DustySaltus Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 (edited) It seems that in the women that I have met online a large percentage of them were either crazy, flaky or looked completely different from their picture. Initially, they all seemed to mask it very well. I'm wondering if anyone has similar thoughts about a guy/girl that they have met via online dating sites? My experience: Crazy: She told me that Jesus came back as a Korean Woman in 1948 and lived there until 1975. Also, the world shall end in 2011, but she wants kids in the next five years. Flake: Standing by the central park boathouse and she never shows up....never heard from her again. Liar: 10 years older and 50 pounds heavier than the actual pic she sent. (My friend suggested that I should tell girls to take a picture of themselves with today's newspaper to verify that they are who they say they are. Makes sense, but seems very hard to pull off. I did meet a few that seemed normal but based upon the above shenanigans it seems like I am waiting for the other shoe to drop..... I would say a fair percentage is 75%. Edited November 5, 2009 by DustySaltus
aerogurl87 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Haha well I've mostly met sane men offline. One guy was a flake though. We had been talking for about 2 weeks and everything was great. Then we met for coffee and all was good too. We ended up going to a movie that night together, cuddled some, and everything. I found it odd that he didn't try to kiss me but whatever. So then the next day he texted me saying that he had a great time and couldn't wait to see me again. Great right? Well then the next day he didn't text, call, nothing. So finally he texted me back about 2 days later and just flipped, a total 180. Apparently he had told me to lose his number and to never contact him again (umm, I guess I never got the imaginary memo he sent, but whatever). That was probably my worse experience aside from the huge Sci-Fi fanguy I met who had a giant head and thought that me agreeing to hang out was really a date and he was going to get laid that night.
Author DustySaltus Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 Wait he was a fan of SCi-Fi or his head was so big that he looked like a guy from a sci-fi movie? I think it's much easier to weed out whether or not someone is flaky based upon meeting them in person, but even then who knows?
alphamale Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 I would say a fair percentage is 75%. i would say the online dating world consists of 90% cretins
aerogurl87 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Wait he was a fan of SCi-Fi or his head was so big that he looked like a guy from a sci-fi movie? I think it's much easier to weed out whether or not someone is flaky based upon meeting them in person, but even then who knows? Lol, no he was just a big sci-fi fan AND he had this huge head. But since I wasn't dating or planning on dating him I hung out with him anyway. What got me was the fact that the next day after we hung out, he asked me what I thought the best part of our date was and I was like "what date? We were hanging out as friends." So then he tried to say he didn't feel a connection between us, although the day before he had been chatting me up all night and trying to kiss me, blah blah blah. So I guess he was just trying to achieve the minimal amount of embarrassment by that point.
canadaguy98 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 I've not met any crazy ones through online. Flake I'd say is about 60%. Just there for the attention. Liar makes up another 38%. Lying about age height weight job career. 2% are good but are so scared because they are so inundated that they dont reply to anyone. Lol
Author DustySaltus Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 Lol, no he was just a big sci-fi fan AND he had this huge head. But since I wasn't dating or planning on dating him I hung out with him anyway. What got me was the fact that the next day after we hung out, he asked me what I thought the best part of our date was and I was like "what date? We were hanging out as friends." What time did you guys meet for coffee? It could be constituted as a date....well, until you dropped the hammer and told him "what date". At that point it was game, set & match. You think a guy with that big of a head would get the point.
Tiz Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 I'm not into online dating myself, but someone said in an earlier post that most of the flakes are not even there to actually go on real dates. Their intention is solely to get the validation and attention from the agreement of the date, dialog, correspondence, etc. and then pull a no-show. That makes me sick to my stomach.
Isolde Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 (edited) The people I've met online this year tended to be normal, but that's only because I am extremely selective about whom to meet with. Of those few people, none resulted in a second date. I now suspect I'm as good or better off meeting people IRL. Edited November 5, 2009 by Isolde
canadaguy98 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 in my foray into online dating I got into a relationship with one, slept with three others went on first dates with five more. IMO online dating is a great way to get someone to bang but not a great way to get into a relationship. the good girls your looking for a relationship from are so damn scared of meeting a nutjob weirdo that they bounce on the first date or will never book a second. i had this one girl I quite liked, we went out for drinks at 2 in the afternoon (my kinda girl, lol ) and had great conversation, talked about all sorts of stuff, she said she had a great time and wanted to do it again some time, but obviously her friends talked her out of it, because when I tried to invite her for dinner and a movie she said she didn't feel the connection... which was dumb because after I walked her to her car she was the one who said we should do this again sometime comes down to having their guard up too high because of the internet weirdo factor. Some of them though, they are in that "i dont care" mode, and as long as you come across as a good nice guy you play your cards right and you can get laid either that very night if not in a couple days. as I recall I had some pretty explosive sex with one of them, it was a lot of fun, but neither of us really wanted a relationship with eachother even though we were both flagged as "long term". I still bump into that girl all over the place; I wouldn't say we're friends or anything but when I do bump into her and say hi, we both have a dry smiles cracked when we talk for a minute before going off to wherever we were going. too many liars online though. watch yourself. especially married women not wearing their wedding rings. i even asked one (the one I got into a relationship with) outright and direct if she was married and said I had no intention of being with a married chick (as I had been persued by several online before meeting her) and she told me flatly no that she wasnt married. turned out she was married and living with her husband. watch out for liars online!
Author DustySaltus Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 The people I've met online this year tended to be normal, but that's only because I am extremely selective about whom to meet with. Of those few people, none resulted in a second date. I now suspect I'm as good or better off meeting people IRL. I've met all types IRL and Online but it just seems exponentially higher online.
BCCA Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 I've met all types IRL and Online but it just seems exponentially higher online. Thats the general consensus Ive gotten as well from several people. I know tons of friends that tried match and eharmony, and said it was an absolute nightmare, and specifically mentioned the same things you did. I'll stick with meeting people IRL.
Author DustySaltus Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 I think the biggest problem with online dating is that you meet someone that seems normal and all your brain is saying is: "There's got to be something wrong with this person? What's wrong with this person? It was just too easy to meet this person. Is she a psycho? Does she have baby mama drama? Is she a serial dater? How come everyone at this bar knows her already? Why did we have to meet in the basement of the border's bookstore? Geez, that's a big adam's apple. Damn, she sure has a lot of makeup on. Why is she pulling out a powerpoint presentation on her life in the next ten years? I thought she told me she went to school in NY, not Wisconsin? How many jobs does she have? Why am I still here? Hypothetical of course;)
aerogurl87 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 What time did you guys meet for coffee? It could be constituted as a date....well, until you dropped the hammer and told him "what date". At that point it was game, set & match. You think a guy with that big of a head would get the point. It was after dinner because I had already promised some of my friends I'd go out to dinner with them. So after dinner, around 8ish I guess. The thing is I didn't see it as a date and I don't think he really got that his chances with me were zero until after near the end of our conversation the following day. It went as follows: Him: So what was the best part of our date last night to you? Me: My ride home, they had some good stuff on the radio. And it wasn't a date, we were just hanging out. Him: Oh well yeah, I didn't feel the chemistry either. So let's just be friends.
aerogurl87 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 I've met all types IRL and Online but it just seems exponentially higher online. I'm the opposite. For some reason I seem to meet more crazies in real life than online. It's like I have a magnet for stalkers and psychos glued to me for some reason.
BCCA Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Me: My ride home, they had some good stuff on the radio. And it wasn't a date, we were just hanging out. OUCH! lol Did this guy do something to offend you, or was that the only way you could think of for being direct?
aerogurl87 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 OUCH! lol Did this guy do something to offend you, or was that the only way you could think of for being direct? A little bit of both. First he kept telling me that maybe we should go back to his place and spend some more time together. Umm yeah, I could see "I want to sleep with you" written all over his face, so NEXT! Then he didn't seem to get the point so I was just plain direct and told him the truth.
Author DustySaltus Posted November 5, 2009 Author Posted November 5, 2009 OUCH! lol Did this guy do something to offend you, or was that the only way you could think of for being direct? Hopefully he didn't drive 35 miles to hear this lol....
JoJola Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Oh yes, on line dating....my personal opinion (for whatever its worth) is all the men on there are jst tryin to see how many women they can sleep with...that is what I am finding!
BCCA Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 A little bit of both. First he kept telling me that maybe we should go back to his place and spend some more time together. Umm yeah, I could see "I want to sleep with you" written all over his face, so NEXT! Then he didn't seem to get the point so I was just plain direct and told him the truth. Yeah sleaze move for sure, but I would have just ignored him after that. I just find it funny that women seem to either be indirect, or totally harsh haha At least he knew for sure after that! Hopefully he didn't drive 35 miles to hear this lol.... No kidding! LOL Oh yes, on line dating....my personal opinion (for whatever its worth) is all the men on there are jst tryin to see how many women they can sleep with...that is what I am finding! Yet women keep sleeping with these guys. They think they can get laid, because - gasp - they ARE getting laid, and the other women in your shoes are giving them what they want. Im not saying people cant be slimeballs, but women really shouldnt complain about guys just wanting sex, ESPECIALLY if you sleep with them.
aerogurl87 Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Hopefully he didn't drive 35 miles to hear this lol.... Lol, no he didn't. Yeah sleaze move for sure, but I would have just ignored him after that. I just find it funny that women seem to either be indirect, or totally harsh haha At least he knew for sure after that! I didn't mean to come off as harsh but I was tired and irritated already, so it came out in the most blunt way possible when I was talking to him. Plus I've found that me trying to be nice to guys and tell them I'm not interested usually gets interpreted as "I'm trying to play hard to get but I'm really interested." So now I just get straight to the point for the most part if a guy doesn't get it. Yet women keep sleeping with these guys. They think they can get laid, because - gasp - they ARE getting laid, and the other women in your shoes are giving them what they want. Im not saying people cant be slimeballs, but women really shouldnt complain about guys just wanting sex, ESPECIALLY if you sleep with them. I agree with you here. If women didn't keep sleeping with guys they met offline then they'd start to get the hint and stop trying all the time. But if you give it up to a man and he realizes that one of the easiest ways to get laid is to meet a girl offline, then he'll just keep doing it till it doesn't work anymore. Also I read somewhere that women who meet a guy offline are alot more likely to sleep with him on the first date than those who meet in real life. They're also alot more likely to not use protection (and that's a scary thought).
BCCA Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Plus I've found that me trying to be nice to guys and tell them I'm not interested usually gets interpreted as "I'm trying to play hard to get but I'm really interested." So now I just get straight to the point for the most part if a guy doesn't get it. I know, and I agree that it has to come to that sometimes. Some people are just dense lol If women didn't keep sleeping with guys they met offline then they'd start to get the hint and stop trying all the time. But if you give it up to a man and he realizes that one of the easiest ways to get laid is to meet a girl offline, then he'll just keep doing it till it doesn't work anymore We all get duped into believing things that arent true, but it seems like many women online sleep with guys way too soon, and then turn around and complain about it. If you werent sure what his intentions were, dont get naked with him. If he values and respects you, he'll be patient. If he keeps pushing things to the bedroom, thats all he wants. Also I read somewhere that women who meet a guy offline are alot more likely to sleep with him on the first date than those who meet in real life I think many people view online dating as some kind of 'short cut' to finding someone to date, so they move fast and hard, thinking that they have magically weeded out all the bozos by not meeting them in a shady bar. There are a lot more people online then there are in all the bars in your city, so chances are - there are PLENTY of creeps online. They're also alot more likely to not use protection (and that's a scary thought). Ew. Honestly, WHO sleeps with someone they havent been dating for a long time without using protection? Ill pass on the STDs and unwanted kids, thanks.
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