confusedasever Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Okay...So I met this guy online that happens to live in the next town. Like 2 miles from me. We met up last week had a few drinks and seemed to have a really good time. Well I didn't sleep with him, well I did in his bed but we didn't do it. He asked me to come back later that day but I couldn't because I had a Halloween party to go to. Anyway, I didn't hear from him all day so I left him an offline message saying I had a good time and would like to see him again. He texted me right after he got it and asked me to come over again, which I couldn't because I was at this party. Then Sunday again he asked and I couldn't because I had friends over for football and what not. So we planned to see each other on Thursday...he was out of town til then working. I went over there last night after I got off work and we watched TV and eventually went to bed. This time doing the naughty:( He left me a message on Yahoo and said "thanx for coming over last night" I said "yeah, sure. Thank you too...I had fun". He then said "me too" and that was the end of our conversation. He then logged out like 30 minutes later and didn't say anything else. ( I was at work and he was signed in on his mobile) I was not really able to chat at that moment. Anyway...I am wondering if this guy likes me or not. I have not heard from him since. That was 8 hours ago. I am not currently signed in ( I don't want him to think I am waiting for him, he is out hunting so would be logged in on his phone) How do I know?? It drives me crazy!!! I am 29 he is 31. He is pretty much set in his life. So maybe he is just looking for sex. When we first met we both said we would meet and "see where things go" I have not been interested in any guy for a very very long time. So also want to know if I should play it cool or throw myself out there. I ahve never done that before. I am good at acting like I don't give a rip, but don't want him to think I don't like him. Any feedback is appreciated!!!!!!
hopesndreams Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Sit back and wait for him to call you. Do not chase after him, he'll run for the hills if you do. Also, that would give you time that is needed to sort your feelings out. If things move too quickly, like they have been doing, the fire will burn out. Take things slower, no rush right?
D-Lish Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 8 hours isn't a long time! I wouldn't worry about it just yet.
dreamergrl Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I'd be concerned that he kept asking you 'come over' after that first date, but never actually took you out on a date again.
carhill Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 FWB alert From now on, the 'naughty' is predicated upon him asking you on 'dates', not to be confused with 'coming over'.
Author confusedasever Posted November 7, 2009 Author Posted November 7, 2009 You're right...I think I will tell him we are going out next time. As for the naughty being a given, how do I change that?? (Although I do not mind:)
dreamergrl Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 You're right...I think I will tell him we are going out next time. As for the naughty being a given, how do I change that?? (Although I do not mind:) You don't. You had a second 'date' at his house, you had sex. It is what it is. You set or allowed the tone for it to be a FWB. If he wanted more, he'd have asked you out for real, as well.
carhill Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 OP, communicate to him what your idea of 'dating' is. Then, see if his actions match up. This presumes of course that the current dynamic is not what you consider dating to be
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