TerryW Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Found e-mail from Facebook reactivating his account. He said that since I had made a page he was checking to see if he had deleated his old one. Said he didn't want to trigger me if I found his. Triggered anyway. Why couldn't he just have told me. I have control of it now. I guess I'll wait and see what comes through. I hate this stuff.
FreezorBurn Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Yes, I think divorce lawyers have stock in face book. I bet that one web sight has broken up thousands of marriages. Have fun in the eternal, Monitoring of your spouse (as I am). My wife is an extremely intelligent woman. I mean she is a genius and yet made very dumb mistakes when it came to deception.
2sure Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 It seems like , for people over 30, most of whom seem to be married... FB is an avenue almost exclusively to get back in touch with people from their youth. But with an excuse. The odds of this increase with the age of the posters. So many people here, denying their own mid life crisis...suddenly re-found their lost loves. Amazing isnt it? How if you look for trouble...you find it.
Spark1111 Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Pre-affair, I lived in this little bubble of marriages aren't perfect, but all the people I knew seemed to be relatively happy and devoted to each other. Naive, I know. Or just the reality I thought I lived. Post affair, it was as if blinders came off and I saw the world through newly jaded eyes: It is everywhere. From the workplace, to relationships, FB, reunion, classmates, vendors to the home, etc. I can't look at two work colleagues in what appears to be a harmless flirtation, and not assume the worst is yet to come. That is how my husband's affair started. If you are looking for an affair, you can have one pretty easily. So sad, and making it the more difficult to trust anyone at any time. I feel for you. The triggers are crazy.
tami-chan Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 It seems like , for people over 30, most of whom seem to be married... FB is an avenue almost exclusively to get back in touch with people from their youth. But with an excuse. The odds of this increase with the age of the posters. So many people here, denying their own mid life crisis...suddenly re-found their lost loves. Amazing isnt it? How if you look for trouble...you find it. nice pic, 2sure....did the gondolier sing you a song? how about them pigeons in piazza san marco, huh?... still the city is beautiful.. sorry t/j! ahhh....FB....if only to recapture one's youth....<sigh>
faithfulone Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I agree...here's my situation w/good ole' FB and my H. He had an account for about 6 months and never said anything. I didn't even know what FB was at the time. A single friend of mine mentioned that "everyone is on FB"....that lead me to investigate. Sure enough, put in the ole' hubby's name and up it pops! Well....I didn't know what to do, I looked at his friends 136!!! Both men and women friends...but a LOT of women. Looked to me that he went to high school with some..but others.....not really!! So....a month goes by and I finally ask him if he had an account, he said..."yeah, but I never use it"!! Wow!! I suppose 136 just found HIM!! Anyway, I go back a month later to to check and all of a sudden his "friends" are not longer available for viewing...hmmmm......I'd like some thoughts on that one. I haven't said anything about that but I know that I should....
FreezorBurn Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I agree...here's my situation w/good ole' FB and my H. He had an account for about 6 months and never said anything. I didn't even know what FB was at the time. A single friend of mine mentioned that "everyone is on FB"....that lead me to investigate. Sure enough, put in the ole' hubby's name and up it pops! Well....I didn't know what to do, I looked at his friends 136!!! Both men and women friends...but a LOT of women. Looked to me that he went to high school with some..but others.....not really!! So....a month goes by and I finally ask him if he had an account, he said..."yeah, but I never use it"!! Wow!! I suppose 136 just found HIM!! Anyway, I go back a month later to to check and all of a sudden his "friends" are not longer available for viewing...hmmmm......I'd like some thoughts on that one. I haven't said anything about that but I know that I should.... I'd say if you value your marrage. STOP IT TODAY! Do not waste anytime tell/Command/Demand his face book account closed. THERE IS NOTHING GOOD THAT CAN COME OUT OF FB FOR YOUR MARRAIGE.
Maybeitsjustme Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Pre-affair, I lived in this little bubble of marriages aren't perfect, but all the people I knew seemed to be relatively happy and devoted to each other. Naive, I know. Or just the reality I thought I lived. Post affair, it was as if blinders came off and I saw the world through newly jaded eyes: It is everywhere. From the workplace, to relationships, FB, reunion, classmates, vendors to the home, etc. I can't look at two work colleagues in what appears to be a harmless flirtation, and not assume the worst is yet to come. That is how my husband's affair started. If you are looking for an affair, you can have one pretty easily. So sad, and making it the more difficult to trust anyone at any time. I feel for you. The triggers are crazy. Couldn't agree more I had this realization when I got divorced a few years back, its a different world out there and i a way a little dissappointing a bit like when you're a kid and you look up to people and when you grow up you look at them in a completely different light and see personality traits that you just didn't see before.
Maybeitsjustme Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I agree...here's my situation w/good ole' FB and my H. He had an account for about 6 months and never said anything. I didn't even know what FB was at the time. A single friend of mine mentioned that "everyone is on FB"....that lead me to investigate. Sure enough, put in the ole' hubby's name and up it pops! Well....I didn't know what to do, I looked at his friends 136!!! Both men and women friends...but a LOT of women. Looked to me that he went to high school with some..but others.....not really!! So....a month goes by and I finally ask him if he had an account, he said..."yeah, but I never use it"!! Wow!! I suppose 136 just found HIM!! Anyway, I go back a month later to to check and all of a sudden his "friends" are not longer available for viewing...hmmmm......I'd like some thoughts on that one. I haven't said anything about that but I know that I should.... My neighbour came round ages ago ranting on about FB (and they did go on and on about it) I now found out my GF joint about 2 weeks later and it took me 18 months to discover this even thought we had discussed FB when reading articles in the press etcc she never mentioned it. when confronted it was well I only did it to chat to my old mates and I know you're a bit wary of netowrking sites, thinkg is all the pics were of just her cropped out me and my kids?! sorry but very suspicious indeed
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