sandflea Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Man. "The talk". Never underestimate the importance of the little discussion. I've gotten 2 emails this week offering condolences about me and so and so. Meanwhile, so and so keeps calling saying how much she misses me, etc. I can't decide whether to be hurt or outraged. Oh, yeah - both. Bummer. SF
sean1970 Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Dude... I had more breadcrumbs thrown my way, you would have thought she was shooting them from a cannon at a Progresso factory... It always made me wonder, usually made me act, always a disappointment. Use the outrage to battle the hurt... Know that she is being very selfish and cares not how it affects you. "I miss you" = "I want you to still miss me"
GrayClouds Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Dude... I had more breadcrumbs thrown my way, you would have thought she was shooting them from a cannon at a Progresso factory... :laugh:Nice
threebyfate Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 If you want finality, have the talk. If you don't, enforce NC by blocking her number. Something tells me that you're enjoying this, in that each time she contacts, it strokes your ego too. As long as you realize this, that's fine. But don't hide behind "outrage".
Author sandflea Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 Sad, but true. Kept on the string. What's worse is she has several of her new exploits out on facebook. Obviously, I've hidden that stuff. So much fore remaining friends. Sigh. In the immortal words of a sage from long ago "Next!". We were only going out like 2 months so I guess I should be thankful I didn't invest more in her. Dude... I had more breadcrumbs thrown my way, you would have thought she was shooting them from a cannon at a Progresso factory... It always made me wonder, usually made me act, always a disappointment. Use the outrage to battle the hurt... Know that she is being very selfish and cares not how it affects you. "I miss you" = "I want you to still miss me"
lilbelle Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Hey sf. Sorry you're going through this but we all know how you feel. My experience is I took him back. Lasted 2 weeks I thought everything was great and then bam. Silence for 2 weeks then told his heart belongs to someone else. That not only put me back to where I started but was like a knife being twisted in my heart. I suggest stay nc. Otherwise you will end up like me. I had to block the number and delete it. My relationship was about 2 months as well and better to find out now then 6 months down the road. Still hurts but I just stay busy and there are plenty of fish in the sea. I still hope but that will fade with time. Best of luck to you.
Author sandflea Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 Thanks lilbelle. Thought I had it nailed this time. Had a talk early on about how many mutual friends we have - how we can't screw up all of our many friendships if/when we don't work out. Honestly, she's a bit younger, so I didn't exactly expect this to end up in marriage . I think at this point "the talk" is pretty pointless. I can be an adult, and take her call - but I did get hurt a bit. Not too much. I'm not loosing sleep, I'm not up crying or pacing the halls. I AM however back on Loveshack... LOL! Just takes time. I appreciate everyone's kind words. Gonna keep my chin up! Cheers! SF Hey sf. Sorry you're going through this but we all know how you feel. My experience is I took him back. Lasted 2 weeks I thought everything was great and then bam. Silence for 2 weeks then told his heart belongs to someone else. That not only put me back to where I started but was like a knife being twisted in my heart. I suggest stay nc. Otherwise you will end up like me. I had to block the number and delete it. My relationship was about 2 months as well and better to find out now then 6 months down the road. Still hurts but I just stay busy and there are plenty of fish in the sea. I still hope but that will fade with time. Best of luck to you.
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