shadyp Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 Hi all, Had the 'talk' with (x)BF last night after we spent the day shopping/chilling. Past 2 weeks things have been good, I felt like he is a boyfriend. 3 days ago he goes off me again this has been going on for the past 3 years. I ask him what now... After a lot of cooing he says to me he doesnt feel emotions towards me at times. Its been 3 years and it getting hard. He has his own stuff to deal with (family). He dislikes me for whats happened in the past(arguements). He wants to break up with me but doesn't know how. sighs... I know he has told me but i still dont get why he calls, see's texts me. I want to be with him but he is prepared to call it a day. I dont know what I am asking but I just needed to tell someone, Any thought welcomed, trying to not go down the physcho ex girlfriend who feels likes her life is over mode.
adamt Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 (edited) go NC and cut all contact with him. delete his number and remove from social networks. change your mobile if he wont stop hassling you.Dont let him keep you on a string. Begin to move on. put your own life first and get busy doing things you like doing. I went NC with my ex for 5 months and joined a gym. Bumped into my ex last night for the first time and i kept my cool and kept the chat simple and friendly. she noticed i had lost weight which was good. today is hard but i'm in a better place. sooner you remove him from yourlife and work on yourself the sooner you can meet someone better. dont put yourlife on hold for anyone, when you get older you will look back and wish you had moved on sooner. just disappear out of his life for good. Edited November 8, 2009 by adamt
Author shadyp Posted November 8, 2009 Author Posted November 8, 2009 Hi adamt, Yes I hear all your saying. I am changing my number, delete on msn, block emails. Its funny coz we used to work n the same place-he just left so thats ok. I also just started a full time job and that keeps me busy all day. I want to be strong this time and not look back. I just know what I can be like when I am weak and I cant afford to be like that this time. I am at a gym and have been doing well, lost weight and kept it off. I am looking to persue some music lessons too. Its day 1 of the breakup so we'll see. Thank you
adamt Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 (edited) Sounds like you are in the right path. No matter how you feel resist making contact because its just brings hurt again. its like picking a scab that will never heal. If you get the urge, come on there and just type out your thoughts, or ring a friend or family. All i can recommend is hammer the gym, keep busy as much as possible. find things you enjoy doing. try new things out. just be selfish. dont feel in a rush to get back on the saddle. dont let yourseldf sit at home alone and dwell on things. I was proud of myself yesterday, how i dealt with facing my ex after 5 months. It took a lot of hard work but you can do it. Edited November 8, 2009 by adamt
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