floods88 Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 i've heard it being said on here that people find it more painful in the mornings when trying to cope. i find that when i wake up i think "okay lets get through today, things may seem better" and then being okay during the day and gradually feeling worse as the day goes on. does anyone else have this?
Tincup Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I think with each person it might be different. I am not a morning person in general so I have a harder time at night. Basically anytime your mind starts to wonder is probably the harder time. The worst time for me is when I wake up in the middle of the night and start to think, than I can't go back to sleep.
adamt Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 i found mornings hard in the first month or two. Initially it was waking up and for a second you forget you have broken up then you remember and it hits you and you feel it in the pit of your stomach. then it was 2 months of waking up at 5:30am every morning with my brain goign through everything in the relationship. Evenings were hard too, especially if you live alone. it was driving me crazy and the only way out was to get out of the house every night to break the evening up. What i did is joined the gym. I am in the habit of going to the gym for 2 hours so i rarely spend a full night in now. even after 5 months. the gym made a huge difference. i recommend it to anyone
HeavenOrHell Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I find the evenings worse, I can usually spend plenty of time out of the house in the daytime, but I'm alone most evenings.
AnthonyMalibu Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 I agree that the evenings are the worst. Early on you have lots to do, places to go, and things to preoccupy your thoughts. At night, your day is winding down, you're tired, and you want to unwind. In doing so, your mind is still going... and it goes back to thoughts of your ex. Try to plan some kind of relaxing activity for yourself before bed. Take up a hobby that you can do in front of the TV... something like that.
sean1970 Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Evenings are difficult. However, the hardest time for me is that state between sleep and awake. It may sound odd but it is a state where my mind races the most; where dream like images mix with reality. Wake with the sweats and rarely get (want) back to sleep. Really dreaded going to sleep knowing that was coming…. It used to be every eve at 2:30 am… Now it seems to happen at 5:30. I suppose that is progress…
Printer Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 10 months on and I still haven't had a full nights sleep. Nightimes are the worse for me. When I do kinda go to sleep my mind wanders and I end up having nightmares. I wake up with the shivers and all emotional. I would'nt wish this on anybody.
adamt Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 (edited) I feel for you printer, I would read just before hitting the pillow. so then atleast your imagination is on what you are reading rather than the ex. To help me through i would just physically tire myself out and read books at night. never stayed in all evening and still try ot get out most evenings. take up hobbies. i bumped into my ex for the first time in 5 months and it does kick things off again although generrally i have my emotions under control. going to the gym clears my head Edited November 10, 2009 by adamt
LuckyYou Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 When my ex and I first broke up mornings were the best part of the day for me. I got up, sat outside on the porch and enjoyed my coffee and the morning air. I always felt really good in the mornings for some reason. But once around 7pm hit was when I would start to feel really bad. I think it was because he was already at work when I woke up so I was already kind of use to waking up alone. But 7pm is when he came home from work so that's what made it hard. But it gets better It's been around 2 months sense we broke up, and now I'm becoming use to doing things on my own at night. I am actually starting to enjoy it
Msbrokenheart Posted November 11, 2009 Posted November 11, 2009 yea i agree nights are the worse, thats when i start thinking about what we had, what his up to with his new gf, what if this, what if that..its been 3 months now, and its getting alot better, making progression but still hard.. just keep moving forward and enjoy life as it is. I lately became a ebay addict, dont recommend it but im sure happier with alot of stuff i didnt buy when i was with him, but bought now for heaps cheap!
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