xpaperxcutx Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 So I made an attempt to patch things up with my friend since I realized I didn't make a good effort before. I wrote him an email ( I deleted his number) and asked him to hang out this coming Sunday. He said yes, and now we're making plans. He has no plans. His basic of idea of fun is walking around the city, and while the idea may sound great to some people, just the dull image of walking around midtown back and forth is starting to sound an alarm in my head. The last time we were together, he kept me walking for 6 hours straight from downtown to midtown, to 42nd St in late May ( with chilly weather). We agreed to give each other a chance to work things out but suddenly I'm just bored. It's like, so if we're going on a date, why are you not being clear on what you want us to do? And he wants to meet at 5. I wanted to go out to the city in the morning.
BookerT Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Then tell him that's a friggin bad idea and go watch a movie and grab some food.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 Then tell him that's a friggin bad idea and go watch a movie and grab some food. A movie and dinner is worse, I'm already yawning. I want an unconventional date.
Rudderless Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Then leave him to someone who would enjoy walking around for 6 hours, or would find a way to create alternate plans. Do you even like spending time with him?
BookerT Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Wow look who's picky! Go skinny dipping in Central Park at night, yeah this time of year too. That's unconventional.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 Then leave him to someone who would enjoy walking around for 6 hours, or would find a way to create alternate plans. Do you even like spending time with him? He's a great person and really great company, but the last time I went out with him, he kept me walking until 1 in the morning, and I was falling asleep on the train. I just wish he was more definitive in plans rather than telling me " we'll see how it goes..."
Author xpaperxcutx Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 Wow look who's picky! Go skinny dipping in Central Park at night, yeah this time of year too. That's unconventional. I'm not trying to be picky... it's just a dinner and a movie sounds so boring.... always is... hell I would go for a picnic in central park at night.
Rudderless Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 He's a great person and really great company, but the last time I went out with him, he kept me walking until 1 in the morning, and I was falling asleep on the train. I just wish he was more definitive in plans rather than telling me " we'll see how it goes..." Well what's more unconventional than that then? Seriously though, why not take the initiative and decide on where to go? What's wrong with that?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 Well what's more unconventional than that then? Seriously though, why not take the initiative and decide on where to go? What's wrong with that? I don't know how to speak my mind with him. It seems like while we have a lot of things in common, I can't be open with him as much as I would like. Am I worried that I may say or do something that would make him hate me? A little. I'm so confused.
Rudderless Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I don't know how to speak my mind with him. It seems like while we have a lot of things in common, I can't be open with him as much as I would like. Am I worried that I may say or do something that would make him hate me? A little. I'm so confused. You don't need to speak your mind in this case though. Plan an activity, wherever you would like to go. Problem solved!
Author xpaperxcutx Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 You don't need to speak your mind in this case though. Plan an activity, wherever you would like to go. Problem solved! Actually telling him would be speaking my mind wouldn't it? I'll just see if he would like to get some dimsum and maybe we can check out a museum or go to the village. And the thing is I would like to dress nice for the date, which would mean wearing heels. That's why I don't want to walk around all that much.
Rudderless Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Actually telling him would be speaking my mind wouldn't it? I'll just see if he would like to get some dimsum and maybe we can check out a museum or go to the village. Not really, you're not "confronting him" or anything, seriously what's the big deal? I don't get it? Just tell you're going to get some dimsum and see a museum. By the sounds of it he'll appreciate the initiative.
Els Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I'll just see if he would like to get some dimsum and maybe we can check out a museum or go to the village. And the thing is I would like to dress nice for the date, which would mean wearing heels. That's why I don't want to walk around all that much. Don't quite see the problem. Just tell him that, then - and if he wants to drag you around walking for 6 hours, point at your heels. Most men would get it.
DustySaltus Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Have him take you to brunch at the boathouse in central park, then take a boat out on the lake. The food there is great, plus it's going to be 65 on Sunday, so it should be perfect. Bring an extra pair of shoes, take a walk around the park and go to Serendipity for Dessert on 60th between 2nd & 3rd Ave (Get the frozen hot chocolate).....good luck.
New Again Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I don't know your whole history papercut, but seriously, if you don't want to say something this time, then next time you ask him to do something, have something specific that you ask him to do. And of course, since this time he said something about seeing how it goes...can't you just plan out some places to go/activities in the area and just direct him there in an indirect way, without having to plan it with him beforehand? AND of course, you have a third option, which is if you're bored or put off by his laid back attitude, find someone else who meshes with your sense of adventure a bit more
boogieboy Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 If he hates you because you dont want to walk around the city, then no more friend. Problem solved. Tell him you want to wear heels, and tell him ahead of time. You never know, he might come up with a great idea himself.
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