Paintball - shower - dinner...

[Lakeside_runner]

Hey guys, I need some ideas here...

 

I'm supposed to go on a date this Saturday. I taking out a girl to a paintball field (we both are adrenaline junkies so both of us are excited about this!). We'll meet around 2PM - drive to the park, play couple of games and we'll finish around 6PM... Then I was thinking of taking her out for dinner. Here comes the catch: after playing 3 hours of paintball you probably wanna shower before you go out to dinner, right? This will be our 4th date (counting coffee and lunch as dates). In terms of real/dinner dates - 2nd date. Options:

 

a) I suggest that she can take a shower at my place and we'll go to dinner afterwards.

 

b) I ask her if it'd be okay for me to take a shower at her place and we go to dinner.

 

c) We both have access to showers at the U's RecCenter - kind of neutral ground.

 

d) Not shower at all and do a low key dinner, like burgers and beer in a nice grill bar...

 

Options b) and c) seem weird... Option a) is kind of creepy too. d) is kind of okay but I'd really love take her out to some nice place

 

Any ideas? I know it's but I'm in a pickle here...

[canadaguy98]

find a paintball facility with showers. some of them have them if they are indoor facilities.

 

otherwise screw the shower and go out for drinks afterwards.

 

I play a lot of paintball, the shower thing is all good but sometimes a drink right after is really nice to share battle stories.

[Art_Critic]

C).

 

 

By the way.. if you are planning on getting laid anytime soon with this girl then don't kill her in paintball..

While she may be an adrenaline junkie you need to realize that what drives you is testosterone and she doesn't have that same drive and if you go all guy on her and start shotting her then she won't be down for that..

You can't just lay down and let her win either.. but just don't take her out with a Rambo style..

 

Trust me.. showing a woman your aggressive side this early in dating isn't the smartest of moves..

[dreamergrl]

C).

 

 

By the way.. if you are planning on getting laid anytime soon with this girl then don't kill her in paintball..

While she may be an adrenaline junkie you need to realize that what drives you is testosterone and she doesn't have that same drive and if you go all guy on her and start shotting her then she won't be down for that..

You can't just lay down and let her win either.. but just don't take her out with a Rambo style..

 

Trust me.. showing a woman your aggressive side this early in dating isn't the smartest of moves..

 

I just felt the need to start sing Eye Of The Tiger, even though I realize it's the wrong movie.

 

Any but ways..

If you haven't been to one another's house yet, go with C. No one wants to spend the rest of the night stinking.

[crazy_grl]

I usually go with option d after paintball, but going out someplace nice would be good too. Some people don't like to go out to eat *anywhere* when they're dirty and would prefer a shower even before a burger. I think you should ask her whether she'd rather shower and go somewhere nice afterward or somewhere low key without showering. Explain the delima but DON'T include your concern about WHERE to shower in the conversation.

 

If she chooses to go somewhere nice, shower at either your place or the rec center, whichever is closest to the paintball field or the restaurant. I don't think either of those options is weird. It's not like you're asking her to shower with you. If she chooses to take a shower and go somewhere nice, she probably won't mind either option. Though if she wants to shower and she seems overly concerned about where you would do so, just go with the neutral ground.

 

By giving her the choice, if she would be uncomfortable with the whole shower thing, you give her an out by letting her pick no shower and low key.

 

If she says you should pick, she's probably comfortable with either nice or low key, and I'd opt for nice. It's a nice gesture and that's what you'd prefer to do anyway.

[Lakeside_runner]

Yup - c) seems to be the best option... even if it's not 'really' close to anyones house/apartment and except to take a shower we've no business being on campus that day... - sounds weird but reasonable, right? I don't want to have my evening ruined by wondering if I stink and I bet she doesn't as well...

[sunrae]

C) Sounds like the best option...

 

Have fun, sounds like it should be!!

[DustySaltus]

C).

 

 

By the way.. if you are planning on getting laid anytime soon with this girl then don't kill her in paintball..

While she may be an adrenaline junkie you need to realize that what drives you is testosterone and she doesn't have that same drive and if you go all guy on her and start shotting her then she won't be down for that..

You can't just lay down and let her win either.. but just don't take her out with a Rambo style..

 

Trust me.. showing a woman your aggressive side this early in dating isn't the smartest of moves..

 

+1. © And don't be like me a few years back when I was shooting pool and actually lost the first game and proceeded to go "color of money" on her and win 12 games in a row. Testosterone gets the best of us sometimes.

[Trimmer]

Hmmm - how far are each of your places from paintball or dinner? How about you each go home and shower, and then you pick her up from her place at the appointed time?

 

I do realize the benefit of "staying together" to try to extend the afternoon, but if your homes are not too far away from either paintball or dinner, then going to the rec center may seem like you're stretching a bit to "stay nearby" for the showers... Not that it's an unpleasant thought...

[canadaguy98]

Paintball is a great date... Although fretting about the shower thing I think you are off track. Paintballing is a great first date because it gets the blood moving, adrenaline pumping, and gives you a LOT to talk about which is an awesome ice breaker.

 

However fretting about the shower I think isnt a good idea. I play paintball all the time and you dont get THAT messy, unless you absolutely suck and take a lot of shots to the head where the paint gets in your hair and on your face through the holes in the mask.

 

Why not just encourage her to bring a full change of clothes? You can then get changed right in any washroom, like the one in a pub. With a new pair of shoes and socks, pants and another shirt you should be fine, unless you figure you're going to be spending a chunk of the evening licking eachother's bodies and you're afraid of the salty taste of sweat... In which case, she'll probably be inviting you over to her house to have a shower WITH her and the entire point is moot.

 

And yea.. Make sure you're ON HER TEAM. Show her your protective man tough guy side. Dont play on the opposing team and light her up because .. yeah you're not going to get any action that way.

 

Here's a question for you... Do you have your own paintball guns? Because if you want to show her a great time in paintball getting the crappy $80 rental marker isnt the way to do it. If you have buddies into paintball borrow some full automatic kit.

 

There's no way to have a great date like outgunning everyone on the field making them all run for their very lives, because while they're shootin gravity fed hoppers on semi auto junk guns that jam, your lighting them up at 30 balls per second laying ropes of fire; and everyone on the field is saying "wow I'm glad that those guys are on OUR team"

 

Lol just a few pointers. I run a national scenario paintball club so yeah paintball is right up my alley

[Lovegod]

if you are planning on getting laid anytime soon with this girl then don't kill her in paintball..

 

WTF? Who cares? Thats like me making sure I get nothing but gutter balls so she can stand a chance at bowling.

 

The point is to take her out and do something fun.

 

Lakeside, I think you may be biting off more than you can chew with this date. Take her to paintball, and then head your seperate ways for the evening. Make plans with her a couple days later to meet up with her again. Keeping things simple will make it less stressful for the both of you.

[crazy_grl]

However fretting about the shower I think isnt a good idea. I play paintball all the time and you dont get THAT messy, unless you absolutely suck and take a lot of shots to the head where the paint gets in your hair and on your face through the holes in the mask.

 

As a female, I wouldn't want to go out to a nice restaurant without showering after paintball. I'd go to a brewery or a pizza place, but I wouldn't want to go some place nice with my hair looking all cr*ppy and no makeup.

 

And yea.. Make sure you're ON HER TEAM.

 

I agree.

 

Are you playing with a private group or as walk-ons? Has she played before? I ask because if she's never played before, it's probably a bad idea to take her as a walk-on. (Of course, I think it's a bad idea to play as a walk-in in general. People you don't know can be jerks.)

[Lakeside_runner]

Update:

 

I called the facility today and asked if they had showers or not. Well, they don't which I expected so I texted her today keeping the message kind of in a military lingo with the whole plan i.e. letting her know that there're no showers and that I suggest making a quick stop at the rec center to freshen up and go out to dinner. I said that she should feel free to make adjustments to this plan. The response was quite positive We're going with option c).

 

Neither of us has played paintball before... it's a walk-on game. Either it's gonna be awesome or it's gonna suck but... 'sometimes you gotta risk it to get the biscuit, right? I'm not worried about other players... As far as I can tell we just both are looking forward to spend some time outdoors...

 

I guess the shower was kind of more for the sake of being comfortable for the rest of the evening...

 

Teams... on one hand I think it'd be nice to be on the same team on the other hand I think it'd be fun to chase each other... Who knows - maybe I'll take a bullet/ball for her

[crazy_grl]

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Neither of us has played paintball before... it's a walk-on game. Either it's gonna be awesome or it's gonna suck but... 'sometimes you gotta risk it to get the biscuit, right? I'm not worried about other players... As far as I can tell we just both are looking forward to spend some time outdoors...

 

I've never played walk-on before, but the friends I play with tell me it's not as fun as a private group. Other players cheat and don't care if they hurt you or not. I believe that, because we played us against another private group once and they turned up the speed on their markers so that the balls hit harder and hurt more. Their hits left much larger bruises than normal from greater distances.

 

Not trying to scare you or say you shouldn't go. Just letting you know what to be prepared for.

 

Teams... on one hand I think it'd be nice to be on the same team on the other hand I think it'd be fun to chase each other... Who knows - maybe I'll take a bullet/ball for her

 

It's not fun to be on opposite teams.

 

Not sure where you're playing, but every place I've been to here in socal has a TON on walk-on players. Like 50-100 in the same game. With those other people shooting at you both, you more than likely won't even see each other. You won't be chasing each other around. I've played more than a few times, and I only ever see my friends who are on the other team at the end of the rounds. You'll spend most of your time hiding behind barriers to avoiding getting shot.

 

It's fun to work together to advance on the other team *and* you have the opportunity to get up close to her when you're behind the same cover and trying to shoot the enemy. Without having played before, you might not understand what I mean by that, but trust me, you'll have more fun playing on the same team.

Edited November 6, 2009 by crazy_grl

[Lakeside_runner]

Same team it is then - I'm fully convinced