getbackwithex Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I saw an ex last night....I knew before hand that I would be seeing her and it stirred up a lot of different thoughts and emotions. I broke up with her and wanted her back in case you were wondering. I tried to remain in her life before, having limited contact for several months, a text or two here and there and it only prevented me from moving on. I finally said enough and was on three months of no contact. Those three months I saw an amazing transformation! Yes I thought about her often, thought about sending a note, but didn't (and it wasn't easy!). What happened was slowly forgetting about the past, forgiving myself, and focusing on the present, focusing on ME. And then I see her....my knees buckled, heart started pounding, but then after a few minutes.....nothing. I felt fine. I felt empowered! I was myself again! I didn't care if we even talked to each other! We did chat briefly. I admit it was really nice to talk to her again, but what surprised me the most, unlike the previous encounters when I was nervous or trying to impress her or something like that, I didn't have those feelings. I was just my usual self. IT'S THE GREATES FEELING IN THE WORLD!! Stay strong, don't break the silence! If/when you ever see an ex again you will one day have this same feeling.
Perhaps Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I must ask you, since I'm in a similar position... how did you get over the regret and guilt? I've thought myself half crazy trying to forgive myself for hurting her, and subsequently, myself.
Author getbackwithex Posted November 10, 2009 Author Posted November 10, 2009 Well, this might not make sense and might be bad advice to some, but I kept loving her. Even though she could care less about me I focused on the good things she taught me. For example, she is always a positive person and I took that quality about her and incorporated it into my own life. I know it's hard but day by day you will move on and let go. The regret and guilt will fade away. Honestly, I thought I'd be back to having those feelings again, so I am a little surprised myself. The confident person I am just came back unexpectedly.
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