teanoranges Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 WEEK 2 1) Where am I at now in this healing process? Doing real good actually! Getting my life together and discovering things about myself I didn't realize before, as well as having no need to tell him any of them. 2) What am I doing now to move forward with my life? Learning more and more! Attempting to socialize, which should be much easier now since I finally did land a job! Watch out world, here I come. haha! 3) Where do I want to be in the healing process a week from now? I'd like to not think of him as soon as I wake up. I already don't think of memories (I could if I tried I'm sure) but I still think of him and him being with someone else. As soon as those thoughts are gone or at least cut back to how I think of the crushes I had before him, it'll all be good. Yay for positive growth! Had to search for this thread! lol
mmk1 Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 1) Where am I at now in this healing process? Really good! I've said all I had to say and been one month NC! 2) What am I doing now to move forward with my life? Went on a date last week with a girl cuter, smarter and nicer than my ex, which destroyed my fear that I would never find anyone as good as my ex, which was bull. 3) Where do I want to be in the healing process a week from now? Still moving on with my life, putting my needs and life first and forgetting about my ex and the crap I put up with. The power was always with me and realizing that is the key.
red_cloud Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 I'd like to join this thread as well. 1) Where am I at now in this healing process? Day 1. It sucks, but I"ve been here before and I've learned from past mistakes on what not to do and how to keep my dignity, which is why I"m here. I was dumped because he put his schoolwork ahead of me. I don't think I was too demanding, all I wanted to know that he cared, I don't know if he just didn't care or didn't understand what I was asking for, but it doesn't really matter. So I'm angry, I'm devastated, I'm sad and most of all I'm dissapointed and hurt and feel betrayed. 2) What am I doing now to move forward with my life? Right now, feels like nothing. Waisting my time in bed avoiding work, not eating, drinking a lot. But I'm here so I gues thats step 1.. 3) Where do I want to be in the healing process a week from now? Ideally, not caring at all. I don't want this to affect Thanksgiving with my parents.
onewillburn Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 1. Broken up since June, 38 days NC. I'm moving on, but there is still an incredible amount of pain sometimes. 2. I've begun talking to new girls and entertaining the idea of getting a new girlfriend. I've been going out a lot more in the last two weeks. 3. A week from now? Gee, I don't know. Maybe I'll have made some progress with this girl I'm talking to. Maybe I'll have started the band I'm trying to start. Either way, I'll probably still experience moments of pain and it will still sting to think about any of it.
novack Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 1)Where am I at now in this healing process? Right now i have accepted my ex's new r/s but i still do think about her quite often and miss her.. Still it's not the same as it once was and i'm happy that i'm moving on (i also met the first person who i was interested in more than sex which felt great) 2) What am I doing now to move forward with my life? Partying like no one's business.... working hard on my studies... and also meeting new ppl / re-connecting with old ones... 3) Where do I want to be in the healing process a week from now Honestly i want to be slightly more indifferent a week from now... and it would be nice not to think about my ex as much...maybe this new girl will work out/maybe it won't but its all in my court and i already got my life back... amazing
Author Ms. Joolie Posted November 22, 2009 Author Posted November 22, 2009 1) Where am I at now in this healing process? I decided to check in this week and record my progress. I'm hesitant to even talk about "coping" however because I feel I am over that relationship. I let go. Now I'm ready to move forward, and am thinking of re-entering the dating world. First though, I'm focusing on building relationships, not just a romantic one. So I'll see. 2) What am I doing now to move forward with my life? I am involved in all kinds of things. There's a lot I could do to build relationships with the people around me. Being in that old relationship hid this issue from me, but I do need to open up more to people around me. Moving forward now is about building relationships. 3) Where do I want to be in the healing process a week from now? Next week I want to have a better idea on how I'm going to move forward in my relationships. I know that by building better relationships I'll have a better romantic relationship next time around.
name witheld Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 1) Where am I at now in this healing process? Stronger. There are good days and bad. Bad days usually after nights out. Boosted because I know that I can maintain NC. But that is not the situation I am in since she broke contact. After 3 months break up pain is less but I think about her all the time. Still want to be with her and frustrated no discussion has taken place since end of NC. 2) What am I doing now to move forward with my life? I have been re-connecting with friends, meeting new women and keeping busy with sports, work, evening classes and household chores/diy. 3) Where do I want to be in the healing process a week from now? I want to be stronger. Progress in everything I said above. Goal is to finish evening class in December buy a new game and everything will be forgotten! Would like to think about her a little less. Would like to have discussion with her next time I see her, but that will not be initiated by me.
teanoranges Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 1) Where am I at now in this healing process? Doing better. I no longer have the dying feeling. I no longer think he's thinking of me or cares. I'm doing good. Day 18 NC.. waiting to get to day 20 and 30 just as landmarks about past NCs. I don't really think he's going to contact me anymore.. there's still a fragment of hope, but I know now we will truly never be the same together again. Sad, strange, true. 2) What am I doing now to move forward with my life? Working hard. Keeping busy helps, but keeping busy is an effort. 3) Where do I want to be in the healing process a week from now? I'll have been past Day 20 and on my way to 30. I hope the feelings really fade and I 'snap' out of it. Return to the nonchalant person. I want to be at a stage where I'll see him or a picture or hear about him and not think that he's mine and everything to me.
tryagaintoday Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 1) Where am I at now in this healing process? I'll say I'm very much healing and it's going to be over soon. 2) What am I doing now to move forward with my life? I'd started to do alot of things for myself, hang out very often with family and friends. Been dating and may have found someone but time will tell. 3) Where do I want to be in the healing process a week from now? I want to be and feel even better than today. I want to move forward abeit baby steps with my current date. Almost a month from this last post. 1) Where am I at now in this healing process? Healed. 2) What am I doing now to move forward with my life? Still hanging out with all of my friends. Still in the activities that I was engaging before and also many new ones coming up. eg., fortnightly football, badminton and bowling. 3) Where do I want to be in the healing process a week from now? Want to be even closer and hopefully go to the next stage with my current beau. Who was it that said it was a rebound? If this is a rebound, then the bounce is way not bouncy at all. This is someone that I love, want to care for and share many years together. Thank you for leaving me, ex!
Author Ms. Joolie Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 (edited) 1) Where am I at now in this healing process? I am healed. I no longer hurt. That relationship is so in the past. I could say it's completely over and forgotten but the truth is that I still think about what he said, that he would contact me in December. It's pathetic. I know December is going to hold a little anxiety for me, but I'll deal with that IF it comes. I entertain the idea of sending this email to him tomorrow, Dec. 1, and totally killing off any possibility we may have still. But I won't do that. I'll just remain open to what life brings, and not kill anything off. Besides I don't want to do yet another thing that pushes him away. Not that I want to get back together.... It's just OVER. Even the feelings are gone. I don't know what I feel for him now, it's all a little numb. It sounds egoistic to think he would email me, even if he once said he would because he couldn't let me go. Why should he come back after I've pushed him away so much?? ugh. Also, he has contacted me recently, he was upset over something trivial. It was a short and weird email, I don't know what his point was. All I responded was with, "I apologize for everything I worded poorly. Don't torture yourself over it. I wouldn't want you to go through one more second of torture because of me." I just feel like our relationship had so much trouble, so much pain and I'm so tired of being the cause of it all. I hate that he resented me at the end because of all the pushing away I did. The relationship, in retrospect, is embarrassing. It is no wonder it finally caved in. I hate that I even think about his coming back.... it seems so foolish. All because he said he couldn't let me go, all because he's always come back. Ugh. December! LOL. I sound insane. Honestly I'm not waiting for him, or hoping, or stopping life because of this. Can't WAIT till this STUPID December thing is resolved though. Anyway, I've kept my promise to not look him up on the internet. Almost gave in a couple of times, so I renew my promise to myself. I will not look him up on the internet. 2) What am I doing now to move forward with my life? All the posting in the dating section of LS has me motivated to date again. Slowly, of course. Really just want to open up my social life again and let new people in. I'm looking forward to it.... I've been a hermit these last two months it seems. I go to classes or seminars or events, but haven't been very social. 3) Where do I want to be in the healing process a week from now? Next week will be in December. I might have to keep posting on this thread so I don't give up moving forward and so I can see if I'm moping my time away and stuff. Next week, I want to have been more social. lol. No more declining friend invitations. Gosh. I've missed so much. It's a fault of mine, getting too absorbed in my own little world.... Edited November 30, 2009 by Ms. Joolie
jjbot Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 1) Where am I at now in this healing process? Just starting the healing process, but understand that it really is for the better because staying with her would have just caused more headache and heartbreak in the future. Although this awkwardness between us is something that I don't care for much. 2) What am I doing now to move forward with my life? Going to start working full time and seeing new friends that really care about spending time with me. 3) Where do I want to be in the healing process a week from now? I would like the awkwardness between us to be fixed and whether we talk or not is not much of a concern.
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