne]

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Edited November 17, 2009 by Ariadne

[exotic_angel]

CarrieT, My goodness, i'm sorry.

it's a slow, twisting process to finally pull your heart and soul back together again. there are moments wen i cant control the thoughts that come into my head and i'm most thankful that he didn't have sex with me. that's my single consolation. i really feel for u though. u give me hope somehow and i admire ur determination and willingness to heal and to help through the pain.

 

i don't want to go to the police because it's hard enough being judged and scrutinized based on my daily disposition which i am not apologetic about far more to be judged and scrutinized by a panel of strangers who would dissect those painful events, which i hope to forget.

 

he has dated many women, his confident arrogance seems to attract many. i rather deal with this on the inside and learn my lessons and move on rather than seek justice which would bring so many social consequences.

 

jlr ur advice is most practical. thank you.

 

my BFF had a fight with him last night because she suspects that he is sleeping with his ex gf. she cried all night, we talked all night.. i cudnt bring myself to tell her while she was in such a breakable phase.

 

she is finally seeing him for wat he is and tinking about all the tings that she always knew... this is getting somewhere.

[Ariadne]

my BFF had a fight with him last night

she is finally seeing him for wat he is and tinking about all the tings that she always knew... this is getting somewhere.

 

That's good.

 

And you'll find the right time to tell her, don't worry about it.

[jlr]

EA - He's the one who will be judged, not you. You did nothing wrong. Anyone who would judge YOU is worthless.

 

As for your friend, I know you don't want to tell her when she's in a breakable mood, but honestly - that's the best time. She's starting to realize he's a douche - seal the deal for her. Get her out of that relationship NOW!

 

Good luck.,

[exotic_angel]

UPDATE:

he's broken up wit my BFF.

and made very attempt to mend what is broken in terms of my feelings and wat happened.

in the months gone by he has made some drastic changes and said in ways and in actions that he regrets the pain he caused me and because of it he feels eternally awful and is making every effort to be a better man.

i don't hate him and somehow i am able to forgive him and understnad.

i know it seems twisted and now i wud expect many hateful responses but i'm thankful for the words of support and comfort that u all gave me and i thought i at least owed u an update.

tings r better and i'm learning about more love than hate from this.

[Tony]

...and the story ends on a positive note. It's great when that happens!!!