RedDevil66 Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I'm 43 and the only guys who pay attention to me are the younger ones, but that's because I look a lot younger than my age. I dated a guy for 2 yrs (7 yrs ago) who was 12 yrs younger. It was ok, but empty! I was newly single and didnt want commitment As for dating men who are young enough to be my kids, well, I'm not sick enough in the head to even fathom that!
burning 4 revenge Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I'm curious ... I'm 50 and beginning to get involved with a 41 year old ... I'm guessing the 9 year age difference isn't that big of a deal ... I think it's both a physical attraction and just who we are as people .. makes me a little scared I must say! It can't be a physical attraction because people stop being physically attractive after 30
mbeewood Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 How come young guys like older women? I just dont get it at all I am 38 and when I go out, nearly every single time I get talking to a guy who I think is near my age and then find out they are like 24-28!! Then I say "I think I am a bit old for you" and laugh they go all "So what if I am younger than you" and cant see a problem. I have looked around and seen really gorgeous girls who I think these guys should be talking to and they are not interested in them. These guys are really good looking, I could understand if they were minging. Is it because young guys think older women are easy or desperate? No idea, old chicks are nasty. Wrinkly, saggy tits, etc.
Brady_to_Moss Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I am 20. Girls i find attractive and that i would date are in the range of 25-30. Love me older women. Nothing sexier.
carhill Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Oh, and those god-awful stretch marks. Whoa! Topically, I think there's something erotic about being intimate with the life experience and perspective of an older woman, to feel the passion of her many loves. Sex is an expression of that dynamic, but IMO the eroticism comes from a place other than those stretch marks (or lack thereof)....
jw90063 Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 How come young guys like older women? I just dont get it at all I am 38 and when I go out, nearly every single time I get talking to a guy who I think is near my age and then find out they are like 24-28!! Then I say "I think I am a bit old for you" and laugh they go all "So what if I am younger than you" and cant see a problem. I have looked around and seen really gorgeous girls who I think these guys should be talking to and they are not interested in them. These guys are really good looking, I could understand if they were minging. Is it because young guys think older women are easy or desperate? I think they date older women, because it makes them feel like more of a man for whatever reasons.
clv0116 Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Is it because young guys think older women are easy or desperate? Pretty much.
Brady_to_Moss Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I like the way women look when they are around 28..much more attractive than someone my age IMO
burning 4 revenge Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I like the way women look when they are around 28..much more attractive than someone my age IMOWhen you get my age (35) youll look at some of those girls your age who still look like fresh faced teenagers and theyll look like angels
Bullydog1982 Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Ok, every answer you've gotten thus far is complete BS. Now we all know that blanket generalizations suck, but in my experience, you are not attracting EVERY younger man in the bar, but you ARE attracting the ones who don't like the drama mama games that many young pretty girls play. I REMEMBER being a hot 22 year old swimsuit model, and NO, I was NOT interested then in a good guy who was an HVAC contractor. As I got older, I appreciated the sweet, solid good guy. I think a lot of these guys are sick of shallow, sick of drama, sick of emotional emptiness, and really WANT a friend, girlfriend, who cares about them, who can talk to them, instead of: OMG !!!! CONSTANT texting my BFF'S and EX's because ..OMG !!!! I strongly agree with a lot of what's said here. In my late teens/early 20's I gravitated towards women that were 2.5 - 12 years older than me because I didn't have to deal with the immaturity and I could relate to them better. Now in my late 20's I'm finding more women my age (or a little older) I can relate to but I still find some of my better female relations are still with older women. For the most part, I think a lot of younger guys are out for the hunt of the Cougar but for a few of us, it's not the case. Just my 2 cents....
jimbo Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I have started to raise my age ranges I shoot for. Oldest girl I dated was 35 (I'm 33). While it did last several months, she obviously had some issues. Where, when dating girls from 27 - 32 I was told I am attracted to you and we have fun, but no exploding excitement. Weird. Not sure if its the attitude from the girls in the area or age difference, but its different none the less. I guess priorities and brain methodologies are different.
Author Lishy Posted November 7, 2009 Author Posted November 7, 2009 (edited) So i guess we do not have a solid answer and I guess it differs from person to person! Some guys think older women are easy and desperate and some perfer older women because of lack of drama/moreexperience/more attraction ... I think some of you were downright rude but to all the ones who put though into their answers then thanks I have to say that of the young guys who chat me up, I ask them why they are talking to me and they say I am hot and that they prefer older women as they younger girls are boring but who knows .... I dont want a young boyfriend anyway ... wouldnt want him to have to boof a corpse and look at my stretchmarks Oh and JamesM .... I may look 18 babe but I am 38 ... I am guessing from your posts that you are about 62? am I right? Edited November 7, 2009 by Lishy
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I'm 39 and had this 24 year old guy I was messing with for a while. I asked him once why he would be with me if he could easily have any girl he wanted his age. He said that younger girls are wrapped up in what they think they should have out of life (which causes emotional problems as they are torn between what they want and what society expects of them), and older women know what they want out of life and don't give a damn anymore about what they are 'expected' to do. He also said that the sex was better, much better. I guess in his case it was a simple matter of liking women with more life and sexual experience. Now that said, it was also clear that I was FWB material for him, and that he was looking for a GF his own age. He himself is caught up in the 'what people expect' part of his life. I don't guess dating and bringing a woman around his friends or home to meet his family that is my age is much of a realistic option for him. I'm so done with that now. I am (or soon will be) with a man a couple of years older than me. Looking forward to some serious experience myself.
Taramere Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 They like the idea of injecting life giving spunk into a dessicated corpse The offer to drive you around the Yorkshire Dales role-playing James and Helen from All Creatures Great And Small is hereby withdrawn.
Author Lishy Posted November 7, 2009 Author Posted November 7, 2009 The offer to drive you around the Yorkshire Dales role-playing James and Helen from All Creatures Great And Small is hereby withdrawn. What he said was quite vile wasn't it T?
A O Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 He said that younger girls are wrapped up in what they think they should have out of life (which causes emotional problems as they are torn between what they want and what society expects of them), and older women know what they want out of life and don't give a damn anymore about what they are 'expected' to do. I've seen/heard this so many times I'm starting to think that this is a stock-standard line the youngins use on older women. I, myself have known many well adjusted younger women and seen many dysfunctional older women. In other words, things aren't anywhere near as one-sided as this topic tends to portray. The offer to drive you around the Yorkshire Dales role-playing James and Helen from All Creatures Great And Small is hereby withdrawn. All Creatures Great And Small, damn, now that's an oldie. .
Taramere Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 What he said was quite vile wasn't it T? Siegfried Farnon would never have said anything like it, I'm sure.
burning 4 revenge Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Siegfried Farnon would never have said anything like it, I'm sure. Im not so sure Being a forty-something bachelor I can't imagine he wouldnt feel a little bit threatened by the whole "cougar" phenomenon at least a little bit Although he was a man of confidence so he probably wouldnt let it bother him much
Johnny M Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Now that said, it was also clear that I was FWB material for him, and that he was looking for a GF his own age. He himself is caught up in the 'what people expect' part of his life. I don't guess dating and bringing a woman around his friends or home to meet his family that is my age is much of a realistic option for him. Why on earth would he want a serious relationship with a woman 15 years his senior? When he's your age, you will practically be a senior citizen. And regrettably, unlike wine, women do not get better with age... He was with you because he could get sex any time he wanted without putting much effort into it. That's really the only reason why a man would date a much older woman. The part about sex being better with older is also a bunch of BS, for the most part.
Johnny M Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I've seen/heard this so many times I'm starting to think that this is a stock-standard line the youngins use on older women. Correct. It's nothing but a line.
Boundary Problem Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Is it because young guys think older women are easy or desperate? No. It is because we're hot. One young guy wanted me to go on msn. I said "what is msn?". He wanted to teach me, and I said, "No, go find a girl your own age". I'm 36 and it would just feel wrong to me to date a man in his twenties. They ask, but I just can't see myself doing it. Oh, and they are looking for a relationship. It isn't just about sex.
BentSpine Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 (edited) I think a lot of these guys are sick of shallow, sick of drama, sick of emotional emptiness, and really WANT a friend, girlfriend, who cares about them, who can talk to them, instead of: OMG !!!! CONSTANT texting my BFF'S and EX's because ..OMG !!!!melodymatters is spot on here. And let me add that after you've been repulsed by the OMGs of young women a few times too many, you can become conditioned to be turned off just by the mere sight of a young woman: The cycle of 1) See Young Woman -> 2) OMG from Young Woman -> 3) Nausea in Listening Man, it the cycle is happening more often than not, nausea will be triggered just by the sight of any young woman, suitable or unsuitable alike. In my case we really connected. We got each other's sense of humor, spoke hours every day and never did I have a dull moment when together or on the phone. We had 20+ years of age difference. Edited November 7, 2009 by BentSpine
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Why on earth would he want a serious relationship with a woman 15 years his senior? When he's your age, you will practically be a senior citizen. And regrettably, unlike wine, women do not get better with age... He was with you because he could get sex any time he wanted without putting much effort into it. That's really the only reason why a man would date a much older woman. The part about sex being better with older is also a bunch of BS, for the most part. I'm hurt. No. Really. I am. I'm aware of this, kid. It's all part of life and dating past my 'expiration' date and with a post cancer body. The things I think about myself in terms of dating/my age/the shape my body is in is far meaner, bleaker and more brutally truthful than you or anyone else can come up with. The sex was fantastic though. We at least both agreed on that, and when all was said and done that is really all we had in common. It was fun teaching him things. His experience was limited, but eventually he caught up.
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