lov e and relationship

[johnnywinner]

I am in a 3 year relationship.She recently moved away.We continue as a ldr.My story is like this,our relationship was great.We originally spent every minute together.She eventually wanted marriage, I was not ready,but then my dad became ill and passed.She was great.Then,she expected to marry.I said,i was noit sure how i felt.but ,the fact was I was grieving and had too much going on in the crisis. About 7 months later,mom gets a serious respiratory illness and eventually passes .Now,more crisis.we talked and wrote.About six months later,she says she does not want marriage and/ children.she has a new life.About 2 months later,i propose.she refuses.I plead and beg and she is cruel and cold.I stop talking.It hurts too much.She calls one month later.We renew all and she wants to get a house,car....... I agree.She starts TALKING about her dog will sleep in the bed.I say no.She gets upset.The next thing is she says,why should she wait home ,that maybe I will call.Why should she cry and be sad with me.Life is too short to cry. I WAS IN MOURNING,then,she says ,why should i leave my friends,job and great life here to come and be a housewife.i never said that. TO her.I responded with then stay there. I DID not talk for 2 weeks.I call and I ASKED HER WHY SHE SAID WHAT SHE SAID TO ME AND SHE SAID YEAH,SO I SAID IT AND WHAT,,,, SHE TELLSA ME SHE DOES NOT WANT A GIVING AND TAKING AND CARING MARRIED LIFE.She says no i do not want that life I will not like it and leave I told her that in a marriage each person must help the other and make sacrofices and truly love each other..This is a girl who wanted marriage for 3 years. NOW,WHAT IS SHE TALKING ABOUT?I said ok.i want a marriage and a family.i let her go.Now I am puzzled{what happened to her.should I still try to convince her? her.what?please help/thanks. i apologize for the length of my story.Respecrfully,johnnywinner

[moimeme]

There's no way to figure out what happened. These things happen a lot - plenty of people on this board are in your situation. I'm afraid you'll have to give up on this one and move on with your life.

[Arabess]

I agree with Moimeme....there just comes a time in some relationships that it's time to part.

 

It seems to me what she wants in her life....and what you want in your life....doesn't agree. Neither of you are right or wrong.....you just have separate life directions.

 

Move on and find someone who is more suitable for your dreams of a marriage. I know it's hard....but in the end...you ( and the girl you once loved) will be the better for it.