betamanlet Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Ladies, say if you had a guy you had no complaints about, that would be boring for you, right? Hence he would bore you and you wouldn't want to get rid of him, right?
Vertex Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I'm not a girl but I'm going to step in anyway I'd say absence of complaints doesn't always imply that someone is boring (which itself would be a complaint, would it not?). People who tend to find "complaint-worthy" traits to be "exciting" tend to be insecure on some level and/or unable to communicate without a lot of drama. But you can also be assertive and funloving and not be considered boring in absence of complaint.
A O Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Ladies, say if you had a guy you had no complaints about, that would be boring for you, right? Hence he would bore you and you wouldn't want to get rid of him, right? It would bore a women with low self-esteem for sure. Those types need constant drama in their lives. But for your well-adjusted high self-esteem women - this is pure heaven. .
Author betamanlet Posted November 9, 2009 Author Posted November 9, 2009 It would bore a women with low self-esteem for sure. Those types need constant drama in their lives. But for your well-adjusted high self-esteem women - this is pure heaven. . what % of women would you say have high self esteem?
A O Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 what % of women would you say have high self esteem? Excellent question - I don't know. I only know how to screen for them and against the other bunch. Have you got any idea? ,
Author betamanlet Posted November 9, 2009 Author Posted November 9, 2009 Excellent question - I don't know. I only know how to screen for them and against the other bunch. Have you got any idea? , I would have to say that the vast majority of women have very low self esteem. I'm thinking at least 80%.
A O Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I would have to say that the vast majority of women have very low self esteem. I'm thinking at least 80%. Can't argue against that. Oh, and what does ITT stand for may I ask? .
Author betamanlet Posted November 9, 2009 Author Posted November 9, 2009 Can't argue against that. Oh, and what does ITT stand for may I ask? . "in this thread"
Gypsy_Soul Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 No complaints at all what-so-ever??? Woooww! Where can I find that? Where is he? I want him now! LOL
BWLoca Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 No complaints at all what-so-ever??? Woooww! Where can I find that? Where is he? I want him now! LOL Really! I used to love the drama but have long since grown out of that.
Author betamanlet Posted November 10, 2009 Author Posted November 10, 2009 No complaints at all what-so-ever??? Woooww! Where can I find that? Where is he? I want him now! LOL Well, complaining about lack of drama.. That has been the complaints about me..
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Ladies, say if you had a guy you had no complaints about, that would be boring for you, right? Hence he would bore you and you wouldn't want to get rid of him, right? No. This is exactly the kind of man I am looking for. I'm DONE with drama kings, liars, narcissists, etc.
Buckeye Candy Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 Well, complaining about lack of drama.. That has been the complaints about me.. What kind of men are your exes with now, if you know?
meerkat stew Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 (edited) Totally depends on the frame of mind of the woman. Here's how to tell, and it has nothing to do with what they say. 1. If she is still going out 3+ nights a week, she is still subject to craving drama/excitement/attention regardless of the words that issue from her mouth. If she gets up early enough to not have to rush out the door every day, she is probably telling the truth. Getting up and productive early on weekends as a habit is a bonus. 2. If she is constantly texting and on the cellphone and it isn't work related, still drama-laden. If she turns her cellphone off or leaves it out in the car often when entering a restaurant or bar, maybe matured past drama. If she often leaves her phone in another part of the house and doesn't carry it around with her from room to room, super brownie points. 3. If she hasn't outgrown Sex and the City, definitely still drama regardless of what she claims otherwise. This one has proven accurate 100% of the time in my experience. 4. If she has 1-2 charities that she spends time on, not just buying or selling tickets to BS balls, but real time investment in the betterment of others' lives with little return benefit to her, she is likely past drama. These have served me well. Edited December 29, 2009 by meerkat stew
Lovelybird Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 I don't know if I would feel bored or not because I haven't been in a relationship for that long yet. I don't think there will be a man whom one woman doesn't have one complaint or two . But if one is in a stable relationship, he or she should not be lazy because of its stability, everyone should strive for growth emotionally and spiritually and many areas, and your growth will make you so much interesting today than yesterday. Laziness will bring boredom. And drama doesn't have to be excitement, growth can be exciting and charming. Watching those old loving couples, through all those years, they still love each other deeply, and like high school sweathearts who just fall in love, I don't think the bad treatment or drama feed their love, there is something else
Vertex Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 Ladies, say if you had a guy you had no complaints about, that would be boring for you, right? Hence he would bore you and you wouldn't want to get rid of him, right? This is a loaded question. A guy you'd have no complaints about would not be boring, as being boring is, in itself, worthy of complaint to some. People who are otherwise kindhearted, empathetic, and thoughtful individuals can still be boring. The guys who win the best of both worlds are the ones who are still kind and yet also possess a certain degree of passion or personality and confidence.
lofi_tokyo Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 This is a loaded question. A guy you'd have no complaints about would not be boring, as being boring is, in itself, worthy of complaint to some. People who are otherwise kindhearted, empathetic, and thoughtful individuals can still be boring. The guys who win the best of both worlds are the ones who are still kind and yet also possess a certain degree of passion or personality and confidence. Good answer. I'm 21, I volunteer, I leave my phone at home all the time and forget about it, I go out 3+ times a week and I don't really watch TV - but I like sex and the city. I'm also done my BA and am hopefully going on to a MA next fall. So by that one post... I fall somewhere in the middle? I hate drama in relationships. I'd rather be having fun in one. If I found my perfect man - with nothing to complain about - tomorrow? I'd point myself lucky and never let the guy go. Realistically though, I'm 21. I have some years of dating ahead of me until ill know what I want for sure.
sally4sara Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 What kind of men are your exes with now, if you know? He doesn't have any exes. This thread is a desperate attempt to believe he is "too nice" to be interesting to women. This is what? thread number 10? on this same subject and yes - it has gotten boring.
bayouboi Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 I don't like these nice guy threads, but I did want to point out something that I noticed in this thread. There were a couple posts above that basically read "I've outgrown the need for drama" which implies that when they were younger (and likely more physically attractive) they were attracted to the guys that brought the drama. Now that they are older (and likely less physically attractive relative to their younger selves and other young women), they've "outgrown the need for drama" which basically reads to me that they don't have that option anymore. It also shows that when guys like betamanlet say that "women don't like nice guys", what he really means is "the hot young women that I want to bone, don't like nice guys". So like I've told him before, there are women out there who he can get, he just doesn't want them because they aren't the young hotties he's pining for.
Author betamanlet Posted December 29, 2009 Author Posted December 29, 2009 wonder how many love letters he'll lget http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/entertainment/8433407.stm
MyNameIsJonas Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 If she is constantly texting and on the cellphone and it isn't work related, still drama-laden. If she turns her cellphone off or leaves it out in the car often when entering a restaurant or bar, maybe matured past drama. If she often leaves her phone in another part of the house and doesn't carry it around with her from room to room, super brownie points. Maybe you have different experiences than me, but I do not agree with this. I know a good amount of women who are very anti-drama, easy to get along with, well-adjusted, and so forth, who still text all of the time. The key is when they text; if they are out with a date or in a situation that requires their full attention, they stop. If not, they text to their heart's content. If she hasn't outgrown Sex and the City, definitely still drama regardless of what she claims otherwise. This one has proven accurate 100% of the time in my experience. Again, maybe you have different experiences than me, but I think you may be reading way too much into that. I know a number of women who watch the show for its entertainment value and nothing else. Correlation does prove causation.
MeganDoll Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 I love a passionate relationship with ups and downs:love:
Author betamanlet Posted December 29, 2009 Author Posted December 29, 2009 Meanwhile, nice guys die virgins.... http://www.tmz.com/2009/12/29/michael-lohan-lindsay-lohan-erin-muller-abuse-punch-kick-documents/ I"m curious, why are these guys so popular with women, and nice guys go years without a date?
phineas Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 I've never known a woman who couldn't find anything to complain about.
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