jcandelas Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I met Irma thru the internet where she claimed to search a "serious relationship." She contacted me by phone and we became intimate on our second date. Things are great with her, but she almost never answers or returns her phone calls. Even the emails get zero responses. She claims that by 6pm its late so I have called her before 5pm--and still no answer. Lastlv this past Wednsday we shared dinner and then at her invite drank a bottle of good wine at her home. She is wonderful to be around, very delightful, loving, and a good conversationist. I often massage her tired and aching feet. which she claims to enjoy a lot. We agreed to go out of town Sunday to a once a year only event--to view the fall colors at McKittrick Canyon at Guadalupe Mts. Nat'l Park near Carlbad, NM [it only lasts about two weeks]. Friday I phoned her before 5pm and hoped we could see a movie or spend an hour or two at her home or mine. She never answered any of her three phones [thats three dif. ph. #'s]. I even left at messages for her to retutn my calls. She had told me Wednesday about trouble with her phone company so I followed up with a breif e-mail, but all efforts had been ignored. She 59 and has been divorced for over 20 years. She claims to have had many relationships and "experencies: has thre sons ages 36 to 22 from two marriages. The 22 and his girlfriend live with her. She sells real estate and claims to be always very busy and fiercely independant and she never wants to feel obligated to anyone for anything. She needs a hip replacement bad, but does not want be out of work during the recovery. Question: why search for a serious relationship at all with such a "my way only" attitude? She still very attactive will have an easy time picking someone: I often feel she has had a promiscuous life style in the past, but could be ready to settledown to one man. I feel that it takes some effort and common courtesy to have and hold a "serious relationship" and so far only I have given my part. My dilemma and question to you all is, does she want me to just disappear or does she simply want more "space" but lacks the social grace to tell me in words that she is too busy or that she is trying some else that Friday. A simple call the next day would be great even if she just had a one night stand. Since we having been intimate on several occacions and have been introduced each other to family at gatherings and even agreed to be monogynous I assumed [wrongly perhaps] that we indeed have a blosoming relationship. So, do I humble myself again and call her. She has asked me from almost day one never to show up at her home without first calling for an ok. I realized she is trying to find the perfect suitor and needs to date many, but why lead me on? What do you say and suggest. We are both almost 60, succssful, and claim to be serious.
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