amtz Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Hi all, Today after 3 weeks in NC with my EX and doing fine I felt lonely again!!! I just feel I cant continue with this crap!!! I'm afraid I wont love again the way I loved her (after 2 1/2 years of being single I found her) and what scares me the most is that I just wont fine no one else for me... I know that life goes on and that sooner or later I will find someone for me, but no one catches my attention aside from just physical attraction and at this point I need more than just that, in fact no matter how hot is someone I cant even get hard!!! Two weeks ago I tried to get laid with a chick that really wanted me, but I simply started crying since I was thinking of my EX:( Has anyone gone through this?? Any advise please I just cant keep with this anymore I feel like not wanting to move on, like if something is missing in my life!!! I also have put thought on medication but I simply want to get over this with will power. Any words will be greatly appreciated!! Thanks for reading
kairi and sora Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 hey dude i know exactly how u feel. i had known this girl my whole life, been best friends for years, and finally started dating, went almost a whole year together, and she left me 2 weeks ago. this whole time, i have not been able to get her off my mind, everything i do reminds me of her, ive cried myself to sleep god knows how many times, and every bone in my body yearns for her company and safety that i once felt. just wanted to reach out and let you know that you're not alone, there are others like you out here. and were willing to talk to you. you have a sanctuary here, where you can express your feelings and get insight from people who have been through the same thigns that you have been through. let it all out. chances are, youll make a friend.
GrayClouds Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Hi all, Today after 3 weeks in NC with my EX and doing fine I felt lonely again!!! I just feel I cant continue with this crap!!! I'm afraid I wont love again the way I loved her (after 2 1/2 years of being single I found her) and what scares me the most is that I just wont fine no one else for me... I know that life goes on and that sooner or later I will find someone for me, but no one catches my attention aside from just physical attraction and at this point I need more than just that, in fact no matter how hot is someone I cant even get hard!!! Two weeks ago I tried to get laid with a chick that really wanted me, but I simply started crying since I was thinking of my EX:( Has anyone gone through this?? Any advise please I just cant keep with this anymore I feel like not wanting to move on, like if something is missing in my life!!! I also have put thought on medication but I simply want to get over this with will power. Any words will be greatly appreciated!! Thanks for reading You know why you feel this way? Because your going through a break up. It is natural. Leave the women alone until your over your ex. You couldn't get hard because your mind is trying to tell you your not ready for that crap yet. You looking for a quick replacement but you should be focusing on yourself and making yourself a better you. Try doing some healthy things to heal...(here I go again) exercises, hanging with friends and family, read some helpful books, eat healthy, journal find a new hobby you always wanted to try, take a class, ect.
Author amtz Posted November 9, 2009 Author Posted November 9, 2009 (edited) Thanks folks!!! This place is really helping me more than expressing my self with family or friends which I may add have been very caring!!! But some how knowing that I'm not the only one going through this makes me feel calm for moments... I know all the... "What did I do wrong?" "why me?" "will she come back?" questions will sees, but at the moment I feel near a collapse!!! Any how knowing that I'm not alone even though many of you live way far from me or that we probably will never meet in person helps a whole lot!!! I will pray for you all... If it wasn't for this place and you all fine people I would most likely be more than wrecked!!! Wish you the best and may our hearts heel and recover soon!! CHEERS Edited November 9, 2009 by amtz
Lucy Loverheart Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 i am so sorry to hear your having a difficult time coping with your break up. don't run before you can walk my friend. a lesson i learned the hard way. i recently finished with someone and instead of taking time to nurture myself, repair, focus on myself, regain my confidence etc i went straight back out there, had some crazy nights and slept with some unsuitable people. it was soul desstroying and ultimately it sets you back. we can kid ourselves initially into thinking "oh yeah - i'm cool - i'm getting over this!" and get drunk and go out with our friends and pull but time is needed. i met a boy recently who i thought seemed really nice and went on a few dates and selpt with him. he turned out to be a liar and a jerk and never got back to me after we had sex and it floored me. whereas usually i'd have thought "oh well - you win, some you lose some and i could do so much better," i took it to heart and was very emotional and upset thus proving how vulnerable and fragile i was/still am over this. i don't want you to put yourself through the same pain. and remember it's not a competition with your ex to see who has moved on or a case of catch up with new partners. this is all about your experience and recovery not hers. and i understand why you had problems getting hard - all my post break up sex has been wretched - i've felt like an empty shell lying there wishing it over as quickly as it begun. i hope you're feeling better soon - go easy on yourself - you seem like a lovely guy.
photobooth Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 amtz - Whats the update on your current situation? are you two in contact at all or what?
Author amtz Posted November 14, 2009 Author Posted November 14, 2009 Thanks folks for you kind words, I'm taking it one day at a time knowing that tomorrow I will be better and day by day the pain is going away... I eat 2-3 times a day now comparing to 1 or no meal a day, smoke less, sleep more and left my sexual alpha male attitude aside.. This may sound funny or silly but at least I'm starting to get erections comparing to none days back... Its not like I care much, but for me it is clearly a sing that I'm getting over this a day at a time!! As far as contacting her NOT a single word, mail, text etc. I'm a strong believer in NC plus why would I contact her if I didn't choose to brake-up, in fact I wanted to move on but she ended the relation with out any real reason (never cheated on her, abused her or crap similar to it, PLAIN SIMPLE LOVE). I did chat yesterday with her sister very brief (5 minutes at the most) and we didn't talk about me & her sister as I'm pretty sure in her story I'm the bad guy. Days ago I found out about a thing or two about her, which to be honest opened my eyes and made me feel a better person knowing I'm acting mature while she is going out saying things and acting crazy. As they say... "Check yourself before you wreck yourself" Once again thanks for your responses sure enough they helped me a lot! Will pray for you
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