Boundary Problem Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 (edited) I'm hurt. No. Really. I am. I'm aware of this, kid. It's all part of life and dating past my 'expiration' date and with a post cancer body. The things I think about myself in terms of dating/my age/the shape my body is in is far meaner, bleaker and more brutally truthful than you or anyone else can come up with. The sex was fantastic though. We at least both agreed on that, and when all was said and done that is really all we had in common. It was fun teaching him things. His experience was limited, but eventually he caught up. Lucrezia I'm sorry you are hurt. If I hear the phrase "desperate single mothers" one more time on this site I'm going to scream. I think it has more to do with their own very significant fear of aging. It is sourced in their own insecurities, I wouldn't take it personally. I try not to, but there is a silent scream in my head when I read some of this stuff. I'm not afraid of aging. My body has served me well and continues to. If a man loves a woman he will love us (and our form) despite the ravages of cancer etc. Edited November 7, 2009 by Boundary Problem
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Oh, I was being entirely sarcastic about being hurt. I've been through so much sh*t in the last two years that everything just bounces right off these days. I've seen everything out there from 'desperate single mothers' to 'sex hungry milfs'- how, past a certain age a woman can only expect to be settled for rather than chosen, how the only way a man will date a single mother pushing forty is if he is rejected by every other available female, etc. It isn't uncommon, I guess. Nor does it especially bother me. Sometimes, when I'm feeling sorry for myself it does - but everyone has that sort of terrible self pity creep in from time to time regardless of what it is about. But you know what? It doesn't seem to stop a lot of us from finding happiness.
carhill Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 But you know what? It doesn't seem to stop a lot of us from finding happiness. Yes, and celebrating the gift of living, like you have. If the celebration includes sex with and attraction from/to younger men, that is the path.
burning 4 revenge Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Yes, and celebrating the gift of living, like you have. If the celebration includes sex with and attraction from/to younger men, that is the path. I wouldnt feel so sorry for them Carhill Theres so many of them dumping their middle aged husbands and taking them for every dime they can while they shack up with much younger men its a freaking epidemic Just look around the boards Or around your neighborhood I certainly don't wish them good luck and happiness
carhill Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Being in the middle of a divorce with a 'middle-aged' woman, I can appreciate your perspective. We all make choices and take risks when entering intimate relationships. The good news is that those women you describe will be busy with their younger lovers so will not be walking my path any time soon. Clarity and acceptance I certainly don't wish to die a bitter old man, as Shadow perhaps insightfully alluded to in another thread, and can't change these women's perspectives, so I just change my reaction to them. I don't feel 'sorry' is amongst the feelings I have wrt that reaction, though empathy can be mistaken for 'feeling sorry' for someone, I guess. Would the flavor of discussion be far different if discussing some/many women's preferences for older men and how that preference impacts the destruction of families when the older men respond (or actively pursue by their own volition) by 'dumping' their middle aged wives and/or partners? There certainly is a lot more precedent and history of that perspective which can be analyzed. Personally I think this equality stuff is going to take a couple of centuries to work itself out. We still have a lot of evolving to do
Crusoe Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 We still have a lot of evolving to do Amen to that.
deux ex machina Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I don't like young men in a romantic sense at all.
Gypsy_Soul Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 I just don't understand how that is so, because I have seen younger women who are waaaay easier, and putting themselves out there for threesomes, and what not. I'm 32 and I get hit on by younger guys even little 17 year old boys! For the most part, I get hit on by 20-25 year olds. On online dating sites, I get hit on a lot by this age group and they all know full well that my intentions are for a long term committed relationship not a quick booty call. Especially online I see young girls/women with their booties and boobs hangin all out for the world to see and they seem more ready for a quick booty call than I do LOL.
Johnny M Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Especially online I see young girls/women with their booties and boobs hangin all out for the world to see and they seem more ready for a quick booty call than I do LOL. Attentionwhoring is not to be confused with putting yourself out for a booty call.
Gypsy_Soul Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Attentionwhoring is not to be confused with putting yourself out for a booty call. Right but you would think that by going what some of these guys are saying that they think that an older woman is easier and desperate, one would think that the girls 'attention whoring' are easier and desperate is what I'm trying to say. Especially, when my online dating profile states specifically what I'm there for, when the 'attention whores' state otherwise.
Gypsy_Soul Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Attentionwhoring is not to be confused with putting yourself out for a booty call. Oh and being older shouldn't be confused with being easy and desperate either.
A O Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 Oh and being older shouldn't be confused with being easy and desperate either. You can't dismiss the notion but you can argue the degree. .
Boundary Problem Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 You can't dismiss the notion but you can argue the degree. . You spend so much time talking about these desperate older women.... Sort of like the little boy when I was in Gr. 1 - who always pulled my ringlet pigtails.
A O Posted November 9, 2009 Posted November 9, 2009 You spend so much time talking about these desperate older women.... You haven't read much have ya. Sort of like the little boy when I was in Gr. 1 - who always pulled my ringlet pigtails. I love older women. I loved them when I was younger, I love em even more now that I'm an old geezer too. But yeah, there are some desperate and easy types out there among the bevy of stupendously gorgeous older broads. .
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