Boundary Problem Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 For those who don't remember my back story - I was married for 7 yrs to what turned out to be likely a gay guy. Anyways, 7 yrs of no sex and I couldn't take it anymore and now we're happily divorced. So I'm starting to date again. But my relationship experience is being with a gay guy. And I'm dating straight men now. Here is my question - How do straight men expect to LEAD when in a long term relationship with a woman? I'm going to have to adjust how I interact with a partner. Can you give me a roadmap of what to expect? In what ways am I going to have to learn how to defer, since I want a balanced and healthy relationship. I'm female by the way. And I want my future partner to be happy without me becoming a doormat.
JL911 Posted November 10, 2009 Posted November 10, 2009 Ok...Ill bite here...This can work a bunch of different ways as men well we are unique creatures. Me personally, I'm all about a healthy balanced relationship where I feel no pressure and put no pressure on the girl I am with. I like my "ME time" and enjoy participating in manly activities, hunting, fishing, drinking, acting like an ******* with friends...However, I have this other side of me that is very loving, thoughtful, very caring, and very loyal, but not in a wuss like way. I have no problem showin my girl I care. I take on my relationship as growing healthy with one another and finding things I like to do with my lady. I enjoy having fun. Sex is always on that list, but if all you do is have sex, well it eventually becomes boring (yea...it will). Sometimes I'll suggest things to do, other times she will suggest things to do. Other men tend take the high road or the low road without even really noticing. They either try to dominate the relationship and control a person, or they become very submissive and do whatever you would like thinking that will keep you happy. Its really all what you want. It is good in my opinion to have your own life and your gf have hers as well. Its good to have different interests and enjoy things away from one another. You cannot expect one person to meet your every need as a person, nor will you be able to have 1 person be the root of your happiness as a person. Girls are the same way to an extent to where they can be very submissive or very controlling.
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