Thebob Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 So I found out a couple days ago my ex already has a new boyfriend... I'm honestly not that hurt at all, because I saw the kid and he honestly is the biggest deushbag that I have ever seen. He is a skinny, nerd lookin, most feminine guy I have seen in a long time. If she is happy with a guy like that, I deserve a girl 10X better than that. She told me she didn't want a BF for more than a year, but it happened in 2 months! This makes me never ever ever ever want to contact her again, and it actually pushes me away even farther. Of course there is a teeny sting knowing that she lied, but seeing the guy she is with now, decreases that sting immensely =).. All i know is that i had a sick time this weekend and got a ton of crazy pictures with girls that are amazing and my thought process of her was completely gone. I hope she see's these pics and realizes that i dont care about her anymore, and if she wants to treat most guys that she meets like she treated me and her previous ex, then she is confused and lost. She also messaged me a happy b-day, and i gave her a response that shows that I don't need her in my life anymore. Thanks LS for the help you have given me, and my neediness for her is pretty much gone, but I feel like I still have a teeny bit left of caring for my ex, but I think everyone has that once they moved on to a sense. But overall I would of had a difficult time if it wasn't for this site. THANKS EVERYONE! I didn't know that I could have reached this point back 2 months ago, but I have and it feels great. Time does heal you all, and I am a perfect example, I was a complete wreck back in the day, but now with 2 months NC i feel revitalized and ready to meet a new girl that treats me the way I treat them. Thanks again, luv you all Thebob
Odyssey Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 In a way i'm glad that you got to see your ex's true colours by her actions. Sometimes that is what it takes for us to completely let go of our ex. When there's absolutely no path left for us to take, it forces us to make our own way. Thebob, you have come a long way in moving on and by reaching the "point of no return" with your ex, i feel you will heal faster. It's all good from here on out.
twinklecat Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Trust me, nothing like finding out true colours of an ex to give you closure and move on. All my whining about the end of my relationship lately? Over. My Ex has been cheating on me with one of my best friends for the past year and a half, she has also been living with us since January, nice people! So it is a fantastic feeling that you know you can move on and do SO MUCH better than these people! Really happy for you
Author Thebob Posted November 9, 2009 Author Posted November 9, 2009 thanks all, like by her seeing these photos I took i'm sure she is like damn, he moved on quickly but I really dont care what she thinks. As long as that makes her happy treating other men like crap then ima move on and find someone who wants me for me and only me. She can honestly go suck it for now on and do what makes her happy. All i know is that I wont be around to wait for it =).. Now i look back and i realize red flags when I meet a women and what red flags aren't red flags. I think this whole process was a whole big lesson for me knowing what I want in a girl for real and not just for looks and what i "THINK" i want when i actually dont want that. Thanks all again Thebob
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