needesteem Posted December 8, 2003 Posted December 8, 2003 How do I say I want to get engaged for my Christmas present? Any cute subtle suggestions? I'm not going to actually say 'an engagement ring". What about "I would like to take our relationship to the nest level." We are a couple, and he asked me a few months ago "we haven't known each other long enough to get married-so what's next?" That's really all I want.
HokeyReligions Posted December 9, 2003 Posted December 9, 2003 Originally posted by needesteem How do I say I want to get engaged for my Christmas present? Any cute subtle suggestions? I'm not going to actually say 'an engagement ring". What about "I would like to take our relationship to the nest level." We are a couple, and he asked me a few months ago "we haven't known each other long enough to get married-so what's next?" That's really all I want. Was that a freudian slip? "nest" instead of next? Your idea about the 'next level' sounds fine - but how are you going to answer him if he asks you what your idea of the 'next level' is? You could give him a promise ring for Christmas - a promise that you are committed to him right now and that you hope to move forward together and eventually get engaged, then married. But its only a promise and you are not pushing him into anything.
Author needesteem Posted December 11, 2003 Author Posted December 11, 2003 Yes I caught that "slip" (ha-ha) but couldn't retrieve the message to correct it. It's neXt level. He already has asked me "what's next" after we got to the third month-and I didn't know what to say or answer (verbally) I got kinda scared. I just said (after some silence) that I hope this [relationship] is "going somewhere". I haven't asked him what he wants yet. Scared to because I would like for him to ask for something like I want (in my head and heart) rather than a regular present. What kind of a ring is a promise ring for a man? Thank you
My2Cents Posted December 11, 2003 Posted December 11, 2003 Next time he asked what you want for X-mas say "you"....."To know that you'll always be by my side" Something like that should give him a hint, it's subtle and romantic. Promise ring for a man...hhhmmm well these days a promise ring for a girl is a reg. diomand ring so I guess it could be anything, just have him wear it on the other hand.
Arabess Posted December 11, 2003 Posted December 11, 2003 I liked the "nest level"....haha! It kind of depends on how long you have known each other, have been dating or have been serious. There is a time when it's appropriate to hint, ask him or just wait. It depends on the dynamics of the relationship. Chances are, if he feels the same way you do, he'll come up with the idea all by himself. If he is not ready yet, then it could be a scary thing if you started hinting too much.
Author needesteem Posted December 11, 2003 Author Posted December 11, 2003 Must have been a "slip" because he has said for me to be there before he comes home and get the nest warmed up He says a lot of "slips" like in two years we'll be married or something by then, how 'he sees a gold ring on my finger he sees it coming' (last week) just a LOT of things pop out like that and I don't say anything. Then he makes comments about things that "husband and wife" (only) do, and then he does some of these things around me or with me. Like he will make a comment on how that's something a husband and wife does or says, not a boyfriend and girlfriend and then next thing he doing that same thing. Go figure. I am quiet about it because I don't want to seem "grabby". He asks help in planning suppers, grocery lists, heck, actually he treats me as his wife come to think of his actions. he seems upset if I don't make it there (I almost said "home") for supper that I have things to do. I like his kids and feel close to the oldest one we are talking more like "girl talk" and it's really cool! Mine are 18 and up.
mintjulep Posted December 12, 2003 Posted December 12, 2003 If you think he's ready to propose, then why don't you get some trustworthy friends to do some snooping/spying/suggesting for you? If he is ready, a subtle suggestion from someone else might do the trick, but if he's really just not quite ready, then you save face, too. If it is too soon for him, you can hint throughout 2004 that a beautiful way to be proposed to would be for Christmas...Unless he's uber dense, he'll pick up on it eventually
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