ForgettingThePast Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 Hi, I'm new here but I've been reading these forums for a couple months now. This site has given me a lot of strength to deal with the recent break up with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. While I'm still looking for advice to help me deal with this, I would love to help someone else going through something similar. So here's the background story... we started dating when we were both 17. We moved away to seperate colleges and did the long distance thing for 4 months. I ended up transferring schools, mainly to be with him (not the smartest decision, i know). things have always been great, but the one thing we have always discussed is that at some point we will have to break up because we are eachother's first loves and first serious relationships. We got serious very quickly and even talked about getting an apartment together next year. So about 2 1/2 months ago, we decided it was a good time to end things as we were kinda in a "rut" and we knew it was just the right time to see what else is out there. Fast forward a week later, he's calling me to hang out. So we do and this continues for almost 2 weeks. In this time he tells me he's falling for me all over again and blah blah blah. We decide once we get back to school to see what happens. Fast forward another week and we're at school. He basically stops contacting me completely. I see him all around campus with another girl. Two weeks later, he's coming to me again to start hanging out. We do this for 2 weeks and are seemingly together but not officially. He starts telling me he's confused and has feelings for me but he doesnt know what to do and if we keep going like this we will get back together. and then I don't hear from him for days. I finally talked to him and told him that I would ease back into a relationship with him. He says he does have feelings for me but he can't be in a relationship with me right now. We've been together too long and we still dont know what else is out there. There was no emotion in him when we were talking. It just makes me feel like I meant nothing to him even though I used to be his everything. So ever since, I've been no contact. Today is day 19. Last night I found out he is in a relationship with a new girl. Part of me knows this is a rebound. This is what he wanted, maybe it'll make him realize the grass isn't always greener. I'm really trying to focus on myself and move on. I'm letting him go, but it is very hard. I should also add that he has some depression problems. He has pushed away the only two people in his life that cared, me and his best friend. He started smoking weed almost a year ago and ever since I've noticed a huge change in him. I know he parties every night and I just don't see how he could've actually dealt with this break up. He's also putting up facebook statuses he knows I see, about how life is so good and he's so happy. I blocked his status updates because I just couldnt deal with it. So any advice or words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated. Anyone been in a similar situation? Will he come back at some point once this relationship is over?
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