Ex's bday coming up

[Notsogood]

Hi guys, been a while since i've posted on here. Don't really have any questions or anything, guess I just need to vent so thanks for reading in advance.

 

So its be 5 months since the break up of my 5.5 year relationships now. We have been NC for pretty much 3 months now, except for small chat on facebook IM three times.

 

Thought I was doing well, but with the ex's bday coming up, I've been feeling a bit more down than usual lately. I guess I always thought to myself we would be back together by her bday wen we first broke up, so as the date nears, I feel the reality settling in.

 

In a way, this is a good thing. Other than the last few weeks, I have been doing quite well I think, but I know that I still have hope for this relationship deep down inside and as long as thats there, I don't think I can fully move on. Letting go completely is the hardest part though, but I know it must be done. My god, I still miss her though. My friends all say I seem much better now, but really inside, I have just learnt to live with the sadness I feel inside and can hide my emotions better now. Hopefully I can get out of this depression soon.

 

Anyway, enough ranting. Thanks for listening.

[DustySaltus]

I know what you are going through. My birthday was two weeks ago and her birthday is actually the day after mine. Although she has done so many nasty things to me and the end of our relationship you still think that you may get that phone call on your birthday. It's just something that can't really be explained to anyone else, you just miss that personal touch.

 

I didn't get the call on my birthday and I was hurt. I didn't really expect one, but it still hurt. Then came the thought of whether or not I should take the "high road" on her birthday, the next day. Well, I did absolutely nothing. It hurt just as much as the day before because I realized that things were really OVER. I think we are both fighters and we try to be heroes as well. But what I've realized is you can't save someone that doesn't want to be saved. We need to focus on ourselves and have faith that the person that was truly meant for us will one day walk into our life and we won't even remember this.

 

Don't contact her. Just post here on her birthday. Good Luck -D

[sean1970]

I know what you are going through. My birthday was two weeks ago and her birthday is actually the day after mine. Although she has done so many nasty things to me and the end of our relationship you still think that you may get that phone call on your birthday. It's just something that can't really be explained to anyone else, you just miss that personal touch.

 

I didn't get the call on my birthday and I was hurt. I didn't really expect one, but it still hurt. Then came the thought of whether or not I should take the "high road" on her birthday, the next day. Well, I did absolutely nothing. It hurt just as much as the day before because I realized that things were really OVER. I think we are both fighters and we try to be heroes as well. But what I've realized is you can't save someone that doesn't want to be saved. We need to focus on ourselves and have faith that the person that was truly meant for us will one day walk into our life and we won't even remember this.

 

Don't contact her. Just post here on her birthday. Good Luck -D

 

Almost exactly the same position to you, including the birthday proximity. Mine is the 30th of December, her's is Jan 11th. Would be hurt if I did not hear from her... The odd thing being, I would cheer her up when she would not hear from her sisters on hers. Still hate this shi*.