xxscarredxx Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 "All i want is to see you happy, even if its not me. I know we can't be together; I get that. All i want is you to be happy." That's all she kept saying. She disappears on me for over a month, and then ressurects right before Halloween (as she usually disappears and comes back right before a holiday/birthday), calls me up to meet for coffee, and that's all she kept saying, was, "I just want to see you happy". Then, she began to ask directly and indirectly in different contexts if I was seeing someone else. She'd then say, "You could just tell me that its none of my business." So if she knows that its none of her business, why did she bother to ask? Manipulation, maybe? We've been on/off for 3 years, and I've just had enough of her leaving when we hit a rocky situation in the relationship... so I'm guessing she's doing this all to see if she still has a chance with me?
t0ri Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 She may just sincerely wish you only happiness. She probably asked if you're seeing anyone because she was curious, and wants you to only have eyes for her, still. It's hard to say. I'd suggest taking it for what it is, and try not to read into it any further. If she wanted another chance, you would know.
Boundary Problem Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 "All i want is to see you happy, even if its not me. I know we can't be together; I get that. All i want is you to be happy." Manipulation, maybe? I've just had enough of her leaving when we hit a rocky situation in the relationship Manipulation? yes. Her actions are unsupportive of a healthy relationship. Her words - well. I sort of stopped at the actions part.
Author xxscarredxx Posted November 10, 2009 Author Posted November 10, 2009 i just needed that confirmation... thanx boundary
Boundary Problem Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 If you have a chance can you go to the Marriage forum- I put in a thread about men leading in a relationship. I've got to sort that out and maybe you have some advice for me on that. Everyone thinks it is a troll thread, but it is something I really need help with. Much appreciated. Boundary Problem
lilbelle Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I think she does want you to be happy. True love wishes happiness for the other. It probably helps her with closure to say these words aloud. I only want happiness for my ex. true happiness. I don't care to know about who he is with though as this is hurtful.
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