letter Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 Right so ill try and make this as concise as possible. My ex and i were together a year, it was a very close relationship and spent a summer apart, During this relationship she kissed somone else and went into a spiral of mistrust between us. I allways checked her hone and facebook and as a result lots of things popped up, flirty messages from ex's, lying about where she stayed one night, but we worked through it and in her defence she did try quite hard. And in my "attack" i was a great boyfriend but did kiss somone while we were together on a drunked night (feel like i was driven a bit out of spite) and i wasent exactly "perfect" per-se just better at hiding it. I was a legend to this girl though, helped her out with lots of stuff. Now she borke up with me feeling like she was allways feeling put down, i tried to beg and fix my way out of it but she didnt come to a very special event so after that i got angry and NC for 2 weeks. I broke NC from then on and the two weeks after we eventually met. She insisted she didnt love me anymore and was seeing somone esle. When we finally met to excahnge things she broke down and said she does still love me and wanted another go. I declined, and now she is going to see her new guy. I have such mixed feelings right now, she wants to keep in contact, i feel really betrayed and really thought that it was the ebst thing to do as i just didnt see it working again due to lack of trust and resentment for her ending things the way she did. Im severly doubting my decision now, i know she has strong feelings but ive almost convinced her to move on. And now the tickets booked i feel its too late. Im riddled with regret and confusion, did i do the right thing???
Author letter Posted November 8, 2009 Author Posted November 8, 2009 Also to add, i found it so hard to picture her with another man and felt it "tainted her" but i worry now i could have got over that, i feel like the breakup has messed me up so much i might even need to go thorugh this loss of a "first love" rather than depend on somone else. But maby this is love?? ahh please help if you can!
alphamale Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 yes you did the right thing. she needs to find a real man and you letting her go will give her that chance
Author letter Posted November 8, 2009 Author Posted November 8, 2009 That comment has hit me really hard. could you expand, i was far from a **** boy friend. And her "faults" were quite severe at times and i found it so hard to trust her from consistent lying. Am i really that bad of a man?
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