Guys fall in LOVE way to fast!

[superchick3177]

So here's my background story:

 

I'm 16 years old, youngest of 6 and i was homeschooled until i was 13 with my brother, who has Cerebral Polsy. From then we joined a alternative high school. It was a place for kids who had been kicked out of everywhere else. The work was easy and online so you could cheat your way through high school if you chose. It was nothing but potheads and druggies, and me and my brother. I went there because my brother needed a place that could give him an easy education where he would get one on one help. It was the only one that was free so we both joined. Because of the ex that fallows i had to switch to my first public school ever in September of 08.

 

When i was 14 i started dating a boy Nick. We fell in love, took one other's virginity and were together for a year. We spent every waking moment together and were very in love all his great friends became my great friends. We all hung out together all the time. Everyday like in that's 70's show. He told me he loved me after 9 days and i felt the same. Then again i was 14 and had no experience with boys like the other girls did. I had kissed a few boys and my longest relationship was about a month. I had never ever been touched anywhere by any boy until nick.

 

I attempted suicide to get his attention after a year together because he was ignoring me. Wouldn't even look at me. We broke up and it was the hardest thing i've ever gone through. He was my first in every way. First love, first lover, first to touch me, first male best friend.

 

After we broke up i was deep in depression and one of our best friends comforted me and became my best friend. we had sex and it got back to nick and he got violent. Started threatening me, spamming me, he made all of my friends and our entire school of only 40 kids turn against me. I went from having a great boyfriend and tons very best friends to having absolutly nothing. He showed naked pictures of me to the whole school and auctioned them to the middle 7th graders. This is when i switched schools to a different campus of the same school and started making new friends. Until he fallowed me and turned all of them against me too. you see, i refused to be near him so he made sure he was at every event that my friends when to. he kept tabs on anyone i had a crush on, somehow, and told rumors to them. This forced me to switch to my very first Public school. from 40 kids to 4,000. Not knowing a single soul there. In additon, my brother moved to California for college, leaving me to be the last kid left at home out of the 6.

 

When i came out of my depression i realized how there is so much more to life than a boy. So much more to it than staring at your phone every second hoping he will call. Hoping he will come over and give me a kiss.

 

I now live my life to the fullest. Its been over a year sense the break up and i've dated SEVERAL guys. From ages 14 to 20 and every single one tells me he loves me within a few days! Like head over heals "i've never met anyone like you before. My life has changed sense i met you. your the most amazing girl i know". And here am i saying umm.....i...like you i guess.

 

After what i've been through i know it takes a lot more than a few days to love someone. It takes sacrifice and compatability and does not happen in 3 days. It happens in 3 years. How can they love me when they don't even know me? It makes finding anyone impossible. Boys i've been with for a week talk about marrage and kids. About college together and all that. No matter if they are 14 or 20 i NEVER fail to hear the words I love you.

 

I'm not going to be oblivious. I am a very pretty girl and an amazing person. I know what i want to do with my life, I want to become an RN specializing in Trauma, I already know where i'm going to college. i teach little kids how to swim, i can party it up, i love comic books, i am very sociable, i have straight a's, I have a nice body and eyes that capture. I give the best advice and volunteer and the hospital. I'm a unique person and boys think that they are in love. But they just don't realize that i'm a cool girl. If i was a boy they'd just think wow your really cool and i'm glad your my friend. but no, they LOVE ME.

 

I don't know what to do. I will not lower my standards. I will fall in love when i meet a MAN that is what i am looking for and matches my amazingness. I deserve that. Everyone deserves what they want and i want someone like me. Someone who doesn't need me to survive. I won't compromise. Especially and this young age.

 

I don't want to have to stop dating though but i can't stand these needy clingly I love you i love you i love you little boys. What is your advice for me, if any? Advice on how to avoid them. On how to stop this. I'm scared that i'll get into college with the same problem and graduate and get into my career with the same problem and never find anyone. Its my great fear.

 

If i continue righting it will become rambling. So let me know what you think.

 

Thanks!

Superchick3177

[start-fresh]

What is your advice for me, if any? Advice on how to avoid them. On how to stop this. I'm scared that i'll get into college with the same problem and graduate and get into my career with the same problem and never find anyone. Its my great fear.

 

If i continue righting it will become rambling. So let me know what you think.

 

Thanks!

Superchick3177

 

Get over yourself. You won't have to avoid them, they'll realize how stuck up you are and flee.

 

/is this a troll post? It has to be

[DanielMadr]

So here's my background story:

 

I'm 16 years old, youngest of 6 and i was homeschooled until i was 13 with my brother, who has Cerebral Polsy. From then we joined a alternative high school. It was a place for kids who had been kicked out of everywhere else. The work was easy and online so you could cheat your way through high school if you chose. It was nothing but potheads and druggies, and me and my brother. I went there because my brother needed a place that could give him an easy education where he would get one on one help. It was the only one that was free so we both joined. Because of the ex that fallows i had to switch to my first public school ever in September of 08.

 

When i was 14 i started dating a boy Nick. We fell in love, took one other's virginity and were together for a year. We spent every waking moment together and were very in love all his great friends became my great friends. We all hung out together all the time. Everyday like in that's 70's show. He told me he loved me after 9 days and i felt the same. Then again i was 14 and had no experience with boys like the other girls did. I had kissed a few boys and my longest relationship was about a month. I had never ever been touched anywhere by any boy until nick.

 

I attempted suicide to get his attention after a year together because he was ignoring me. Wouldn't even look at me. We broke up and it was the hardest thing i've ever gone through. He was my first in every way. First love, first lover, first to touch me, first male best friend.

 

After we broke up i was deep in depression and one of our best friends comforted me and became my best friend. we had sex and it got back to nick and he got violent. Started threatening me, spamming me, he made all of my friends and our entire school of only 40 kids turn against me. I went from having a great boyfriend and tons very best friends to having absolutly nothing. He showed naked pictures of me to the whole school and auctioned them to the middle 7th graders. This is when i switched schools to a different campus of the same school and started making new friends. Until he fallowed me and turned all of them against me too. you see, i refused to be near him so he made sure he was at every event that my friends when to. he kept tabs on anyone i had a crush on, somehow, and told rumors to them. This forced me to switch to my very first Public school. from 40 kids to 4,000. Not knowing a single soul there. In additon, my brother moved to California for college, leaving me to be the last kid left at home out of the 6.

 

When i came out of my depression i realized how there is so much more to life than a boy. So much more to it than staring at your phone every second hoping he will call. Hoping he will come over and give me a kiss.

 

I now live my life to the fullest. Its been over a year sense the break up and i've dated SEVERAL guys. From ages 14 to 20 and every single one tells me he loves me within a few days! Like head over heals "i've never met anyone like you before. My life has changed sense i met you. your the most amazing girl i know". And here am i saying umm.....i...like you i guess.

 

After what i've been through i know it takes a lot more than a few days to love someone. It takes sacrifice and compatability and does not happen in 3 days. It happens in 3 years. How can they love me when they don't even know me? It makes finding anyone impossible. Boys i've been with for a week talk about marrage and kids. About college together and all that. No matter if they are 14 or 20 i NEVER fail to hear the words I love you.

 

I'm not going to be oblivious. I am a very pretty girl and an amazing person. I know what i want to do with my life, I want to become an RN specializing in Trauma, I already know where i'm going to college. i teach little kids how to swim, i can party it up, i love comic books, i am very sociable, i have straight a's, I have a nice body and eyes that capture. I give the best advice and volunteer and the hospital. I'm a unique person and boys think that they are in love. But they just don't realize that i'm a cool girl. If i was a boy they'd just think wow your really cool and i'm glad your my friend. but no, they LOVE ME.

 

I don't know what to do. I will not lower my standards. I will fall in love when i meet a MAN that is what i am looking for and matches my amazingness. I deserve that. Everyone deserves what they want and i want someone like me. Someone who doesn't need me to survive. I won't compromise. Especially and this young age.

 

I don't want to have to stop dating though but i can't stand these needy clingly I love you i love you i love you little boys. What is your advice for me, if any? Advice on how to avoid them. On how to stop this. I'm scared that i'll get into college with the same problem and graduate and get into my career with the same problem and never find anyone. Its my great fear.

 

If i continue righting it will become rambling. So let me know what you think.

 

Thanks!

Superchick3177

 

"Im sorry dude, there is no chemistry from my side, you are great guy but it just didnt click sorry and please dont make fool of yourself and take it like a man" This sentence should solve your problem.

 

And dont worry. You wont be good enough too for some amazing guys you fall in love with. So you will have your share of broken heart too.

 

And best of all.....wait a few years when your boobs start brush against your knees...guys will stop bothering you by then.

 

You dont like any guy in your social circle? There has to be at least one hot stud.

[boogieboy]

It might be a troll but ill bite.

 

When you first start dating these boys, you tell them out of the blue "I hate when boys say the fall in love after only dating for a week".

 

Otherwise, just stop dating. Youre 16, you cant legally date older guys yet, if there isnt any 16 yr old boys that you think are worthy, then just be by yourself. Its not a bad thing to be single. Believe it or not, youre not that great, its just that 16 year old guys dont know what they are doing yet, nor do they not know what they want. Any girl that will stick around with them gets told "im in love with you", so youre not really special.They might be feeding you lines also, 16 year old girls need to hear that sort of thing so they will have sex.

[DanielMadr]

btw why are you so surprised they want to marry you when you are such an amazing chick?

 

Be aware. Boys are told that girls want to get married. Thats maybe why they suggest it, so you dont think they want just use you.

 

And boys also believe that girls are the better part of humankind (the ones without sisters mainly). Even when you act like a bytch they think you have good reasons for acting so. So they think they dont need to know you better to be sure you are good.

 

Its later they find out that there are some really vicious creatures amogst girls too and as it is not allowed to shoot your wife anymore, they tend to be more careful with proposing marriage.

[DanielMadr]

Youre 16, you cant legally date older guys yet,

 

 

In Europe person 15-18 can have sex with older people as long as they are not in a position of power over you - teacher, instructor, employer etc.

[betamanlet]

They fell for the women want to be respected and treated well, little do they know women don't find that a challenge and hence, lose interest, like you do. Wh en you're raised by feminist mothers, and female school teachers, that's what you're taught. Break their hearts a couple of times, and they'll surely become players. Good learning experience for them.

[carhill]

And boys also believe that girls are the better part of humankind (the ones without sisters mainly). Even when you act like a bytch they think you have good reasons for acting so. So they think they dont need to know you better to be sure you are good.

 

Its later they find out that there are some really vicious creatures amogst girls too and as it is not allowed to shoot your wife anymore, they tend to be more careful with proposing marriage.

Quoted for emphasis. So true. The curse of the only child, in my case, along with not having a biotch for a mother.

[DanielMadr]

Quoted for emphasis. So true. The curse of the only child, in my case, along with not having a biotch for a mother.

 

I feel ya

 

side note:

 

Im in more stressful business now(more money involved and sort of submarine illness) where people tend to forget about decent conduct and fair play....and I can tell you it opened my eyes wide...guys can be real azzholes but at least they dont risk getting punched in the face but girls can be so f@cking sneaky, manipulative and ruthless I wouldnt believe.

 

I almost started to believe that they should dress like guys - covered from head to toe and no double standards at all anymore - no "could you do this for me", "I dont understand this" , "I didnt know that, you should" "I cant take responsibility, you have to"- if guy said that he would be outed immediately. And if a guy did some things some girls do, he would get punched in the face.

 

Wow, am I a mysogonist or just a guy who tells the truth?

 

For the Bureau of AntiMysoginist Conduct> I still can name a few girls which are OK and it is fun to work with.

[SoulSearch_CO]

What can you do? How about finding emotionally healthy, whole, complete men that don't need a woman to complete them? Incomplete losers are the types of men you are attracting. No man that is self-aware, confident, and whole would be proposing marriage to some chick he's known a week. Find stronger men.

[JL911]

And boys also believe that girls are the better part of humankind (the ones without sisters mainly). Even when you act like a bytch they think you have good reasons for acting so. So they think they dont need to know you better to be sure you are good.

QUOTE]

 

You can flip the script here as well to the extent where women expect and have high hopes for men to be submissive and sensitive creatures who make all these love stories possible. When they dont have a brother or manly father....

 

When you find someone who is down with reality, well thats when you truly find something special...