HeavenOrHell Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Argh! Help, I really want to text him But I know I mustn't. How do I stop myself? I usually give in
angelface78 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Nobody can stop you. We will all tell you dont do it and you will do it anyway. Eventually after hurting yourself over and over you will stop on your own!! It happens when you face reality and stop living in a fantasy. If its over its over!!! Respect yourself....he is not texting you is he?? Why are you texting him??
Ms. Joolie Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 When was the last time you've heard from him? And what do you want to say to him anyway that's so important?
PinkToes Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Lock your phone in the car! This is especially helpful for those late-night temptations.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 I don't have a car, hehe! I want to text him cos I started NC 10 or 11 days ago, I miss the contact. Yes he was texting me and meeting me until I said I need space, he wants to see me, but he understands I need space. He left 4 months ago nearly after 18 years.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 Since not seeing him 11 days ago I have texted him and he emailed me, and a little facebook contact Trying to go totally NC now, no texting or emails from either of us for 4 days Pathetic! When was the last time you've heard from him? And what do you want to say to him anyway that's so important?
Ms. Joolie Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Then I think texting him would be needy. Wait until you are ready to have open and honest conversation with him on the phone. No texts. Unless your going all out NC, and don't plan to ever talk to him again, which I understand from your situation that would not be practical.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 About 4 days ago, but he said to me a couple of weeks ago that he'd see me every day and be on the phone to me all the time if he could (if that wouldnt be bad for me), he wants a lot of contact, but he said he will respect that I need space, he said he'd be thinking of me and would be happy to hear from me anytime. When was the last time you've heard from him? And what do you want to say to him anyway that's so important?
Author HeavenOrHell Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 I just need some space, but I dont want it to be forever and he certainly doesnt, even if we can't be lovers again, we dont want to lose each other as friends, we're so close still. You're right, it would be needy, I won't text him Admittedly part of me hopes he will miss me during NC, at the moment I am just thinking not see him for another week or two, usually we see each other twice a week. But I also want to let go a little and move on in case there is no hope for us, he has not said there is hope. Well he said 3 weeks ago he already misses me (even though we were still meeting), that was after I said would you miss me if I went NC. Then I think texting him would be needy. Wait until you are ready to have open and honest conversation with him on the phone. No texts. Unless your going all out NC, and don't plan to ever talk to him again, which I understand from your situation that would not be practical.
PinkToes Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 So...... maybe leave it outside somewhere? Or let the battery run down. Do you know his phone number? If not, and you aren't ready to delete it or block him, write it down and hide it somewhere, then delete everything. Anything that would put a few extra steps between you & the desire. You don't need to cut everything off if you're not ready, but at times like this, maybe just try to make it logistically difficult for you to give in to the urge.
Ms. Joolie Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 You're right, it would be needy, I won't text him yay! Good! We've got your back.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 :laugh: yay! Good! We've got your back.
lilbelle Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Okay new rule. Texting is not a good form of communication. You cannot hear the persons tone of voice. Words can be confused. No texting. If you have something meaningful to say call and say it or do it in person. No texts.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 Very true! Okay new rule. Texting is not a good form of communication. You cannot hear the persons tone of voice. Words can be confused. No texting. If you have something meaningful to say call and say it or do it in person. No texts.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 Yes his number is etched in my brain Thanks hun So...... maybe leave it outside somewhere? Or let the battery run down. Do you know his phone number? If not, and you aren't ready to delete it or block him, write it down and hide it somewhere, then delete everything. Anything that would put a few extra steps between you & the desire. You don't need to cut everything off if you're not ready, but at times like this, maybe just try to make it logistically difficult for you to give in to the urge.
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