lookingforyou Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Men, how would it affect your desire to ask a woman out on another date if you felt that she was uncomfortable or nervous on the date? Let's say she wasn't socially incompetent but probably she just came across uncomfortable and nervous? Are you able to tell if your date was uncomfortable or nervous?
A O Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Are you able to tell if your date was uncomfortable or nervous? Yes. Men, how would it affect your desire to ask a woman out on another date if you felt that she was uncomfortable or nervous on the date? Let's say she wasn't socially incompetent but probably she just came across uncomfortable and nervous? If she were uncomfortable or nervous then chances are it would have been a boring date due to the fact that her demeanor would have meant that her best foot was never put forward. I wouldn't go there again. .
stepka Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 It could mean one of two things probably. 1. You took her to a place where she doesn't feel comfortable. 2. She likes you a lot--could this be a woman who's had a chance to have a big crush on you? If she doesn't like you a whole lot, she's more likely to look bored than nervous.
jimbo Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Really depends on if we connected on some level.
Author lookingforyou Posted November 7, 2009 Author Posted November 7, 2009 What if the woman managed to do her best to go through the date with laughter and relatively good flow of conversation? She was nervous inside but not sure if the man could tell. Can men differentiate between a woman feeling uncomfortable because she's not enjoying the date or she's just nervous because she likes the man?
A O Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 What if the woman managed to do her best to go through the date with laughter and relatively good flow of conversation? She was nervous inside but not sure if the man could tell. Most people are like this at same stage. No big deal. Can men differentiate between a woman feeling uncomfortable because she's not enjoying the date or she's just nervous because she likes the man? Yes. More to the point though, declaring that you are nervous clears the air and can be indicator of potential good communication skills. In other words, trying to hide one's nervousness will probably just end up backfiring on them in the end. .
carhill Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I can give you some signals from the same person over the myriad of emotions. Bored: Looks elsewhere; changes the subject; closed body language and few facial expressions. Overall, I just get this cold feeling (literally). Nervous: Looks in my eyes then away; twirls hair; speaks with starts rather than fluidly, a sign of analyzing my possible reactions to the words. I still feel distance but without the obvious coldness; to me, this feels like a distance that can be bridged, but it takes two people to do that; I can never accomplish it alone. TBH, I'd be reticent to ask either woman out again, but would lean towards a more neutral stance with the nervous one, simply because I can empathize with someone who is nervous, whether situationally or generally, having been so in my past and sometimes in the present. That said, if I engaged her in my usual style and still perceived her to be nervous by the end of the date, including her response to my usual sharing of physical affection and appreciation for who she is, I'd seriously question asking her out a second time. At my age, dealing with that is just too much work. By the time a woman is my age, she needs to be comfortable with herself, IMO.
Author lookingforyou Posted November 7, 2009 Author Posted November 7, 2009 What can a woman do after the date to make you change your mind about asking her out again?
DanielMadr Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Men, how would it affect your desire to ask a woman out on another date if you felt that she was uncomfortable or nervous on the date? Let's say she wasn't socially incompetent but probably she just came across uncomfortable and nervous? Are you able to tell if your date was uncomfortable or nervous? Of course we can tell. Actually it is feminine behaviour. And we find it very sweet. Unless of course the dude is into some weird stuff like being whipped and dominated.
DanielMadr Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 What if the woman managed to do her best to go through the date with laughter and relatively good flow of conversation? She was nervous inside but not sure if the man could tell. Can men differentiate between a woman feeling uncomfortable because she's not enjoying the date or she's just nervous because she likes the man? 9 times of ten, if I dont make a girl blush, there is little chance she will go out with me next time.
DanielMadr Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 What can a woman do after the date to make you change your mind about asking her out again? Show interest.
Author lookingforyou Posted November 8, 2009 Author Posted November 8, 2009 9 times of ten, if I dont make a girl blush, there is little chance she will go out with me next time. Blush as in nervous?
Thornton Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 If my date was uncomfortable or nervous because they really liked me, or they were just shy, that would be fine. If the person displayed obvious discomfort about being in my presence, or appeared bored, I wouldn't date them again. After the date, if the person wanted to fix things they could contact me to let me know they had a nice time and would like to see me again, just so I wouldn't assume that their nervousness equated with boredom. Tbh I'd be more inclined to find their nervousness cute rather than being put off by it.
DanielMadr Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 Blush as in nervous? yep. You didnt think I would slap her to blush?
Author lookingforyou Posted November 8, 2009 Author Posted November 8, 2009 So men take it a good sign that a woman is nervous?
DanielMadr Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 So men take it a good sign that a woman is nervous? I cant speak for all men. I find it attractive. I guess it is virgin like to be shy. Be aware some guys are plain lazy or intimidated themselves and therefore are happier when women do all the work. By being shy you also put more responsibility on a guy...who would hurt a innocent lamb? Therefore you are safer.
A O Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 Depends on whether your nervousness hinders your true personality from coming through. If it does, then I'd doubt that you'd be anywhere near as interesting as you could be - translation - you'll be a lil bit boring to someone like me. However, if it doesn't, then yeah, as others have mentioned, it can be quite endearing. .
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