Author McGrupp Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 ive been reading up on this co-dependancy thing and thats what i am. **** . its crazy but like 10 of the 12 things i am guilty of.
Bulldozed Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 McGrupp - when she responding, "You still haven't given me enough time"...for what is she referring to? Enough time to realize her mistake, or enough time to put you behind her?
Author McGrupp Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 i dont know. this whole thing was a time thing. we went from kinda weird to me suggesting we have space to me calling her one day maybe a week after that and her ending it. and then me calling again, and again, and again. unfortunately i didnt give her any and she has moved on as far as i can see. she still picks up and enjoys my convo to a point. but she had moved on. i just cant get it through my head that she has. maybe like 3 or 4 conversations ago it was well im not sure, now its like have a nice life. this is why im depressed because i did this. and here we go again.
Author McGrupp Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 what do i do? again freaking out at work. again ravaging LS. wtf is wrong with me?
lilbelle Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 your heartbroke that's whats wrong but you must be disciplined. you are stronger than this. every time you want to break nc you have to find a way to channel it. block her number, and delete it. google your phone provider and how to block. just breath, your gonna make it through this and be okay.
Author McGrupp Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 feel really great right now. again the waves of this thing. went to the meeting. sitting around in a dank church basement with 7 other individuals who cant quite cope because they never let go and over analyze and cant make proper connections i realized i had to pull myself out of this. this is all me now. i dont care about her anymore. im sure ill have my down moments but lets go. there was a kind lady there still stressing one year later over her 4 month relationship. she was still contacting him all day. having her friends call him and so forth. THATS WHY WE MUST GO NC
Bulldozed Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 McGrupp - what's you advice for getting over an ex whose best friend is your business partner? I went out with my partner to visit a client this evening and I learned some interesting things about my ex that she may have had an affair last spring when I was out of town on business...my GOD...how is it possible to NOT know someone, who just 3 months ago said she couldn't wait to have my babies? And talking about our wedding...etc....This is ****ING Maddening....he couldn't confirm, he just said he had an instinct when his gf and my ex were talking, based on body language....It's killing me, slowly....I need to move on, but it's so hard to focus...I lost my job a few wks ago when I snapped at my boss for bashing my ex....he canned me...not only for that, but he thinks he's also spared himself paying me a commission on the biggest Automotive contract he's ever had, since being in business.....my fraternity/lawyer brothers are chompin to get a hold of this guy in court....in the end it doesn't matter, i just want my gf back.....
Author McGrupp Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 (edited) thats tough dude. the best thing about my situation is all our friends are my friends so they havent talked to her, nor care to. that being said, i would ask your biz partner to not bring it up. listen man there is a reason NC is preached. we are suffering because we are letting ourselves. lets get out of this and move forward. so you are unemployed or have a business partner? Edited November 6, 2009 by McGrupp
Bulldozed Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 clarification....my business partners gf is my ex's best friend....
Bulldozed Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I was a sales manager for an Automotive Supplier/Manufacturer....a year and half ago, my buddy and I started a Web Development/On-line Marketing company....cutting edge stuff....it's his gf that grew up with my ex.....I'm working the web biz full time now....I'm 43, was ready to settle down and start a family just 3 months ago....I've still got a 7k ring sitting in my safe that I was planning on giving my ex this month in Vegas....now she's bangin her best friends ex-husband.
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