Author sadgirl1 Posted November 16, 2009 Author Posted November 16, 2009 Hey Sadgirl1 may I ask, is that you in your avatar pic? Cause if so and your personality matches your looks,that guy who dumped you is a LOSER! If thats you,you are BEAUTIFUL.I mean it.Don't waste another day on that sorry loser who you call a Man.A coward is more like it.Remember there are real Men out there just dying to give a Women like yourself a lifetime of love,faithfilness, attention etc.Now go get it. YOu made me feel so good now with your words! Yes thats me lol but you know what? HE said the same thing when we first met... isnt this funny every guy says that and then they´re gone anyway even though i do everything for them and am not expecting anything back just a lil Love and attention! I really dont know why he said all those things to me and then left anyway for that B*** who made him unhappy for so long! Maybe he wants to be unhappy haha what an Idiot... unfortunately I love this *******! I started to read twilight now and i am so impressed with this Love they both share! Its so magical!
Author sadgirl1 Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 Ahhhh today is such a hard day for me! I wanted to break NC again but I stayed strong! But since i have the urge to text him i rather write it down here! God, thats so hard I just wanna have him back and all the good times and the fun we had! I soooo wanna text him that but i know there will be either no respond at all or not the one i wanna hear! and then of course it would hurt more! Since he broke up and went back to his ex i didnt hear anything from him at all! Its like he died and is out of my life! I dont see him I dont hear anything about him! Nothing! I wonder if he thinks about me I mean how could he forget me so soon?! Its a month now and sometimes i have those stupid thoughts like OK...now its enough of this crap won´t he just come back eventually realizing that he made a mistake!?!? They never really worked out together so why now??? Now he´s found me and said its oh so perfect and he´s happy and over a stupid fight he just left for her! The thing is that I just love him so much and that feeling won´t go away! I know most of you feel the same pain as me right now so i´m not alone! Should I ever break NC? My friend said to wait at least 3 months and then see where things went inbetween! I dont know what to do! he is an idiot and ********* and i should hate him but you know how hard it is
Author sadgirl1 Posted November 19, 2009 Author Posted November 19, 2009 Aaahhhhwwwww I´m back here once again just to write down my sorrow somewhere! I have this urge to text him and I cant get over it! Its been 5 weeks now and I just wanna do something! I dont know why or what it would bring cause he wouldnt respond anyway but i feel like telling him so much! How can a person be so cold who once was the best person on earth for you???!!!! HOW? How can this person forget all about you and not care at all???? How is this possible if he was such a lovely guy with a big heart??!!! i didnt hear from him since and its drivin me insane!!! I just want him to realize that he made a mistake and to break up with her for the 5 th time However he´s gotta see that its wrong dont he? Gosh all possible stories are going thru my head over and over again! Though i wanna stop i cant! Should I break NC? I really wanna stay strong and maybe this urge will pass in a few days but really its getting worse instead of better! I think i should wait but somehow i am so confused and cant get my mind clear!
sean1970 Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 Should I break NC? I really wanna stay strong and maybe this urge will pass in a few days but really its getting worse instead of better! Five weeks is a good stretch, nice job... What have you done for you in that time? I think i should wait but somehow i am so confused and cant get my mind clear! The answer is usually the same... If you are ok with being back at square one, then no one is going to tell you no... Think about it this way, however; you want him to show an interest in you again, that is clear. Wouldn't a message from him be that and the polar opposite of the feeling you are likely to have if you do and are rejected?
Author sadgirl1 Posted November 19, 2009 Author Posted November 19, 2009 Five weeks is a good stretch, nice job... What have you done for you in that time? I think i should wait but somehow i am so confused and cant get my mind clear! The answer is usually the same... If you are ok with being back at square one, then no one is going to tell you no... Think about it this way, however; you want him to show an interest in you again, that is clear. Wouldn't a message from him be that and the polar opposite of the feeling you are likely to have if you do and are rejected? yes you´re right so i better do not text him! not yet...maybe its too soon idk another thing is...i wanted to send a x-mas card to his parents in a few weeks cause i really liked them a lot and they liked me a lot too However it would only be for them though he lives at his parents still and would know about it i dont know if to do it then?! Should I or shouldnt I? Its only about being nice to them cause after all they always have been good to me and this way i want to show them i didnt forget that but on the other side I think this is the past and there should be no contact to the past at all! This wouldnt have to do anything with him would it? I just dont know where to go from here...its like i´m lost without him I bet you all know this feeling
Author sadgirl1 Posted November 22, 2009 Author Posted November 22, 2009 (edited) Oh god, I have his sister on my myspace and i just saw her away message sayin: smitten people are so annyoing! and I know she means HIM and HER!!!! I broke down in tears it just threw me off the edge I can´t take this! How can he be now oh so in love when he was that much in love with me just a few weeks ago I dont get it! How could he just forget all about us ?? Thats so hard right now and it hurts so much Okay now I wrote a long mail with all my feelings and everything I have to say to him! I dont know if I should send it... I would love him to know how things are but I would not want him to respond just to read and keep it in mind...IDK what to do now should I or not... Edited November 22, 2009 by sadgirl1
name witheld Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I can't believe that I'm reading and seeing all this. You are stunning and this guy is an idiot!! The problem clearly is not with you, it is with him and you have to realise he is flawed. No guy in their right mind would treat you like this. So please view him as if he is ill lol. Oh and don't send the email, save it. Check back in a week to see if you still want to send it. (that is advice given on here) All the advice I can offer is just that you surround yourself with people who care about you, stay off myspace/FB etc and think about how he has lost YOU! You won't be single for long. (once you want somebody else that is)
LovelyDaze Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Hey sadgirl1, DON'T SEND THE LETTER! You will feel worse if he doesn't respond. He will only think you are obsessed. In no way shape or form is this guy "in love" with the new girl. Not at all. She is a rebound to end all rebounds and he will be done with her shortly. What you need to is concentrate on YOU. It is the hardest thing in the world for us women to make the ultimate choice to not "try" anymore. Trying is easy. We write letters, text, e-mail, call , plot and plan and none of this works. It tells us all we need to know about her ex. No, it is not easy to get over him. It's damn hard work to do so. Try something you never have...autonomy.
aviation_chick Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 hey, i totally feel your pain, my relationship ended HORRIBLEY and now he removed me from facebook, deleted all of our pics, on top of everything else he wont talk to me because hes talking to this other girl, and it just KILLS me.. i know how you are feeling...i am going to try this NC thing but idk how long i can last i lasted 3 days the last time, adn then i ended up making a fool of myself only to find out he went to talk to this other girl, it is so ****ing hard.....how did you make it 3 WEEKS!?
aviation_chick Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Hey sadgirl1, DON'T SEND THE LETTER! You will feel worse if he doesn't respond. He will only think you are obsessed. In no way shape or form is this guy "in love" with the new girl. Not at all. She is a rebound to end all rebounds and he will be done with her shortly. What you need to is concentrate on YOU. It is the hardest thing in the world for us women to make the ultimate choice to not "try" anymore. Trying is easy. We write letters, text, e-mail, call , plot and plan and none of this works. It tells us all we need to know about her ex. No, it is not easy to get over him. It's damn hard work to do so. Try something you never have...autonomy. "Being broken-hearted is like having broken ribs. On the outside it looks like nothing's wrong, but every breath hurts."
Author sadgirl1 Posted November 23, 2009 Author Posted November 23, 2009 Hey sadgirl1, DON'T SEND THE LETTER! You will feel worse if he doesn't respond. He will only think you are obsessed. In no way shape or form is this guy "in love" with the new girl. Not at all. She is a rebound to end all rebounds and he will be done with her shortly. What you need to is concentrate on YOU. It is the hardest thing in the world for us women to make the ultimate choice to not "try" anymore. Trying is easy. We write letters, text, e-mail, call , plot and plan and none of this works. It tells us all we need to know about her ex. No, it is not easy to get over him. It's damn hard work to do so. Try something you never have...autonomy. Yeah well she is his ex and now new girl again! He was telling me that she was a B**** when they were together and he was so happy he found a girl like me cause we matched so wonderful and had such a great time...but still he left for someone he was talkin bad about... well he said she just wasnt the right one and now he went back to her even though it was all perfect with us? WHY and why is he now oh so in Love with this girl when they have been seperated like 4 or 5 times before?! When he left her last time it was because he couldnt stand it anymore to be with her! Two months later I met him and he was so happy with me I dont get it and I never will....Can a guy really forget someone ( in this case me) so quickly? Its just a couple of weeks ago that it all happend Now with this mail i wrote I just wanna send it and I dont even want a respond...I just want him to know how I feel! I dont know if its a good idea break NC thru this cause I´ve been strong not doing it for the past month but now I just feel like he´s gotta know it! IDK what to do
sean1970 Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Now with this mail i wrote I just wanna send it and I dont even want a respond...I just want him to know how I feel! I dont know if its a good idea break NC thru this cause I´ve been strong not doing it for the past month but now I just feel like he´s gotta know it! IDK what to do You also want respect, yes? Will this give you that?
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