boundaryproblem Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I'm watching what I eat. There is no way I could eat a whole entree. Maybe 1/2. Such a waste of food. First date. Do I get the doggie bag? What do I say in that agonizing moment, when the server comes by and all three of us look at my plate with lots of food still on it, but I'm full?
Lizzie60 Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I'm watching what I eat. There is no way I could eat a whole entree. Maybe 1/2. Such a waste of food. First date. Do I get the doggie bag? What do I say in that agonizing moment, when the server comes by and all three of us look at my plate with lots of food still on it, but I'm full? What I do, in that case, if the server asks me if I want to take the rest with me.. I say yes.. then outside.. I give it to the first homeless person around, who is just waiting for a good meal.. Don't let the server throw all that food in the garbage.. think about people who do not have the money to even get one meal a day... just saying..
Lakeside_runner Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 What I do, in that case, if the server asks me if I want to take the rest with me.. I say yes.. then outside.. I give it to the first homeless person around, who is just waiting for a good meal.. Don't let the server throw all that food in the garbage.. think about people who do not have the money to even get one meal a day... just saying.. This is an awesome response! It actually made my day. Good to know that there are still some nice and not-self-centered people out there...
Lizzie60 Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 This is an awesome response! It actually made my day. Good to know that there are still some nice and not-self-centered people out there... Well thank you... it works .. those people are never 'insulted' because you offer them your doggie bag.. they will thank you like 25 times.. they are just less fortunate.. I never give money... I rather send the money to the associations who take care of them.. not directly to them.. (they get booze or drugs) and I give them my doggie bag whenever I have one..
DanielMadr Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 What I do, in that case, if the server asks me if I want to take the rest with me.. I say yes.. then outside.. I give it to the first homeless person around, who is just waiting for a good meal.. Don't let the server throw all that food in the garbage.. think about people who do not have the money to even get one meal a day... just saying.. I hate to spoil it for you but its the booze they want.
Lizzie60 Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I hate to spoil it for you but its the booze they want. I don't drink... plus the ones I've seen and given my doggie bags sure could use some food..
conehead Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 why dont you just bag it and eat it the next day?
Boundary Problem Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 The issue is whether you drop the bag back in the car before you go for a walk or something. It is a hassle, the bag is always huge... Where I live the car parking is always far away from the restaurant, or might have come via public transit. So you are going for your romantic walk after and bag is huge and keeps crinkling and annoying me. I think the homeless person suggestion is great.
Johnny M Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 I'm watching what I eat. There is no way I could eat a whole entree. Maybe 1/2. If you're on a diet and don't want to waste food, don't order an entree. Get a salad or an appetizer or something like that. Getting a "doggy bag" on the first date is a terrible idea (and even more so if your date is paying for you).
Lucky_One Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 You can also ask for a half portion at most restaurants. I always get a doggie bag. I am lucky enough to live in an area where we park fairly close to a restaurant, and we are lucky enough to not have a big homeless population. It is silly and wasteful to throw away good food. Being too embarassed to ask for it just seems to be lacking in basic self-esteem or to feel that your own common sense isn't very sensible. If a man didn't like that I asked for left-overs to be bagged, then he isn't the man for me, anyway. If we have dated a lot, then I would even offer him the doggie bag, especially if he is paying. A new guy might be skeeved out by the leftover sharing, but if he has kissed me, then he shouldn't be having issues with my germs.
New Again Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 If you really have to, go ahead and ask for a doggie bag. However, the better thing to do would be as others suggested - DON'T order an entree, or ask for a half portion. Then you don't have to worry about a doggie bag, AND you're not being wasteful.
Boundary Problem Posted November 7, 2009 Posted November 7, 2009 Being too embarassed to ask for it just seems to be lacking in basic self-esteem or to feel that your own common sense isn't very sensible. I have to admit that I am nervous about the idea of a dinner date. I haven't been on one in years. When asked out, I divert them to coffee, drinks, a walk or I shut them down completely. The thing about coffee is that after 20 mins you can escape if you need to. Dinner brings complications and I'm just trying to work through them in my head. If I'm out with friends, of course I would get the doggie bag.
Lucky_One Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 I am truly curious. What sort of complications come from having dinner?
mortensorchid Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 Ask for an appetizer, a half, kid's or even senior's portion of food. Unless they specifically say no, you can always get an appetizer. That way you have less to throw out (if you end up not eating it), plus it costs less in the long run.
Confusedalways Posted November 8, 2009 Posted November 8, 2009 Yes definitely wrap the food- otherwise your date will think you did not like it. I don't think many people frown upon it, really!
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