Author seraphim mom Posted November 18, 2009 Author Posted November 18, 2009 Its almost like he enjoys not having the responsibilities he had when we were together, and that he is perfectly happy only spending so much time with his child, and giving me a pitance for child support....like he enjoys going to nascar races, living the single life, eating out every night, buying new clothes all the time, and abandoning his family and the people who love him....well I hope he has a blast since soon he will realize how empty that life really is....
Steadfast Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 One day, one hour, one minute at a time dear one. Remember that we can't force someone to love us, and know the same love that thrills us when it arrives haunts us when it departs. If it is any consolation, real love does not leave, does not hurt and does not demand. So, hard as it may be to believe, it is very possible you are not really losing anything. You could be gaining. Your instinct is to be kind, but you must take control and get your power back. Do not allow his actions to control your emotions. Easier said than done but fight it. Try to forget you as 'wife' and focus on the *person* you are. Take the love, care and concern you are showing him and give it back to yourself. Be kind to you, be loving to you. Take care of you!
Author seraphim mom Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 So I'm confused....after like a week of lc, only talking to d about the baby and small talk, he texts me since he was gonna be late to pick up the baby, then he calls and we talk for like 20 min, then he comes by and wants to talk, so we talk for like a hour about south park and what's going on with his work....there is a huge gastro virus outbreak in the ait barracks, so yeah he has to tell me that....I'm just wondering y that after about a week he wants to like pretend that we are friends or something...does that mean he only wants me as a friend and not a wife or that he's just trying to see if I'm gonna flip out on him? Jeez louise
Author seraphim mom Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 I seriously think he is screwing with my head since I'm starting to realize he was already out of our marrige and looking for a excuse to legally get out of our marriage, no longer talking to him, total 180.....my head is all messed up.
Author seraphim mom Posted November 22, 2009 Author Posted November 22, 2009 Why do the WAS just not care that they have destroyed a family unit? Why do the WAS not realize that there are other people affected by them walking away? Like the spouse left behind and children left behind? Why do they seem uneffected and like they do not care, like life is better than ever now, that you were the reason why they were so unhappy and no matter what you did it never pleased them.....why do they continue to do things that they put ahead of their families? Why do they feel like they are the victims? Why?
Jackie-Jhonson Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 If you've been raped and he refuses to understand it, he is dumb (sorry, couldn't hold it). Maybe in a such complicated situation you need a proffessional counseling..
Author seraphim mom Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 I have been seeing a therapist since about the middle of august, and I am currently taking anti depressants....ehhhh I just miss him a lot and the holidays makes all this suck since he is my only family out here....
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