The constant lies

[grfins]

21 years. Ive rarely if if ever known my wife to lie to me until 8 or 9 months ago after she met a new guy at work. He worked his way into her life, then as a friend in mine and my sons. I thought he was an ok guy down on his luck so we helped him out a lot. I became suspicious 3 or 4 months ago but they always just said we are just really good friends and have a lot in common. I saw signs but i chose to ignore them and trust my wife. Two months ago she crushed my heart and said she needed time to find herself and her happiness and moved into an apartment. One month ago i found out the real truth that they have been decieving me and lying for at least 4 or 5 months. I played along after i knew but they didnt know i knew. whew I have gotten a good lawyer and PI and have all my evidence in order now. The pain and anguish was and is excruciating trying to play along with their game. They continue to tell ridiculas lies over and over and they cant even keep them straight anymore. The problem right now is that all i do is constantly think of conversations we have had over the last several months and how i have been tricked. The lies have been said and done are so hurtful and painful i cant sleep or eat and have lost 22 lbs in 2 months. Im only 160lbs now and thin. Hanging with my son, going out with friends, and working cant even come close to stopping my mind from always thinking about this. I still cry daily and almost cant control when i do. How can another person that loved me so much up until 8 months or so do this. I gave her a good life,security, safety, love, affection, attention and she wote me a letter 1 year ago telling me those things and how good a family of 3 we have. This parasite she is with has corrupted her mind so much so that she is in love and thinks he is prince charming. He has no money, sends what he has to his seperated wife and 2 kids and owns a $500 car. I dont get it. My wife is not even the same person anymore as she has no integrety, dignity, human decency, or feeling for the damage she is doing to my son and I. Ive come close to accepting the fact that are marriage is over but my mind can not shut it off