floods88 Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 1 day into NC, nearly 2 weeks into break up. i cant bring myself to do ANYTHING but read stuff on here, think about him constantly and sleep. when is this part going to end?!
rp123 Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 The first few days of NC are about the hardest thing you will ever endure. After 7-10 days, you may move into a different range of emotions, but the pain will still be strong. Its tough. fact. But it may be just the right thing. Good luck, we are with you......
Taucher Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 floods88, it is only 2 weeks into the break up and 1 day NC. The bad news is that it will be a while yet before the worst of the pain is over. 2 weeks after a break up is very soon and you need to allow yourself to feel this pain. Almost everyone on this site has gone through it and some people still are. It was about a month for me before I felt even slightly better and now, nearly 6 months later, things have imrpoved a lot but I am no way over her OR the relationship we had. The good news is that you are starting NC quite early and I wish I had started NC just 2 weeks after she left me. As it turned out, I didnt go full NC until 3 and a half months after we split and this was no good for me at all. Hang in there. It WILL get better. T
caramel c Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Ok, listen, I KNOW you feel awful right now!! I was in your shoes about 4 months ago. It's torture. I'm not gonna lie, this part will last at least another week or so, and then it will only get a little better, and then it will get a LOT better...for now the best thing you can do is stay busy. There are a couple things I did that helped the time go by: I watched one ridiculously funny movie after another with my sister - they made me laugh and even though I STILL thought about my ex & the breakup even during these movies, I still managed to laugh and that was key. PLEASE whatever you do, do not just go home and mope around. Give yourself a half hour to do that at home, but make plans ahead of time with everybody. Fill up your week right now! If the people you know arent available for you in person during your free time, make plans to do things by yourself even if its just shopping or running errands or whatever. Stay busy!! This is going to hurt and I wish there was a way to take the pain away but unfortunately you have to feel it, so make the most of your time alright??
Author floods88 Posted November 9, 2009 Author Posted November 9, 2009 okay. thanks so much everyone. im still in that stage of hoping he'll text me at any moment and realise that he wants me back, but i'm trying really hard to think differently and accept that its over on his part. did any of you guys split after living together? did you feel as though you had to get used to knowing who you were all over again? is it normal to feel as though you had been living a complete lie?
caramel c Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I didnt live with him, but these thoughts are totally normal! You seem to be a decent good natured person with a heart made to love and of COURSE you will feel this way. It's natural.
Taucher Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 okay. thanks so much everyone. im still in that stage of hoping he'll text me at any moment and realise that he wants me back, but i'm trying really hard to think differently and accept that its over on his part. did any of you guys split after living together? did you feel as though you had to get used to knowing who you were all over again? is it normal to feel as though you had been living a complete lie? Yes, I lived with my ex for the two years before we split up. For me this added to the pain. She moved out of her flat to live with her parents who live 5 miles away. I had nowhere else to go so had to stay in the flat we shared together, on my own. When I was at work she would come around and take away more and more stuff. I stayed there for a month before I moved out myself. Just being in there with all the pictures and all the happy memories of our first day in the flat (best, most exciting day ever). And yes, nearly six months of being single and I still struggle with it. Being single feels weird. Sepnding time on my own in the evenings can feel very lonely. Also, I hardly know anyone who is single...all my best and oldest friends are at various stages of a relationship. Despite feeling a bit lost on my own, I dont feel able to have a new relationship and I dont feel able to do what is necessary to meet someone and flirt and ask them out and all that. I am not even sure how to do it. Despite all this, I feel that I am over the worse. The key thing for me was getting out of the flat I shared with my ex. T
Author floods88 Posted November 9, 2009 Author Posted November 9, 2009 Despite feeling a bit lost on my own, I dont feel able to have a new relationship and I dont feel able to do what is necessary to meet someone and flirt and ask them out and all that. I am not even sure how to do it. T I know how you feel. The thought of even being near another guy in that way at the moment is sickening and thinking of my future without him is really scary. Unfortunately I'm really not in a position to move out. We were both students and lived with my family because it was close to both our unis. I want to get my own place but i literally have no money. I read some of your previous posts and your story. I really feel for you and my situation is similar in a lot of ways, like the whole telling you she loved you an hour before she left... the day before it ended with us he left me a note before he left for uni saying that he loves me more than anything. its hard.
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