drivesmecrazy3 Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 So, as childish as it sounds, me and this girl have been going back and forth for about a year. I always make constant efforts to stop messaging her/talking to her, but so far, she has always ended up contacting me eventually. Most has been after maybe 5 days. Its been about 5 days since today, and still no contact. The thing thats really driving me crazy is I dont know if shes not contacting me because she found someone else, or if shes just purposly trying not to message me. But when i think about it, wouldnt she purposly contact me if she did have another guy? shes always been the type of girl to throw stuff in my face. I mean, the reason why i stopped talking to her days ago wass because she kept rambling on about how she thinks these other guy are "so sexy," but that no one wants her. (and she says no one wants her but meanwhile shut me down in the past) What do you think?
Thornton Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I take it you haven't actually been dating her, just messaging her? Maybe she sees you as a friend who she wants to hold onto, but not as a love interest? The fact that she talks about other guys to you suggests that she doesn't see you in that way. I have a friend who I sometimes message - he's actually really attractive and interesting, and I like him a lot as a person. But when we start chatting he always reveals parts of his character that put me off - he talks about drinking too much and sleeping around, complains about ill health and not earning enough money, tells me about girls he's dated/dating and objectifies them. So I then become disillusioned and stop talking to him. Then he emails me and says nice things that make him come across as sensitive, smart, etc - so we start chatting again and I think maybe I misjudged him. Then the cycle starts over - he objectifies women and generally makes himself sound like a bad prospect, so I lose interest yet again. I never stop contacting him completely because he is really funny and nice and good to talk to, but I sway between really fancying him and being put off by the red flags that he constantly portrays. What I'm trying to say is, could you be doing something similar with this girl? She likes you, but you keep putting her off and drawing her back, putting her off and drawing her back. It's something to consider anyway.
Thebob Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 So, as childish as it sounds, me and this girl have been going back and forth for about a year. I always make constant efforts to stop messaging her/talking to her, but so far, she has always ended up contacting me eventually. Most has been after maybe 5 days. Its been about 5 days since today, and still no contact. The thing thats really driving me crazy is I dont know if shes not contacting me because she found someone else, or if shes just purposly trying not to message me. But when i think about it, wouldnt she purposly contact me if she did have another guy? shes always been the type of girl to throw stuff in my face. I mean, the reason why i stopped talking to her days ago wass because she kept rambling on about how she thinks these other guy are "so sexy," but that no one wants her. (and she says no one wants her but meanwhile shut me down in the past) What do you think? Sounds like a freaking unhealthy relationship that you need to get out of? What is the point of being in a relationship then going out of one, then going back in to one. Move on and find a real girlfriend that will contact you on a regular basis and vice versa. Sorry for being harsh Thebob
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