someguyonthenet Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Hey all, Ive been broken up with my gf for about 2 months now, i must say im doing much better than i was in the beginning. I did want the relationship to work, but she wasnt in it as much as i was!. Regardless, it ended!. took me a while to admit it vs deny that it was really over. I was super-emo in the beginnning and gradually got better. For some odd reason in the mornings i have a little tuff time with things. I can't figure it out, y im ok during the day and night even, but in the mornings i hurt/remember/you should know all the symptoms. I must say it does go away, but you would tink it would never start in the first place!
hopefullove Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 the mornings are easy for me, i just got up, fresh from some crazy dream, im not thinking of anything but getting to work on time, and wanting to go back to sleep... its the rest of the day that gets hard, the time to myself, and thinking...
Lost&Found Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Mornings are hardest for me too. I generally worry about stuff a lot more when I am waking up. The logical part of my brain that tells me not to worry so much about stuff must not quite be fully functional when I'm still half asleep!
KSSDallas Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 The mornings have been the hardest for me. He used to stay with me four nights a week, so when the alarm goes off and he's not the first thing I see it hits me all over again. I have made one adjustment that has helped though. We used to set the alarm for 6:30 and then cuddle til he needed to leave at 6:45. I don't actually need to be waking up until 7 so I've now started setting my alarm to that time. It helps because I don't see 6:30 and not get to see him. If there's something you can do to change your morning routine that might be a help...not a fix...but a help.
name witheld Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 yeah mornings are worst for me too. kinda depressed in the morning so harder to get up. probably because you have been sleeping, dreaming and when you wake up - boom! reality hits. I'm ok during the day though, getting stronger as each one comes. Agree that because she is not there everynight now its harder.
Vampire Posted November 5, 2009 Posted November 5, 2009 Just to add weight to it, yep, mornings were incredibly hard. Sleep took ages to come and when it did, it was crap. But every morning when I woke up, for a second or two, I was ok and then BANG, it hit me and I realised what had happened and my mind felt like a hurricane and I kept thinking "I can't believe I've lost her." Now, I'm at the stage where the thought does enter my mind, but not with the force and speed of a bullet train. In time, we will wake - think - go back to sleep. Unfortunately, it's the dreams that hurt like a bitch. They are so real and painful. I hope they too leave me be.
USMCHokie Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Mornings were also the hardest for me...waking up and realizing another day will go by that she's no longer in my life...and another day going by that she's closer to forgetting about me...it took me a couple months to get over the sick feeling I got in the morning...sometimes it will still hit me unexpectedly...
Eisenhower Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Yep, same here. I almost start feeling ok late at night, but as soon as my eyes open in the morning (or if I wake up in the middle of the night) - BOOM! It's right there in my face like a frying pan hitting me ... and then I pull into the parking lot at work and see her car and BOOM! ... another blow ... I look forward to the day when I wake up and don't think about her anymore ... Eisenhower
amtz Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Hits me to!!! I go to sleep OK since I'm kinda of tired.... But as soon as I wake up the first 3/4 of the hour I feel like crying. Might be the dreams that seem so real but in the end its just what it is... A dream!!! Also the fact that knowing I cant kiss her and wish her a great day!!
squirtle Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 yep they sure are. i think its cause i wake up in my own bed, not at his place. everything seems to hit all at once u just wake up from a nice night of dreaming and then reality hits u in the face. i miss waking up and getting ready at his place and having him drive me to work. i even miss watching him paly his videogames in the am
Author someguyonthenet Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 I see we all have the same deal. I believe because of this people tend to hide their feelings in future relations!. Which i do not want to, but can understand as to why. I find it very enlightening and yet sad at some level, that all the stories everyone shares i have nearly an identical story. I do still feel, i wont lie, but i do also know that I must save these feelings i have for someone truly valuable( almost like saving credits to use later). As much as I wanna believe this person was the one, reality will like to correct me that she is not!. Regardless of me knowing any of u in real life, ur S.O. wasnt the one either! p.s. squirtle - my ex-gf used to name her car doll that. and ur story seems nearly the same as mine. I must admit, you sound like a lovely girl, dont allow a heartbreak to change u forever
countingstarsagain Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 For some reason, the mornings are hard for me as well. During the day, I try to keep myself occupied, even if it's just watching tv. When I wake up, I think it's the only time of day my mind is clear, and thoughts of my ex soon pop up. He use to call me every morning because we had to wake up at the same time just to say he loved me and to wish me a nice day. I feel your pain All you can do is trying to get out of bed as soon as you wake up and start getting ready for your day. Listen to upbeat music while you're getting ready, and try to keep your mind as occupied as you can throughout the day. Good luck!!
HeavenOrHell Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 I usually hate waking up now cos it's back to harsh reality after sleep, I quite often have bad or sad dreams about him though so it feels like there's no escape from the pain. I find evenings and going to bed the worst, I feel at my most alone then.
teanoranges Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 you know, at first nights were hard for me when I still had a lot of hope. I couldnt sleep, kept thinking of him next to her. Now, mornings are tough. I end up sleeping great but right before waking up I end up having him in a dream which makes him the first thing I think of when I wake up which leads to thoughts of how well he's getting along with his new girl. Of course I snap out of it by the time noon rolls around, if not before... and once I start my early morning hours at my job, I'm sure it'll fade fast with being sooo tired. I wonder how long these dreams will last?
name witheld Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 I had a horrible dream last week. Nightmare even. So bad it woke me up in the middle of the night. Dreamt that she had found somebody new, was telling me all about it and that they were getting married next month! Can tell you it wasn't just the morning that was tough that day!
EskimoPassingBy Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Yup mornings do suck. When she used to txt me every morning, sometimes I feel annoyed. But now that we broke up, I check my phone for her messages every morning.
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