edgar Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 came home from work on halloween night, around midnight expecting her to be there as usual. house is empty, call her phone no answer. get a bit upset and call a couple more time, still no answer. so at this point I am kind of worried, and try to relax and not get carried away. fast forward to 3 AM, she comes home, drunk, all dressed up.. so I tell her I was worried, and where was she? she tells me with her friend megan. she is someone that has no apparent problem with lying, and is usually fairly good at it, so keeping this in mind I check her phone and find the # she called. call it and a guy answer. ok so she lied and was out with a guy. I am pretty tore up about it of course, and so I leave the next day to spend the night out at my moms. she calls at 10pm and we talk for a bit, she says she cant talk anymore and hangs up. I come home today, and I spot a condom wrapper in the garbage can, now we just bought a 30 pack the other day, used one and the wrapper is still beside the bed. so I check her phone and she called the guy at 10 the night before and then phoned me but had to go suddenly. seems pretty cut and dry I know, but I want to give her the benefit of the doubt, can I ? btw she is probably not without her reasons, I have been in depression for the past few months, although I talk about it, recognise it and and trying to get out of it. so in other words I have not been the best company and this may be the reason.
boldjack Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Dude, of course she's cheating on you. Dump her now.
Space Ritual Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 TRICK OR TREAT.....SHE DID CHEAT! Sorry about that, Edgar. Ive been waiting to use that being Halloween had just passed and I actually was here that night wondering to myself (in a morbid fashion) "How long it will take for somebody to post here about their significant other or spouse cheating on Halloween?" But yes, I don't care if you are depressed or not, she got some Man candy on Halloween and you got the proverbial bag of burning poop on your porch. There is never a reason to cheat..EVER! So stop that crap about "having her reasons". she is a liar, and a cheater Dump her this instant 1
road Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 You do not have to rely on your gut feelings you have proof that she is cheating. Dump her. Why do you want someone that is cheating on you? Are you going to wait around while she bangs the OM and gives you a STD, or she gets knocked up and try to pass it off as yours?
JustLooking123 Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Even if she didn't (although I think she did), you don't trust her and describe her as someone who can easily lie. Why do you want to be with someone like that?
New Again Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Does anyone else see a problem with the fact that the OP's gf is so dumb that she didn't even try to hide the evidence? I think OP and his gf have some serious issues, and probably a history of this kind of thing. Maybe she wanted him to find out. Dude, you have to say something.
Dexter Morgan Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 yes, she cheated, without a doubt. let alone, she lied and was out with a guy and was ignoring your phone calls. I have made some rules for myself after being played for a fool....and one of them is, any woman of mine that comes home that late, much less drunk, needs to turn around and walk right back out the door and never come back. she disrespected you.....show her you are a man that won't put up with it and deserve better than someone like her. give her the pink slip.
Space Ritual Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I was thinking the same thing when I originally replied. Yeah apart from the fact that the condom wrapper was sitting in the wastebasket was that he has such easy access to her phone to check last dialed or received numbers. Pretty cold blooded way to try to get him to take a hint if thats the case.
New Again Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I was thinking the same thing when I originally replied. Yeah apart from the fact that the condom wrapper was sitting in the wastebasket was that he has such easy access to her phone to check last dialed or received numbers. Pretty cold blooded way to try to get him to take a hint if thats the case. Agreed. I suspect there's some seriously bad history between these two.
Dexter Morgan Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 btw she is probably not without her reasons, I have been in depression for the past few months, although I talk about it, recognise it and and trying to get out of it. so in other words I have not been the best company and this may be the reason. dont make excuses for her. if you are in a depression a good girlfriend would try to help you.....not further throw you in a depression by screwing another guy. what you have is a fickle little tart on your hands. best to move on...a girl like this won't do much for your depression, and can only make it worse.
Author edgar Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 thanks for all the replies, I didn't really need to ask, but I do. what I have is stockholm syndrome. all the evidence and I still want to give her the benefit of the doubt, because she came from a very conservative background and this doesn't fit with that. but then again we have been drifting apart for several months and this is a way for her to completely sever the relationship. so that said, the reason I posted this on here in the first place is because I have a vivid imagination and see a conspiracy in everything. so I thought that might play a part in suspecting the cheating. it is completely ridiculous I know
boldjack Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Edgar, it isn't ridiculous. Sometimes we need to vocalize or write down our thoughts, in order to make sense of them. You have my sympathy . Good Luck in the future.:)
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